Not if being yourself means tuenig into a psychotic killer, than being yourself would be the worst advice. I am myself, but mostly because I don't care what others think about me if I dont know them. All in all, I believe there is a time and place.
Poll: Be yourself: bad advice?
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"Be yourself, provided your self is not a complete Ass-Clown, otherwise moderate towards the modal behaviour" is probably better advice, but less likely to sell motivational tchotchkes...
'Be yourself' is usually advice given to you by someone who already knows enough of your details and faults that they feel the good outweigh the bad. What they are really saying is be the 'best you'. There's good and bad in everybody and upon meeting new people we should all try to focus on the good. The bad will make its self known soon enough. Being yourself is certainly not marching up to someone and telling them everything you think is wrong with yourself and then complaining that you were just being yourself. You were only being the worst parts of yourself. I don't feel this makes you any less of an individual. Personally, I'm a cruel and condescending manipulator but I'm also very well spoken and polite. See- I'm being myself but in a nice way.
I say be yourself in as uncompromising a way as possible. The people who like me think I'm the shit, and I have no interest in the people who aren't interested in me. If it ends with an angry mob at your front door, then it's probably for the best, anyways.
depends, are you an assh*le? then prolly best not to be yourself. But then ultimately, youre lying to everyone who may meet you and all that so i guess, its not really good advice NOT to be yourself too... hmmmm....
To quote the great philosophers, Pantera: "Be yourself, by yourself, away from me"
Being yourself can really irritate some people, so I find it best to live by this philosophy. I don't believe anyone can truly be themselves in the company of others anyway, so yes it's bad advice.
Being yourself can really irritate some people, so I find it best to live by this philosophy. I don't believe anyone can truly be themselves in the company of others anyway, so yes it's bad advice.
If there is something one does not like about them self, they should be welcome to change it. I see that sort of thing on children's shows all the time and it happens while someone is trying something new, which is far from a bad thing regardless if it doesn't work out.
People hate phonies, even if you cant think they can tell trust me they can.
But in saying that if your a generally unpleasant person then hiding and controlling that is best- just work at changing/ improving yourself.
EDIT= Also, secondary school is the worst time for "individuals", once you leave it all gets rapidly better.
But in saying that if your a generally unpleasant person then hiding and controlling that is best- just work at changing/ improving yourself.
EDIT= Also, secondary school is the worst time for "individuals", once you leave it all gets rapidly better.
Pretty much this. Everyone has quirky behaviors that others see as strange or completely bizarre, so toning down those things will give you a better chance at finding people who don't mind or actually enjoy whatever it is that sets you apart. Once you've found people who accept the quirks, assuming it isn't something that could get you arrested, then it's fine to loosen up more until you really can be yourself.Benny Blanco said:
I say be yourself just as long as it doesn't infringe on someones rights, however, don't be too surprised if they get annoyed at you for being yourself. (But there is a difference between someone ignoring you because they find you annoying and someone making fun of you for being yourself) Also, if you make a friend while being yourself than that person is probably a better friend than those who befriend you for conforming to their standards because a true friend will like you for who you really are.
Overall, it's good advice. Personally I hate my ego but sometimes I need it to keep myself from annoying other people.
Overall, it's good advice. Personally I hate my ego but sometimes I need it to keep myself from annoying other people.
Why is being yourself bad advice just because it gets you into trouble?
You can still get in trouble when not being yourself
Would you rather be yourself and get into trouble (You know, aslong as your life isn't at stake or something)or not be yourself and be ok?
Why bother doing anything if you're not yourself when you do it?
You can still get in trouble when not being yourself
Would you rather be yourself and get into trouble (You know, aslong as your life isn't at stake or something)or not be yourself and be ok?
Why bother doing anything if you're not yourself when you do it?
some people yes they definatly should, however my best friend.... well its the worst advice to give him for a date
I think the whole point of "be yourself", when it comes to attracting women etc, is that, even if you pretending to be someone else works.. then you have the girl, but do you keep pretending to be this other person? its more effort than its worth.. and almost impossible, they will see through you eventually
Basically when wooing the opposite sex, no one is 100% "themselves"- you present an idealised version of yourself that doesnt compromise your core values.. then, as the relationship progresses, eventually the flaws show up...
If you stick with a person despite knowing most of their flaws, you might just be in love baby
Basically when wooing the opposite sex, no one is 100% "themselves"- you present an idealised version of yourself that doesnt compromise your core values.. then, as the relationship progresses, eventually the flaws show up...
If you stick with a person despite knowing most of their flaws, you might just be in love baby
While OP has a good point about safety, I think that as long as you are certain ppl will simply be surprised/put off/offended, without resorting to violence (Verbal abuse is no fun, but you can learn to handle it, even to turn it against them), then "be yourself" is the best way to make sure that the world changes as quickly as possible. If more ppl have to deal with people who are different from their view gow how pppl "should" be, the faster it becomes normal.
I cant remember where it came from, but i think the quote:
"why fight to be accepted by people you dont actually want to be like?"
is quite apt
"why fight to be accepted by people you dont actually want to be like?"
is quite apt