Poll: Be yourself: bad advice?
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Well. You can try being something or someone else but eventually you'll be found out, the real you will be revealed and things will go south. Afterall when you are looking for someone who is the right one for YOU. You are looking for someone who will enjoy being with YOU. Of course you will encounter people that you are interested in but aren't interested in you but chances are you will come accross someone who is interested in YOU. And if you just happened to try being someone else entirely to her... Well you just blew it.
Of course you don't go telling everything about yourself right off the bat. Be open about things that you are comfortable about and slowly start opening up for each other more. It is surprising how insignificant and not so scary or embarrassing some things become once you are able to talk about them with someone you like. As long as you don't overwhelm him/her. That's still on topic I believe but I think I got my point through.
Of course you don't go telling everything about yourself right off the bat. Be open about things that you are comfortable about and slowly start opening up for each other more. It is surprising how insignificant and not so scary or embarrassing some things become once you are able to talk about them with someone you like. As long as you don't overwhelm him/her. That's still on topic I believe but I think I got my point through.
You should always be yourself 100% of the time. Whether or not it's good for you or will get you anywhere doesn't matter.
Oh yeah I read a thing on Cracked about this.
Well, it seems like its good to be different, but still adhere to social standards, you know.
Well, it seems like its good to be different, but still adhere to social standards, you know.
I say be yourself. Not everyone will accept you for who you are, but that's fine. Your personality is basically a filter. By being yourself, you'll attract people that are truly compatible with you, and repel people who aren't. A few strong relationships are a lot nicer than loads of superficial relationships based on a lie.
Well, I have a puzzler for you then. If not you to be, then who be ye?Doclector said:I've been wondering, isn't "be yourself" the worst piece of advice ever? I'd love to believe the world is sunshine and rainbows, and that people will accept or at least tolerate the person you really are, but that's simply not true. People have been put through hell for being themselves, people have even been killed for following this advice. I tried "being myself" all through school, it only got me extra beatings. This is an intolerant, anti-individualist society, and that needs to change, but it ain't gonna change for a while yet, and so people who are different from the societal norm perhaps should keep their heads low around people they don't know and don't trust. When you are alone, or around a group of people you know and trust, then's the time for "yourself", but if you expect safety, it may be best to keep that hidden in public.
TLR (seriously? It's one paragraph. Damn "too lazy didn't read"...): I feel "be yourself" is dangerous advice. What do you think?
DISCLAIMER: I am not against self expression, but whilst people should be able to be themselves, too often it isn't safe to be. At least, in my opinion.
It depends. If I'm in a business meeting with a client, I'm not going to be my usual crass sailor-mouth self. I will be funny and personable, but I will be more reserved. If it's a team meeting with my crew I let loose and let it fly. Generally, the core of your personality needs to stay intact no matter what the situation.
My policy is to be honest with yourself, and try to be the person you want to be. I understand that most of the time people are not who they want to be, but by striving to be that person they may be one day.
As for getting into trouble because you tried to be yourself, then use your intelligence and strength to not get into trouble. It takes someone strong to be themselves.
As for getting into trouble because you tried to be yourself, then use your intelligence and strength to not get into trouble. It takes someone strong to be themselves.
I think it should be, "be comfortable with yourself"
If you are an awkward person because you aren't comfortable with yourself, high school kids will sniff that out of you in a second.
If being yourself involves you doing something socially unacceptable, like liking child porn, than you should probably do your best to fix that.
If you are an awkward person because you aren't comfortable with yourself, high school kids will sniff that out of you in a second.
If being yourself involves you doing something socially unacceptable, like liking child porn, than you should probably do your best to fix that.
Be yourself and solve your problems, if people can't accept you for who you are and you can't solve your problems then it probably wasn't meant to be.
Only sometimes...... Sometimes the things you do normally are not the best idea for a situation at hand. Like I enjoy singing lyrics that relate to the situation at hand (one of my annoying traits).... But doing that in a English class does not help you at all.
From what I understand of the phrase, 'Be yourself' has been corrupted by misunderstanding.Doclector said:
If someone is sitting at home, doing nothing but eating pizza and watching TV, all unemployed and riddled with depression and hatred, that is not them being themselves.
'Be yourself' is not literally keep doing what you're doing, it means to let the best of yourself shine.
Everybody has the ability to be great and do great things, that is who we are, however, most of us haven't realised who we are or what we want to do with our lives.
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I would also like to make a mention to everyone out there who has been bullied for who they are. I respect every one of you who stands up to those who shun you and says "I don't care what you think because this is me, deal with it".
Everyone who takes a beating for who they are, and carries on being who they are, those are the people paving the way to a future where people aren't segregated for being 'different'.
If nobody ever stood up for anything, nothing would change, so nothing could ever get better.
They say time if the best medicine, well time can't overcome every obstacle on its own =)
Yeah, and yet...AC10 said:
No man is an island.
-John Donne
That's where the difficulty lies...the part and its relation to the whole (aggregated parts). Few people are complete hermits or total Labradors out to please everybody. Complete loneliness can be maddening, same for catering to the whims of others.
Why pretend to be someone else and fit in when all you're really doing is hammering a square block into a round hole. It's an effort in futility and self-repression and as guilty of such as I am from time to time I'm still against hiding your own personality. Every opportunity you get should be one to wear your heart on your sleeve, otherwise we build walls and false idealisations of how everyone really acts, but really none of us know how we really feel.