Poll: Being 'Whipped.'

[AngloDoom]

If you let your partner make the decisions on where to go out for a meal, but one day you found a place you really wanted to go to only to have it immediately disregarded by your partner, I'm sure you'd feel a tad miffed.

No, they'd be the ones who'd end up feeling miffed as I'd go where I wanted and they could either come along, go where they wanted or stay at home and have a sandwich.

I'm not sure you quite fit the criteria for the 'whipped' individual I was talking about. Doing something because you want to and expecting the other person to either go along with it or do their own thing is very much the opposite.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

I've been with the same guy for a very long time. There are abusive relationships and there are consensual relationships, and both of these take many forms. In any event, the idea of calling someone "whipped" seems absurd and childish.

Why exactly?

It's just a colloquial term for something that has been plainly observable to a hell of a lot of people.

 

[Yopaz]

Reading the rest of your posts, it seems I don't know what being whipped means.

I thought it meant being able to get your SO to do things for you, that you were completely capable of doing yourself, but for one reason or another, didn't. Apparently it means not being able to spend any time apart?

If the latter is the case, then I'll have to revise my previous post. Neither of us are whipped.

The way I see it being whipped means you're the submissive half of a relationship and unable to decide what you want to do. I guess those who can't bear being apart are commonly viewed as whipped since it makes it seem as if they have to be together to know what to say, think or do. However I agree with your definition.

OT: I like being an individual. I'm not a couple, I am not defined by my partner and my partner shouldn't be defined by me. We're two people who happen to be together for whatever reason that might be. I guess this is why I am going to die alone.

 

[FamoFunk]

The thought or either being "whipped" or being the one who whips makes me shudder.

I would never let someone have that control over me, and I would never try to control someone in that way. I've been with my partner for 5 years, we don't whip each other, we'd of been over a long time ago. We do what we what with whoever when we want and obviously make time for us too.

I think a lot of whipping is emotional black-mail and dominance. Not great for a relationship.

 

[Dusty Donuts]

I've been whipped before.

Never again.

I didn't even need to be whipped to know that I really never want it to happen.
Not that I'll realize at the time. It'll probably just all be "Huh...other friends?" and THEN you realize you're whipped after you're standing at the altar.

Is it weird that i kinda(badly) want to be?

You might have a poor idea of "whipped" actually means. It basically boils down to abandoning your old friends for the girlfriend, as far as I've seen from the way it's used.

I was in denial at the time >.>

Yeah, that's what it all comes down to in the end. What with all the risks and heartache and all that kind of stuff.
Plus, self-admitted, you probably wouldn't want to acknowledge it at the time. Sometimes you have to drop the pan and lose your scrambled eggs rather than let your hand burn.

Not that I'll realize at the time.

...But you probably spent a lot of time making getting those eggs, and cooking them, and they'd make such a mess on the floor...

 

[Angie7F]

I dont think I care.
I never really had close friends, so I did not change my ways for this relationship.
Howvever, I also do not mind my bf having tons of friends too so i let him be.
but somehow he seems to prefer to hang out with me and my dog more.