Wow is this mostly like an American thing? I'm from Toronto and the majority of people in their 20's are dating or have dated someone outside of their race. I'm Black and my fiancee is Vietnamese but I have dated Black girls, white girls and other Asian girls and i'm not in the minority for that. It just seems strange that people knowingly restrict themselves to seeing people of their own race
Poll: Dating inside or outside your Ethnicity/Race?
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I really couldn't care less what ethnicity / race / whatever they are, as long as I find them attractive.
I'm not attracted to all ethnicities, however, but I've dated several white girls, one..uh... "mixed black / white" (forgive my lacking vocabulary, no idea what word to use in English) and one asian girl. I didn't vote, because there is no option along the lines of "I have no preference".
White male by the way, in case you're wondering.
I'm not attracted to all ethnicities, however, but I've dated several white girls, one..uh... "mixed black / white" (forgive my lacking vocabulary, no idea what word to use in English) and one asian girl. I didn't vote, because there is no option along the lines of "I have no preference".
White male by the way, in case you're wondering.
I had the strangest accusation of racism over this once, but guess I should tell the story...
Was in the pub with a few mates chatting away and the topic came up of people you find attractive, as the conversation rolled on I mentioned having a weak spot for black girls, even more than white girls, something about their skin I find makes them so beautiful... and yes I do realize how creepy that sounds, its hard to put it any way without it sounding creepy.
Anyway as I told this to my friends this black guy wandered over to our table and starting going off on one. Calling me a racist, to stick to my own race, that I'm a bigot and the only reason I'm attracted to black girls is some lingering racist sentiment and wanting to "dominate" another race like my ancestors apparent did during the slavery era.
Confused the hell out of me, how on earth does finding black women attractive as a white man and wanting, if the opportunity arose, to be in a consensual relationship make me racist just because I'm white, still baffles me to this day!
Still I guess that answers your question too, I have nothing against dating outside of my own ethnicity/race, would prefer it in my case given my preferences. Love is love and people are attracted to who they are attracted to.
Was in the pub with a few mates chatting away and the topic came up of people you find attractive, as the conversation rolled on I mentioned having a weak spot for black girls, even more than white girls, something about their skin I find makes them so beautiful... and yes I do realize how creepy that sounds, its hard to put it any way without it sounding creepy.
Anyway as I told this to my friends this black guy wandered over to our table and starting going off on one. Calling me a racist, to stick to my own race, that I'm a bigot and the only reason I'm attracted to black girls is some lingering racist sentiment and wanting to "dominate" another race like my ancestors apparent did during the slavery era.
Confused the hell out of me, how on earth does finding black women attractive as a white man and wanting, if the opportunity arose, to be in a consensual relationship make me racist just because I'm white, still baffles me to this day!
Still I guess that answers your question too, I have nothing against dating outside of my own ethnicity/race, would prefer it in my case given my preferences. Love is love and people are attracted to who they are attracted to.
Sure it does, like I said if you want to make it more complicated think of a bunch of guys and take the highest common denominator.Colour-Scientist said:
I'm from Ontario so no.clipse15 said:
And the trend continues..... poor black girls.Rocklobster99 said:
You were implying that girls weren't voting because they have no preference, but guys were. Which gave the impression that you were suggesting girls were above all that.game-lover said:
Shemar Moore is half white.game-lover said:
My boyfriend is a gloriously blonde-haired, blue-eyed Irish/German man and I am also (mostly) white. Does that answer this particular heavily stigmatized question?
Geez, I re-wrote my response three times because I was afraid of sounding racist. Not sure if there's something wrong with me here, society or both.
Geez, I re-wrote my response three times because I was afraid of sounding racist. Not sure if there's something wrong with me here, society or both.
im the kind of guy that will do anything with a heart beat at least once... however despite of my man-whporing ways i must admit i have a penchant for far-oriental women, probably due to cultural admiration, unfortunately they are not very prevalent where i live.
so it goes without saying that my dating history primarily has involved lovely white women, sure its not exotic but vanilla is good. in regards to stable relationships my girlfriend and my ex's have also lacked sufficient pigmentation to be considered "outlandish".
beauty has many variations in my perception, in fact the few times i have had the opportunity to be with non caucasian women my interest was even greater. however if i were to discriminate on physical appearance it would be in regards to breasts.... yes i am rather fond of large mammary glands, so much so that i am something of a breast-man. Even though i wont lie, when a round thing on an ity bity waist comes at my face... i do indeed get sprung.
basically i dont care what colour the woman has, green, blue or red as long as she is "fine" and comes in peace i am game
so it goes without saying that my dating history primarily has involved lovely white women, sure its not exotic but vanilla is good. in regards to stable relationships my girlfriend and my ex's have also lacked sufficient pigmentation to be considered "outlandish".
beauty has many variations in my perception, in fact the few times i have had the opportunity to be with non caucasian women my interest was even greater. however if i were to discriminate on physical appearance it would be in regards to breasts.... yes i am rather fond of large mammary glands, so much so that i am something of a breast-man. Even though i wont lie, when a round thing on an ity bity waist comes at my face... i do indeed get sprung.
basically i dont care what colour the woman has, green, blue or red as long as she is "fine" and comes in peace i am game
If I were to design "the perfect woman" she would be white like me. Just my natural preference.
That being said, I'd consider any female in my age bracket whose personality struck sparks of compatibility when rubbed against mine. Melanin concentration is something we don't choose for ourselves, it's a dumb thing to get hung up on. We're all red on the inside.
That being said, I'd consider any female in my age bracket whose personality struck sparks of compatibility when rubbed against mine. Melanin concentration is something we don't choose for ourselves, it's a dumb thing to get hung up on. We're all red on the inside.
I dont care about ethnicity at all, but what I do think might actually make a long-term relationship MUCH easier is sharing a common cultural background. If you both grew up in the same country, or at least the same part of the world culturally. For example a Brit and a German may atleast have quite alot common as Europeans while an Asian would be completely different.
Being able to talk about the same things experienced since childhood and sharing the same kind of understanding about different topics really do help, at least from my experience. That being said, if you love the person enough and are compatible enough none of this matters, I just think it makes it easier.
Being able to talk about the same things experienced since childhood and sharing the same kind of understanding about different topics really do help, at least from my experience. That being said, if you love the person enough and are compatible enough none of this matters, I just think it makes it easier.
I honestly don't care. I've dated hispanic girls, italian girls, asians, white skin, dark skin so it really doesn't matter to me.
as a sort of "russian roulette" gun to my head moment, yeah i'd probably date inside my ethnicity/race. (probably 2/3rds of my girlfriends have been as such to reflect that)
but that wouldn't somehow stop me from dating another race/ethnicity, obviously on some level i have to find them physically attractive, otherwise nothing will fruit beyond friendship (sorry to say, them the facts down there).
the only "race" (and i use that roughly) i haven't full on dated is a 100% black girl, and that is because i just haven't found one that was compatible. otherwise i've dabbled in a bit of this and that in mixes, not that it was intentional by any means, and they all were very nice girls for the most part.
(one trend i noticed was, my 3 mexican girlfriends all loved to bite..alot. sweet jesus it'd cross the line sometimes.)
but that wouldn't somehow stop me from dating another race/ethnicity, obviously on some level i have to find them physically attractive, otherwise nothing will fruit beyond friendship (sorry to say, them the facts down there).
the only "race" (and i use that roughly) i haven't full on dated is a 100% black girl, and that is because i just haven't found one that was compatible. otherwise i've dabbled in a bit of this and that in mixes, not that it was intentional by any means, and they all were very nice girls for the most part.
(one trend i noticed was, my 3 mexican girlfriends all loved to bite..alot. sweet jesus it'd cross the line sometimes.)
Sort of a mixed bag.
Basic info: White male, 23
Likes: White, Asian (all types, i know there is japanese, thai, ect ect)
Dislikes: Black, latinos, indian, arab
Now this is merely about sexual attraction, i got no problem being friend with a black person or anything.
Basic info: White male, 23
Likes: White, Asian (all types, i know there is japanese, thai, ect ect)
Dislikes: Black, latinos, indian, arab
Now this is merely about sexual attraction, i got no problem being friend with a black person or anything.
The OP has a different view on what race is compared to me. I go with race being biological.
I'm racially aware and have read literature that explains the differences and achievements of the different races, thus I cannot date or have a relationship with a non-white (I'm an ethnic Swede). It's also natural to be with your own kind.
I'm racially aware and have read literature that explains the differences and achievements of the different races, thus I cannot date or have a relationship with a non-white (I'm an ethnic Swede). It's also natural to be with your own kind.
Ethnicity has absolutely zero impact on whether I'd date someone or not. Personality is the most important thing to me by far. I can understand why someone would rather date within their own ethnicity, but personally it doesn't bother me at all dating outside it, in truth I actually quite like the idea (although again, personality is 100% of the deal, not ethnicity).
I've mostly dated white girls, although that'll be because I seem to get introduced to far more white girls than anything, rather than preference. I've dated a black girl, a hispanic girl and an asian girl and ethnicity was never an issue, not even a tiny bit. Despite vastly different backgrounds and to an extent culture, I never really felt particularly alienated by it, it was just another subject of conversation and one that I found genuinely pretty interesting to discuss/learn from. Perhaps it's a silly notion, but it felt like our differences made us closer, because it made our similarities more blatant and the eagerness to learn and empathise with the other always won out. The hispanic girl especially had the most differences, being from a different country (or several in her case), a different lifestyle and upbringing, but I've never ever been so close to somebody as I was with her, even before love struck.
My family is pretty against the idea of dating outside of your ethnicity and while I have to respect their opinions, I can't respect the snarkiness and unpleasantry that seems to go hand-in-hand with that.
If I absolutely had to choose to date inside or outside, I'd go with outside, differences can be just as much of a boon in a relationship as similarities, in my opinion.
I've mostly dated white girls, although that'll be because I seem to get introduced to far more white girls than anything, rather than preference. I've dated a black girl, a hispanic girl and an asian girl and ethnicity was never an issue, not even a tiny bit. Despite vastly different backgrounds and to an extent culture, I never really felt particularly alienated by it, it was just another subject of conversation and one that I found genuinely pretty interesting to discuss/learn from. Perhaps it's a silly notion, but it felt like our differences made us closer, because it made our similarities more blatant and the eagerness to learn and empathise with the other always won out. The hispanic girl especially had the most differences, being from a different country (or several in her case), a different lifestyle and upbringing, but I've never ever been so close to somebody as I was with her, even before love struck.
My family is pretty against the idea of dating outside of your ethnicity and while I have to respect their opinions, I can't respect the snarkiness and unpleasantry that seems to go hand-in-hand with that.
If I absolutely had to choose to date inside or outside, I'd go with outside, differences can be just as much of a boon in a relationship as similarities, in my opinion.
Why isn't there a "It doesn't matter." option?
I've already admitted to myself, after a long time of overcoming social norms and expectations, that I'm attracted to not any gender in particular, male, female, both, male-to-female, female-to-male, it's all good to me, this wasn't too hard to admit to myself.
I've already admitted to myself, after a long time of overcoming social norms and expectations, that I'm attracted to not any gender in particular, male, female, both, male-to-female, female-to-male, it's all good to me, this wasn't too hard to admit to myself.