Poll: Dating?

[YouCallMeNighthawk]

(A woman who is almost old enough to be my mom does not interest me. Sorry mom.)

:O You don't like a bit of MILF?

OT: I never have to my girlfriend out to dinner or anything as she would rather stay in and get a takeaway and snuggle up on sofa watching a film, she doesn't like me spending too much money on her/

 

[Blackjack 222]

(A woman who is almost old enough to be my mom does not interest me. Sorry mom.)

:O You don't like a bit of MILF?

OT: I never have to my girlfriend out to dinner or anything as she would rather stay in and get a takeaway and snuggle up on sofa watching a film, she doesn't like me spending too much money on her/

Where did you find her, and anymore like her?

 

[TheYellowCellPhone]

I've never had a girlfriend and thus never went on a date.

Single and happy.

 

[searron]

I don't do "dates." On the off chance I do, I ussually offer to pay for the dinner, if the girl doesn't put up at least token resistance to my offer, I next her like that. If they do offer, I insist on paying, and let them know that they can cover the next activity/meal. Also, if they don't say thank you after I pay, they too, are nexted. I don't really have time, nor do I want to deal with bull shit.

Don't you love it when they act like you treated them like a child when you beat her to the check, Loved the look on my last girlfriends face whenever i got to it first she had this oddly cute yet clear that she was pissed look in her eyes

Yea, it is quite fantastic. I am personally prefer when the woman insists on paying, because than I can deliver my classic, "I'm not a peice of meat" speech. The look of bewilderment followed by, the gear turning, then seeing the "Hey, that's my line" though cross thier face is absolutely priceless.

EDIT
On a somehwat related note, about 90% of the time I don't go on a formal date, until we've become Oh, lets say, "intimate."

 

[Blackjack 222]

Yea, it is quite fantastic. I am personally prefer when the woman insists on paying, because than I can deliver my classic, "I'm not a peice of meat" speech. The look of bewilderment followed by, the gear turning, then seeing the "Hey, that's my line" though cross thier face is absolutely priceless.

EDIT
On a somehwat related note, about 90% of the time I don't go on a formal date, until we've become Oh, lets say, "intimate."

Oh man that's genius Remember my first girlfriend, she insisted I not hold doors open for her(dad found out he was not happy) and he ripped off the door handle to the passenger side of my truck so i HAD to open it for her, you should have seen the look on her face, 100% priceless. And yeah, formal date is what i describe "The one you propose on" or "Don't fuck this up"

 

[YouCallMeNighthawk]

(A woman who is almost old enough to be my mom does not interest me. Sorry mom.)

:O You don't like a bit of MILF?

OT: I never have to my girlfriend out to dinner or anything as she would rather stay in and get a takeaway and snuggle up on sofa watching a film, she doesn't like me spending too much money on her/

Where did you find her, and anymore like her?

Amazon lol

Buy one get one free, sold the other for profit HA!

 

[searron]

Oh man that's genius Remember my first girlfriend, she insisted I not hold doors open for her(dad found out he was not happy) and he ripped off the door handle to the passenger side of my truck so i HAD to open it for her, you should have seen the look on her face, 100% priceless

Oh, I know this is going to sound arrogent, but I am 100% convinced that I am the one that needs to be seduced not her. She want to sleep with me, and needs to convince me to do it. I'm convinced that I'm the one being chased. Best part about this mindset is the pygmillion effect.

 

[Blackjack 222]

Oh, I know this is going to sound arrogent, but I am 100% convinced that I am the one that needs to be seduced not her. She want to sleep with me, and needs to convince me to do it. I'm convinced that I'm the one being chased. Best part about this mindset is the pygmillion effect.

Not 100% arrogant, 90% maybe 60% at best; but you are right

 

[Volafortis]

Social dating, like just getting to know someone, in events as casual as hanging out at one of our houses is what I do. None of that formal "take you to an expensive restaurant" BS.

 

[googleit6]

The way I see it is that, going on a formal date is like a rite of passage. It helps your conversation skills -especially if the first bit is awkward- and you get to know the person on a more intimate level. Going out spices things up a bit, and makes things more fun.
You never mentioned anything about an "informal" date, so I'll go ahead and assume that an informal date is something that requires no money, like a walk in the park, or going to the beach. What's wrong with that? You still get to connect with someone, without having to pay for them.
In all honesty, though, if you're with someone who you really like, I think you should WANT to spend money on them- not feel obligated.
If I was with a guy I really liked, I would want to pay for him, just because that's a way of showing affection, and showing them that I like him. Hopefully, he wouldn't mind a girl paying for dinner.

 

[ClunkiestTurtle]

Personally i really enjoy dating but if your not really into romance then i guess it probably feels a bit pointless....

 

[searron]

Oh, I know this is going to sound arrogent, but I am 100% convinced that I am the one that needs to be seduced not her. She want to sleep with me, and needs to convince me to do it. I'm convinced that I'm the one being chased. Best part about this mindset is the pygmillion effect.

Not 100% arrogant, 90% maybe 60% at best; but you are right

Understand psycology is a wonderful thing. You can use learning for good or for awesome. I use it for awesome.

 

[Blackjack 222]

Understand psycology is a wonderful thing. You can use learning for good or for awesome. I use it for awesome.

Same, not really learning just random thoughts that might work(not the retarded ones)

 

[searron]

Understand psycology is a wonderful thing. You can use learning for good or for awesome. I use it for awesome.

Same, not really learning just random thoughts that might work(not the retarded ones)

The pygmillion effect is rather interesting acctually. It's bassicly that subconciously people act in ways that further reenforce thier beliefs. There were a bunch of studies done on it with teachers and students and what not. So, for example if the op thinks that all women are pampered, he'll act in ways that cause that reaction, which will reenforce his belief.

 

[Blackjack 222]

Understand psycology is a wonderful thing. You can use learning for good or for awesome. I use it for awesome.

Same, not really learning just random thoughts that might work(not the retarded ones)

The pygmillion effect is rather interesting acctually. It's bassicly that subconciously people act in ways that further reenforce thier beliefs. There were a bunch of studies done on it with teachers and students and what not. So, for example if the op thinks that all women are pampered, he'll act in ways that cause that reaction, which will reenforce his belief.

Oh...*opens new tab to Wikipedia* cool stuff

 

[searron]

Oh...*opens new tab to Wikipedia* cool stuff

Yea, it's acctually really interesting. What's also fun, is it's completely possible to pull off pavlovian conditioning on people with emotional responces. I did it to a friend of mine, so that she would feel experience the same feelings as having a crush when she heard me speak. It was fun because niether of us had any interest in the other. I just did it to her to prove it could be done, as she didn't belive me. I obviously didn't reenforce it so it wore off within a few days or so, but it was hilarious to watch her blush and giggle when ever I talked about anything.

 

[Krantos]

OP: Obviously the problem is in your perspective. Most people who date don't do so just to get in the other person's pants (though I'm sure there are people like that). Most people date because they honestly want to spend time with the other person.

Also in this day and age it's not uncommon to go Dutch (look it up if you honestly don't know).

And
" in possession of a "great personality" but horribly overweight "

yeah, I'm not even going to go there. I'm sure you'll be flamed enough as it is. All I'm saying is grow up a little and have a little respect for women.

 

[Kagim]

I've never understood the whole "dating" thing. That is, I've never understood why I should shell out a ton of my hard-earned cash to provide several meals for some spoiled/pampered female just for a "chance" of getting to dive into her nether regions.

That's not dating. That's trying to score. I consider them different things.

A date is essentially just going out spending one on one time with someone you have a romantic interest in. If you just want to fuck then that's all your going to be in a date. A meal ticket. If you find a girl you actually enjoy spending time with a) your date can take place in your home and your costs will be five bucks for popcorn and a rental b) Sex will be the furthest thing from your mind.

I know I know. I sound crazy right? One day you might understand though.

My dating method is rather unique - She has to buy everything. If she doesnt, she isnt willing to even try to do anything, so i dont bother with her. If she does, its a show of initiative at least. I dont provide anything monetarily until after at least the fifth time.

Its rather efficient actually.
It renders the female unable to exploit you in any level.
Incidentally i carry a constantly running voice recorder at all times.

What if her reason for not wanting to pay for everything the first five dates is because she doesn't want to be used herself?

Not trying To be a dick, serious question. I know guys who don't pay for anything to exploit the girl and leave once she is no longer willing to shell out. You could screw yourself out of a good relationship in your attempt to avoid being used because she thinks your using her.

Thats a very reasonable contradiction; My explanation is simply that its a two sided coin - Either the man or the woman has to pay for it, and it seems to be obligatory that the man does it as a way to prove something to the woman. But in doing so, he is serving her interests to great extent but his own very little, and since dates rarely get further than a few dinners or some othersuch, its wasteful on his part.

Incidentally this has only worked four times, and its perfectly reasonable for the other person to decline, but the way i see it is that besides tradition, theres no reason it has to be the male who does the spending.
And i think the woman should have to prove she isnt just leeching off you.

Yeah i agree. The man shouldn't just be expected to pay. It's a silly tradition back when women didn't have jobs.

When me and the girl who would later be my wife started dating we solved it simply, we flipped a coin, loser paid and we took turns after that. To make sure either of us were not being cheap the who paid last time choose. So when i paid she choose and when she paid i choose.

If your going on a date with a girl who isn't willing to chance having to pay, well she probably is just using you as a meal ticket.

My friend wants me to say that if she suggests that you pay for dinner and she serves you dessert at her place she probably has an STD and to run away...

Your friends on a good train of thought, just slightly misplaced - It probably means she covets you for sexuality, and not to actually know you. If you want sex, use a professional - Theres no risk of STDs and no obligatory commitments.
Your coin flipping method is a good concept - Leave it to chance rather than suggestion.
Im impressed at how many people share similar opinions regarding these things

I think he was just being a smart ass personally.

 

[quiet_samurai]

Formal dating.... not so much.
Random hook ups and casual flings.... oh yes.

 

[zhoominator]

I dunno. I've never been with a girl, but dating does sound rather fun. As long as she realises I won't pay for it all that is .