so i was talking to a now former friend about the topic of disrespect. we are both in high school and dont get much respect outside of our friend circle. she feels that she can "rise above" the disrespect by doing nothing and was stating that i was being rude by disrespecting the people that show me disrespect. i feel that shes taking it like a scared coward. i feel like i am giving fair treatment to these assholes. what do you think. how should you react to disrespect
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On topic: You've not given us enough to go on. So I can't say if you are a hypocrite or not
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On topic: You've not given us enough to go on. So I can't say if you are a hypocrite or not
Depends on the specific situation. If its someone bumping into you who doesn't say sorry, who gives a fuck? If some little shit knocks your books out of your hands, you stand up for yourself and whoop some ass if need be, unless they are way bigger and tougher than you probably shouldn't be to confrontational lest you get your ass whooped.
Sadly, that was my answer too. It's so case-by-case, unless there's a specific situation, I can't really give a proper answer.Anoni Mus said:
I tend to give as I get. I mean, I try to live treat others the way I wish to be treated, but I try not to let them stomp all over me too much. At least this is the way I am ideally; I shy away from conflict and confrontations if I can - can I have "Cowardly Behaviour" for 100, Alex? - but lately I've had a lot less patience when treated like a doormat.
Psst, I agree with CM156 BTW. Rudimentary grammar is a beautiful thing!
Psst, I agree with CM156 BTW. Rudimentary grammar is a beautiful thing!
Answer: Ignore them
Seriously, high school bullies? Who cares? You really haven't given us enough to go on. Although, I really don't know what is so bad that you create an account just to ask us.
Why do you need the respect of idiots? Why can't you just ignore their disrespect?
Seriously, high school bullies? Who cares? You really haven't given us enough to go on. Although, I really don't know what is so bad that you create an account just to ask us.
Why do you need the respect of idiots? Why can't you just ignore their disrespect?
First off, you're in High School. Sorry, but unless you earn it, you don't have any respect from me. Here's a quick look into the adult brain when you tell him "respect me"
You haven't seen what I've seen
You haven't done what I've done
You don't know what I know
You haven't been where I've been
You don't have the scars, you don't have the pains, you haven't lost, you haven't won, you haven't lived.
So sit down, shut up, and listen.
You say that you only get "respect" inside your circle of friends. It's for a reason. When you've done something to earn it, you'll get respect without having to demand it.
You haven't seen what I've seen
You haven't done what I've done
You don't know what I know
You haven't been where I've been
You don't have the scars, you don't have the pains, you haven't lost, you haven't won, you haven't lived.
So sit down, shut up, and listen.
You say that you only get "respect" inside your circle of friends. It's for a reason. When you've done something to earn it, you'll get respect without having to demand it.
It really depends on the greater context, but one can easily ignore disrespectful comments and behavior without being a "scared coward." Returning such behavior in kind is apt to escalate the situation, and generally prolongs it. If you do want to respond I wouldn't suggest being disrespectful back - one can face these sorts of things head on and not be disrespectful towards your antagonizes.
It really depends. If someone shouts insults as I walk by and I barely know the person, I'm going to ignore them. They're just trying to annoy me anyways and responding wouldn't do any good.
If someone disrespects me by telling me to go clean up the mess they've just made or something like that when there is no reason for me to do it, I'll stand up for myself, say no and go away.
If someone is very busy working and I interrupt and they insult me, I'll walk away, leave them alone, and expect them to apologise for snapping at me once their work is done. However, I'll also apologise for interrupting them while they were working. Respect goes both ways.
Not sure if that answers your question, it's a few examples I could think of and the reactions linked to them.
If someone disrespects me by telling me to go clean up the mess they've just made or something like that when there is no reason for me to do it, I'll stand up for myself, say no and go away.
If someone is very busy working and I interrupt and they insult me, I'll walk away, leave them alone, and expect them to apologise for snapping at me once their work is done. However, I'll also apologise for interrupting them while they were working. Respect goes both ways.
Not sure if that answers your question, it's a few examples I could think of and the reactions linked to them.
One time in high school this kid was cheating in dodgeball.
We fought.
He broke my arm and I broke his nose!
Mwaha disrespect that mofo!
We fought.
He broke my arm and I broke his nose!
Mwaha disrespect that mofo!
But nothing will show how much you respect yourself like an assault conviction! Employers love people who stand up for themselves. An assault conviction will make your resume stand out of the crowd! Be a man.zehydra said:
Or y'know, an adult. OP's choice really.
Yeah, I think you lost that exchange.Flailing Escapist said:
OP, your story is vague and uninteresting. You want respect? Be an adult and ignore douche behavior when it does not present a physical threat, be the better person and move on. People will be jerks, but that doesn't justify responding with similar behavior.
Well you are still young and hot headed so a word of advice, 99% of it is not worth your time, but if push really comes to shove stand up for yourself, letting people walk over you and ignoring them are two very different things.
People who don't like or disrespect you are to be ignored, learn that lesson and you will have a much better time in life.
People who don't like or disrespect you are to be ignored, learn that lesson and you will have a much better time in life.
Someone who doesn't respect you = asshole.
Hmmmmmmm.
Anyways, respect can't be gained by disrespecting, and disrespecting the disrespectful is short-sighted and futile, if not actively making it worse. You won't gain respect by ignoring off-hand comments and public jabs (except from people who appreciate cool-headedness), but you won't make enemies either.
Or you can do what I did and ignore the concept of "respect" entirely in peer-to-peer interactions. It's much more freeing.
Hmmmmmmm.
Anyways, respect can't be gained by disrespecting, and disrespecting the disrespectful is short-sighted and futile, if not actively making it worse. You won't gain respect by ignoring off-hand comments and public jabs (except from people who appreciate cool-headedness), but you won't make enemies either.
Or you can do what I did and ignore the concept of "respect" entirely in peer-to-peer interactions. It's much more freeing.
Laugh in their face and walk away.
If they want to start something, fight back, but in most cases disrespect is just trolling in real life. Defending yourself from it is just feeding the trolls.
If they want to start something, fight back, but in most cases disrespect is just trolling in real life. Defending yourself from it is just feeding the trolls.
