Poll: Do you think spanking is wrong?

[Vrex360]

Some kids can go things that deserve a slight hit once in a while but it should never be a regular thing and should only be used in really major moments of bad behavior from a child.
However I think it needs to be said that when you hit a child sometimes you can misjudge your own strength as kids are a lot softer than adults and what qualifies as a 'small hit' to us might seriously hurt the child.
Worse still the psychological damage of the loving parental figure inflicting pain on them could seriously mess them up.

So overall, no. I don't think it should be used frequently and even in the 'necessary' cases I still scrutinize with question at the idea.

 

[Dys]

I think sometimes yes it is necessary, however I would only do so as a last resort.

This is, what we call in the industry, a /thread.

Anyone who says it's abuse or is never the solution is wrong. It is important that parents are in authority, and children aren't born instantly knowing what's right or how the world works. A spank (not a ravage beating) will make them understand you're angry, and that they have done something wrong that has direct and instant negative consequences.

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

I'm not quite sure. I'd rather not spank my kid but if it comes to that I think I could do it. Spanking adults is fun though.

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

I got spanked but At least I didnt get "The Hat" as a kid.

The Hat?

 

[Kialee]

I wouldn't say it's wrong in any sense of the word. There's a difference between swatting a child on the bum and clocking them, and if you can't figure out why the latter might be a bad thing, then you probably shouldn't have kids in the first place.
On the other hand, though, it shouldn't be something used on an hourly basis. Children may not always be the most well-behaved things, but they're kids. You have to let them know that you are their parent and their hijinks will not be tolerated. If you can't do that without swatting them, then...I'm not sure what that says about someone. Perhaps a lack of ability to keep the unruly under control or somesuch.
If a child of mine shot a neighbor's cat with a BB gun or kicked the little girl next door, though, you could be sure I'd do worse than just paddle his or her backside.
Grounding works wonders sometimes.

Then again, I was grounded a lot as a child - I didn't necessarily stop what my parents didn't like, I was just more careful not to be caught in the first place.
herp derp

 

[Arsen]

I challenge one person to find for me a young child who will grow into a promising human being who was not properly punished when the need is there.

These people don't exist. Teaching your children right and wrong with "violence" is a necessity to both the child and the society we live.

 

[Zero_ctrl]

If used for and only discipline, then it isn't wrong.

 

[lokun489]

when i did bad i got spanked and didnt do it again, id be an entitled asshole if i hadnt been spanked.

 

[RobfromtheGulag]

I'm really on the fence on this one.

I was spanked as a child, but probably not as often as the 60 y.o. guys I work with, and they seem to cry in unison 'Physical disciplinary action is what's missing in today's crime filled youth'.

On the flip side you have the mother's threatening extensive legal action if you so much as touch their child's shoulder.

So I don't know. I don't think it's the best disciplinary tool, but I don't think talking to someone is going to work 100% of the time either.

 

[Guitar Gamer]

I think it is necessary, obviously it should only used when absolutely necessary, I got spanked a few times, and I am ok.
I think I wouldn't have learned modesty as soon if I wasn't.

I wouldn't say it's wrong in any sense of the word. There's a difference between swatting a child on the bum and clocking them, and if you can't figure out why the latter might be a bad thing, then you probably shouldn't have kids in the first place.
On the other hand, though, it shouldn't be something used on an hourly basis. Children may not always be the most well-behaved things, but they're kids. You have to let them know that you are their parent and their hijinks will not be tolerated. If you can't do that without swatting them, then...I'm not sure what that says about someone. Perhaps a lack of ability to keep the unruly under control or somesuch.
If a child of mine shot a neighbor's cat with a BB gun or kicked the little girl next door, though, you could be sure I'd do worse than just paddle his or her backside.
Grounding works wonders sometimes.

Then again, I was grounded a lot as a child - I didn't necessarily stop what my parents didn't like, I was just more careful not to be caught in the first place.
herp derp

Pretty much this

 

[toastmaster2k8]

I got spanked but At least I didnt get "The Hat" as a kid.

The Hat?

Its where Dad throws the hat like a boomerang when he cant reach me. its kind of amusing though when I look back on it.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

Anyone who says it's abuse or is never the solution is wrong. It is important that parents are in authority, and children aren't born instantly knowing what's right or how the world works. A spank (not a ravage beating) will make them understand you're angry, and that they have done something wrong that has direct and instant negative consequences.

No, you're wrong.

Just because you use violence and display anger it doesn't mean you are effectively maintaining your authority as a parent.

A child might "fear" the parent when it is angry, but it doesn't learn shit about right or wrong in the process.

Fear doesn't help in learning something, it rather serves to limit the individuals perception of any given situation.

Fear also doesn't help to foster respect (you know, that VITAL ingredient needed in order to maintain authority). Putting the kid through constant periods of fear will make him/her a coward and afraid of conflicts in general, or he child somehow overcomes his/her fears and thus instantly lose respect of the people that he/she used to fear before (in this case: the parents).

 

[The Procrastinated End]

I might be a little biased for hating the little idiots but hitting kids isn't wrong. Although I was never hit by my parents I had two older brothers for that.
Side Note: If your kids about to hurt themselves (in a non-severe way) let them do it.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

These people don't exist. Teaching your children right and wrong with "violence" is a necessity to both the child and the society we live.

The Society in which WE live tells us that violence used with any other motivation than self defense is wrong. So how do you expect to teach a kid that violence is wrong by using violence against the kid?

Confusion is bound to occur, and it doesn't exactly take a genius to figure that out...

 

[derdeutschmachine]

Children are irrational, they cannot be reasoned with of convinced that they are in the wrong. Therefore a good whooping is in order. I was spanked as a child, I thank my parents every day for the structure it helped instill in me. If you don't want to beat your kids... fine, let the little shits walk all over you and disrespect you at every turn. If you want a disiplined child who will respect their elders and know that they are not in control, beat them when they misbehave.

 

[Midnight Crossroads]

I've never raised a kid, so I don't really know. On the one hand it seems like lazy parenting done to instill fear instead of respect, but there might be kids that only really respond to corporeal punishment. Who knows? All the kids I've met are pretty different, so I doubt there's one concrete answer that applies to all children.

 

[Outcast107]

Anyone who says it's abuse or is never the solution is wrong. It is important that parents are in authority, and children aren't born instantly knowing what's right or how the world works. A spank (not a ravage beating) will make them understand you're angry, and that they have done something wrong that has direct and instant negative consequences.

No, you're wrong.

Just because you use violence and display anger it doesn't mean you are effectively maintaining your authority as a parent.

A child might "fear" the parent when it is angry, but it doesn't learn shit about right or wrong in the process.

Fear doesn't help in learning something, it rather serves to limit the individuals perception of any given situation.

Fear also doesn't help to foster respect (you know, that VITAL ingredient needed in order to maintain authority). Putting the kid through constant periods of fear will make him/her a coward and afraid of conflicts in general, or he child somehow overcomes his/her fears and thus instantly lose respect of the people that he/she used to fear before (in this case: the parents).

Um i'm sorry, but I believe you are wrong sir. A lot of people here say they were spank and they never said they fear their parents. Hell I was spank ONCE but I didn't fear my dad because of a spank. You're just making up bullshit theories.

 

[Extraintrovert]

Children are irrational, they cannot be reasoned with of convinced that they are in the wrong. Therefore a good whooping is in order. I was spanked as a child, I thank my parents every day for the structure it helped instill in me. If you don't want to beat your kids... fine, let the little shits walk all over you and disrespect you at every turn. If you want a disiplined child who will respect their elders and know that they are not in control, beat them when they misbehave.

Nice use of absolutes there. I'm sure you'll be a fine parent.[/sarcasm]

 

[jpoon]

Sometimes it absolutely NEEDS to be done. If you don't slap the kiddos around when required you will eventually end up with fucked up little shits that do whatever the hell they please.

 

[Fallen-Angel Risen-Demon]

It's not a good way to bring a child up. Proof being more then half the junoir deliquints at my school were apparently spanked when they were kids. And by junior delinquints I mean chavs.