Poll: Do you want an apology?

[Mikeyfell]

Not really...
If I ever saw him again I'd probably just break his neck (And should have done a long time ago because well, let's face it no one would miss him and it would make me feel better)

If he apologized that would be weird. It would imply some sort of growth on his part and if society can give a damaged little fuck that sort of a second chance, WHY THE FUCK DIDN'T I JUST MAKE EVERYONE'S LIFE A LIVING HELL!!

Hmmm? Oh, did I say that out loud. No... I'm not still bitter about shit that happened in highschool, and I'm certainly not the type to hold a grudge.

I'm beyond thinking that actions have consequences, but I still like to think that Karma is a real thing. So maybe he'll never amount to anything, or some horrible tragedy will befall him, or maybe he'll turn over a new leaf, fall in love, get married, have a couple of beautiful children, and then they all get brutally murdered by someone who isn't me, because I'm not holding a grudge or anything like that....

 

[Lynxan]

I had a bad time for the first 8 years of school and if I even ran into some one from then I don't think they would know me or vice versa. While that crap had been a part of my life then, I've long since ditched who any of them where in my mind and it just don't matter to me.

If some how one of them found me and tried to say they where sorry, I don't really care enough one way or the other to take it for real or not. They might had been dicks back in the day, but that's why I'm not a dick myself. Good or bad, life is life and most have to move on.

 

[Adamantium93]

If they apologize, than I can't assume they're lesser beings disguised as humans. If they apologize, it shows they can feel regret, hence there must be some small part of them that is human and possibly redeemable. I'd rather not know.

 

[Weaver]

Yes, I would. There is facing a bully once, and facing a bully every day.
I can't put anything better than Shane Koyczan.

 

[Gormech]

Why ask for an apology when I can sit back with that grin on my face while I hand them their weekly paycheck over and over.

 

[asap]

I am thankful to bullies and many other people who have given me hardship. Rising to their challenges has made me a better person. I am funnier and a more interesting person because of them.

Without bullies I never would have realized I could make people laugh simply by pointing out some obvious flaws in some other person. Combining with simple fact with creativity has made me a well like person, which is quite ironic if you think about it.

They also taught me that I had to be strong, at least on the surface, as it makes other people feel safe. Its the sort of social skill which helped be a good at presentations, long with helping me get a girlfriend. So basically people who should apologize are those who are too weak to affect a challenge which a bully respects and learns from, or maybe it is the people who tell children that they are always right to express themselves as they want. Modulating your behavior due to people near you is normal, and helps you become more empathetic person. People who complain about bullies are generally kinda arseholes who never considered thinking from the point of view of their abuser.

The comments of either a feeling of hate, or more worrying, just apathy to wards their bully, has made my view even stronger that the bullies should never be forced to apologize. Only if the bullied person can naturally attain this through their personal growth should it be given.

 

[Khanht Cope]

I am thankful to bullies and many other people who have given me hardship. Rising to their challenges has made me a better person. I am funnier and a more interesting person because of them.

Without bullies I never would have realized I could make people laugh simply by pointing out some obvious flaws in some other person. Combining with simple fact with creativity has made me a well like person, which is quite ironic if you think about it.

They also taught me that I had to be strong, at least on the surface, as it makes other people feel safe. Its the sort of social skill which helped be a good at presentations, long with helping me get a girlfriend. So basically people who should apologize are those who are too weak to affect a challenge which a bully respects and learns from, or maybe it is the people who tell children that they are always right to express themselves as they want. Modulating your behavior due to people near you is normal, and helps you become more empathetic person. People who complain about bullies are generally kinda arseholes who never considered thinking from the point of view of their abuser.

The comments of either a feeling of hate, or more worrying, just apathy to wards their bully, has made my view even stronger that the bullies should never be forced to apologize. Only if the bullied person can naturally attain this through their personal growth should it be given.

I'm holding hope that this is satire.

 

[Connor Lonske]

i'm sorta about as mad about this sorta thing but in the other direction. i'd rather beat the crap out of my bully then have them apologize.

although unlike you if someone thinks an apology is ok i'm not gonna get bent out of shape over it. people have the right to feel the way they feel about things, if you don't care that's fine but no need to get so pissy about it as if you felt like they did eg very upset. sorta makes you sound like the grinch from that dr seuss book.

 

[MrMixelPixel]

I didn't have too much of a hard time in school, bully wise. However, if some of the kids from my elementary school apologized for being jerks, I suppose that'd be nice, even if I don't care about it much.

 

[Your Gaffer]

I was never a victim of constant bullying, but there were a few incidents here and there growing up. I understand of course that the people were either young and stupid, some with problems at home, or just assholes. In any case I don't feel I need an apology or that it would mean much to me.

Of course if some specific person or group of people had constantly bullied me growing up maybe it would be a different thing all together. In any case I am pretty happy with my life today and don't ruminate on any childhood issues.

Perhaps an apology from my parents for some of the stuff they did...

 

[floppylobster]

The person who I would require an apology would be in immediate family. And the bullying would be more classed of as abuse. I don't know if I want an apology because it would only bring it all up again. But I can never have a relationship with that person until they acknowledge it.

I have bullied a few people myself to some degree. And when I did it I was taking out frustrations brought on by the what I'm taking about above. At the time I apologized to those who I bullied (the best I can). But I still feel bad about it.

Another guy who kicked my face once in apologized to me a few weeks later. I felt less scared that it would happened again but after being on both sides of bullying I couldn't really blame him. I accepted the apology and moved on. I don't think I'd be worried about it today if he hadn't apologized. I would just accept that he had issues that he took out on me.

 

[Parallel Streaks]

I was kind of too much of a social-weaver to actually get bullied, smoking kind of helped. It's a filthy habit, but every dickhead with a chip on his shoulder smoked, and for some reason the smokers had a weird camaraderie. I have apologised to people in the past I might've been less than polite to, though. Mainly kids who were probably having a shittier time than I was with school, but I was too wrapped up in my petty problems to really think about it.

Generally fights and stuff were always even-handed in my school, though. Guys just fought occasionally, nobody was really targeted.

 

[VondeVon]

I wouldn't want one, but I'd respect the person who felt genuinely bad and so gave one.

Then again, I've never been bullied so it's kinda theoretical to me.

 

[Lynx]

Given that those asshole girls in my class were the reason I had stomach aches every school morning from ages 7-11 and recurring episodes of terrible self-esteem long after that, I suppose I wouldn't mind an acknowledgement. But I already know I won't get one and I'm fine with that. If anything, I'd prefer to get one from my mother, as she probably stood for at least half of the emotional scarring I got as a kid.

 

[odolwa99]

I am thankful to bullies and many other people who have given me hardship. Rising to their challenges has made me a better person. I am funnier and a more interesting person because of them.

Without bullies I never would have realized I could make people laugh simply by pointing out some obvious flaws in some other person.

I too am thankful for my bullies, without whom I would have never found out I was a good shot.

 

[UltraXan]

In all honesty, I wouldn't care too much if I did. I'm a pretty damn big guy (currently 6'5") and you could describe me as a big friendly giant. I'm more or less the big kind guy who who isn't aggressive, but god help you if you piss me off. I can only think of one guy who had the audacity to even try to bully me. He tried to threaten me, mostly via e-mail, but it never really worked. Trying to threaten a guy who's bigger than you isn't exactly easy, especially if you're doing it via text. It stopped after I read a certain e-mail while working on a project after school. While I was rolling my eyes at its stupidity and piss poor grammar, my English teacher at the time looked over my shoulder and read it himself. The "bully" mysteriously disappeared a couple weeks after that, and no one knew why. Pretty sure I know why.

Anyway, if I got an apology from him today, I wouldn't care. He was more of an annoyance than anything else. Hell, if anything, I'd probably be offended if he DID apologize, mostly because he would think that he was ACTUALLY a threat to me if that's the case. Ah well, it was an amusing time and an interesting experience.

 

[SquidSponge]

Do I want an apology from a former bully? No.
Would I accept one were it offered? Yes.
Would I throw it in their face? Nope, that'd make me as bad now as they were then.

Not that I'd instantly forgive them and become best friends overnight. But if it's a case of bumping into the dude on the street and they open up a civil conversation with it, then I'd hear 'em out at least. My brother once had a similar situation, and his response was to be ostensibly polite but kinda rub in the success he'd experienced in the intervening time, which I think was a bit of a dick move.

 

[KungFuJazzHands]

Everyone that bullied me through my high school schools years is now paying for their ignorance in one way or another. One got his legs cut off by a train. Another died of a heart attack a couple years ago. Two of them killed themselves. The rest are either in jail or are drug addicts working minimum-wage jobs. Only one has made something of his life, and he turned out to be a pretty nice guy.

I don't need an apology, because karma has a habit of evening thing out.

 

[uchytjes]

I'm fairly certain I've spent time on both sides of the bully line. I've been bullied and have bullied in the past (I would tell the story, but its far too long). I can honestly say that I don't really care either way as to whether or not the bully apologizes. I work through my own stuff and have come to a conclusion on my own without need for reconciliation.

 

[rawrnosaurous]

When I was in High School there was a guy that everyone knew and liked, I wouldn't say he was the kind of popular kid he was what you would call the hippie weed smoker I guess.

For some reason though he loved to torment me, I'm not entirely sure why but he tore into me constantly. To the point where I mistakenly confided in him about the fact that I was both anorexic at the time and suicidal, and told him to lay off of me and the shit he was pulling was not just bullshit messing around but it really affected me.

Of course it just gave him more material to work with in how he harassed me so it was my stupid fucking mistake about it.


A year or two ago he messaged me on Facebook and apologized for the way he treated me and how the shit he did could have easily led me to killing myself and he basically had no reason or right to pull this shit on me. He told me he never knew me that well at all and though it didn't make up for everything that he did and said he wanted the chance to know me better and to make up for it.

Did it help me in any way to get that apology from him after the fact? Maybe, I can't quite tell how the apology affected me after such a long time.