Poll: "Don't look at me when I wear skimpy clothes!"

[Queen Michael]

The way I see it, there's a limit. If a girl's obviously trying to show off her body, I won't feel bad about taking a look, but I'll limit myself to one look. There's a difference between taking a look at a girl that clearly wants men to look and keeping on staring like you're a please-go-away-crazy-person. And of course I don't do this at the beach, where you pretty much have to go half-naked and the state of near-deshabillé isn't because of some wish to flaunt your body.
tl;dr is that there's nothing wrong with looking at a body that its owner clearly wanted to show, but please stick to a five-second limit because once that's been exceeded you're being creepy.

Women who show a lot of skin want to be looked at.

No that's not the same thing as them wanting to be harassed.

Men are very visual, it's almost impossible for us to not stare.

I dunno..Im not sure I buy the whole "Im a man I cant help it attitude"

then again wearing skimpy cloths isnt always a good Idea depending on the situation

It's an interesting fact that it's an automatic instict to look at sexiness for men. So while it is possible to avid that through willpower, it's not like taking a look at sexiness is a conscious choice.

 

[RussetRanger]

Don't like being leered at? Cover up! Simple.

 

[KaosuHamoni]

Don't want to be looked at like that? Don't dress with yourself on show. It's not that hard to understand.

A girl I know dresses like that, and has said on several occasions something along the lines of "If I didn't want people to look at me, I wouldn't dress like this."

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Well, she's being ridiculous of course. That doesn't mean that guys can't have any restraint though. Besides, all the best pervs don't get caught. *wink wink*

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I'm so sick of people getting upset by people treating them differently based on how they dress.

If you dress like a thug, I'm going to treat you like a thug. If you dress is skimpy clothing, I'm going to assume you're looking to score. If a guy is dressed in decent clothes and looking good, I'm assuming HE'S out to score.

It also depends on context as well. As OP said, however, she was not only breaking dresscode (a reason for people to look at her funny anyway) she did so in a manner that drew more attention to her already attention drawing clothing (not being in dress code).

I see no reason for her to ***** at the guy unless he was staring at her inappropriately, as in, trying to see if he could catch a glimpse of side boob through the bra or a shot at panties under the short shorts.

In fact, (I'm assuming you're in highschool here, OP), if a healthy teenager DIDN'T look at her with some sexual interest, I'd be a little more concerned.

Of course, if he moved on from looking to touching, this would be a different story.

 

[SpaceBat]

If a woman is attractive and wears skimpy clothing, most men will check her out and she'd be ridiculous if she complained about people looking at her (same is true for the opposite). But there's a huge difference between just taking a look and staring. One is acceptable and normal, but just staring at a person for a long time is unsettling and creepy.

She had every right to do what she did, although handling the situation more calmly would have been the better choice. And I find it hilarious that so many people believe that wearing skimpy clothing automatically means that you want to get the attention of the opposite sex and want people to stare at you.

 

[dimensional]

Well staring is rude (and annoying if you are the one being stared at) but I dont believe there is any law against being rude however there is no reason you cannot tell someone to stop staring at you either so while neither of them are right likewise I wouldnt say either of them are wrong. If she did not follow dress code she should have been barred from taking part otherwise whats the point in a dress code if its not enforced.

 

[SilentCom]

The eyes! The penetrate me like knives! Just kidding =P
But seriously, as long as no one is touching or attacking her, then she doesn't really have a right to complain if she chooses to wear clothing that is meant to attract attention.

 

[Hoplon]

She is over reacting but that doesn't mean he gets to leer like a sex offender.

 

[Queen Michael]

The majority of the people on this site will give you an extremely biased answer.

It's an interesting fact that it's an automatic instict to look at sexiness for men. So while it is possible to avid that through willpower, it's not like taking a look at sexiness is a conscious choice.

Yes actually it is. You choose what you look at and you choose what you stare at. There is nothing wrong with taking a look but when you start staring then you have gone to far and she has every right to blow up on you or slap you.

I guess I wasn't clear enough. What I meant was that that first reflexive glance in't a choice. Studies have shown that it's a reflex.

I also don't buy that if she wears revealing clothing she wants to be stared at. When you go to the beach you don't expect to be stared at non-stop by some creep so why should you expect that when you are actually wearing more clothing?

I didn't say she wanted people to stare, I said she wanted people to look. It's perfectly possible to take a look without staring. And to answer your question:
Because it's a matter of how much you differ from the people around you. If everyone else is wearing a dress that goes down to the heels but you're wearing a miniskirt, then you're wearing way less than the other people. Ath the beach, though, it's standard clothing. Also, at the beach girls wear bikinis because it makes swimming easier and makes it easier to get tanned. There's less call for wearing skimpy clothing when you're not at the beach. And you gotta agree that there are women out there, though maybe that many, who wear revealing clothing to get attention.

I stand by my opinion: Wearing skimpy clothing and not wanting people to look at you is like talking loudly in your cell phone in public and complaining about eavesdroppers.

 

[Queen Michael]

There is nothing wrong with taking a look but when you start staring then you have gone to far and she has every right to blow up on you or slap you.

Looking is not a crime. Hitting someone is in much of the world.

If your acting like a creepy perv then you deserved to be slapped I dont give a shit if you call it a crime or not.

First of all, please try to use proper punctuation. Secondly, are you saying that committing crimes against people is okay as long as you've decided that they deserve it? And that you have no respect for the law?

 

[Queen Michael]

I really hope you are not trying to hint here that the minorty is a represtation of the whole. There will obviously be some women who wear skimpy clothes because they want to get guys attention but they are not representive of the whole. Its kind of like saying well since you dress in skimpy clothing you must be a hooker because you know hookers wear skimpy clothing.

First of all, I'll admit that you've got a pretty good example there. Secondly, I'm not saying that the minority is a representation of the whole but I am saying that if you don't want people's attention you shouldn't wear clothes that gets you people's attention. Really, it's that simple.