Poll: girl problems

[HotFezz8]

i've lived away, and have now moved back home, so i can see a girl who i like who i have been texting and calling pretty much every day.

last night we and a group went out, she kissed some other bloke and walked her "sick" ex boyfriend home, then she and a friend went home. over the last couple of days she has also showed absoloutely no interest in me, not in a romantic way at least. ive been at home almost a week.

naturally im pretty gutted about this, and am not sure how to respond. vote on the poll, please feel free to post comments as well, im genuinely unsure how to handle this.

EDIT*

this seems inadequately brief. so to bulk it out and provide more inforamtion.

im a 21 year old student who was away at uni, she is a 18 year old secondary school student at home. im back for easter break, which lasts until the end of this month, then i leave for 2nd year exams next month, then i return june, staying for 4 months.

we met in january when a mutual friend organised a day out, she contacted me a week later via facebook with her number and a message saying "i would like to get to know you better" and since then we have talked fairly constatntly. i make her laugh, we generally aren't awkard when we meet, but romantic situations are uncomfortable for me and i haven't been able to make any since i got back, then the above happened.

i like her, we get on really well, but this has made me think: is she not interested or is she ignoring me, or is she completely unaware?

EDIT 2*

we have been talking and joking about the most random crap, occasionally joking about sexual things, past history, etc, its uncomfortable to talk about feelings over the phone, so i haven't.

 

[Thaluikhain]

[small]Woo, I got in before the inevitable shitstorm[/small]

Firstly, that's not much information to go on, though things like that are hard to convey via the net anyway.

Secondly, it probably wouldn't hurt to talk to her about it, to see if she's deliberately ignoring you for some reason, or if it's nothing to do with you at all. You can always walk away later.

 

[Lion_Slicer]

Get out now. Don't make the same mistake I did.

 

[Legion]

This depends on if she was strongly giving you the impression she had strong feelings for you, if she wasn't, and has no idea how you feel, then perhaps you should make a final effort and tell her.

If on the other hand she has been giving you the impression she wants more than friendship before last night then for the love of all things Un-Holy cut your losses and give up. Her behaviour indicates a lack of any real interest in you, and you shouldn't spend your time pining over somebody who is acting like she is.

 

[HotFezz8]

what more info would you like?

and if people are saying "talk to her", what woudl you have in mind if you said that?

 

[HotFezz8]

Get out now. Don't make the same mistake I did.

what mistake? how did it go for you? also how old was she?

 

[Crises^]

she wants what she can't have now she knows she can have ya she wont go for you best thing to do here is just ignore her and play hard to get but tbh just go for someone who's worth it and doesn't play mind games

 

[Latinidiot]

Walking away is hard, continuing to do the same and expecting a different result is madness, and confrontation is even harder. But, in tis case confrontation means just asking what she feels for you. As Thaluikhain said, walking away is always an option, and you can't screw up something you never had.


You're copletely free to ignore me, I'mnot completely sure I'm rght.

 

[Realitycrash]

Depends on how strongly you feel about her. I usually walk alway before letting anyone notice I actually got hurt. But I have an immense ego.
If you really care, let her know.

 

[HotFezz8]

Walking away is hard, continuing to do the same and expecting a different result is madness, and confrontation is even harder. But, in tis case confrontation means just asking what she feels for you. As Thaluikhain said, walking away is always an option, and you can't screw up something you never had.


You're copletely free to ignore me, I'mnot completely sure I'm rght.

good answer! err... im not sure, i'll edit the header to say this anyway, im going back (to uni) for one month end of this month, maybe wait a month..? what would you do?

 

[SpecklePattern]

Get out now. Don't make the same mistake I did.

what mistake? how did it go for you? also how old was she?

"How old was she?" Well that answers to personality very well But personally I think you should get out. Clearly she is not interested, from the story you wrote. Hard to say, because I don't know what you have been talking about on your daily basis.

 

[HotFezz8]

Get out now. Don't make the same mistake I did.

what mistake? how did it go for you? also how old was she?

"How old was she?" Well that answers to personality very well But personally I think you should get out. Clearly she is not interested, from the story you wrote. Hard to say, because I don't know what you have been talking about on your daily basis.

check the edit 2 mate

 

[Rellik San]

I'm with most people, this is a dangerous girl to be around. No one can say for certain how it will end, but in all probability it'll end in your heart ache and disappointment, cut your losses now. Move on and hey, at Uni, you'll probably meet a girl you do like and likes you.

 

[Sarcastic_Applause]

i've lived away, and have now moved back home, so i can see a girl who i like who i have been texting and calling pretty much every day.

last night we and a group went out, she kissed some other bloke and walked her "sick" ex boyfriend home, then she and a friend went home. over the last couple of days she has also showed absoloutely no interest in me, not in a romantic way at least. ive been at home almost a week.

naturally im pretty gutted about this, and am not sure how to respond. vote on the poll, please feel free to post comments as well, im genuinely unsure how to handle this.

EDIT*

this seems inadequately brief. so to bulk it out and provide more inforamtion.

im a 21 year old student who was away at uni, she is a 18 year old secondary school student at home. im back for easter break, which lasts until the end of this month, then i leave for 2nd year exams next month, then i return june, staying for 4 months.

we met in january when a mutual friend organised a day out, she contacted me a week later via facebook with her number and a message saying "i would like to get to know you better" and since then we have talked fairly constatntly. i make her laugh, we generally aren't awkard when we meet, but romantic situations are uncomfortable for me and i haven't been able to make any since i got back, then the above happened.

i like her, we get on really well, but this has made me think: is she not interested or is she ignoring me, or is she completely unaware?

it sounds like she's testing you, i say go for it and find out why its so quite between you two; if she expressed interest over the phone then it may be that she's shy about seeing you in person after so much of an interactive relationship. Be honest and find out if she feels the same way, far better to go down swinging then to just give up

 

[Latinidiot]

Walking away is hard, continuing to do the same and expecting a different result is madness, and confrontation is even harder. But, in tis case confrontation means just asking what she feels for you. As Thaluikhain said, walking away is always an option, and you can't screw up something you never had.


You're copletely free to ignore me, I'mnot completely sure I'm rght.

good answer! err... im not sure, i'll edit the header to say this anyway, im going back (to uni) for one month end of this month, maybe wait a month..? what would you do?

What has waiting done for you? What could change in the time that you aren't able to meet her? If you're letting it up to chance to make her decide something in your favour, you're3 making a very hazardous guess.
If you told her in the coming month how you feel, and she responds conflicted, it will be wise to give room to think, but be available for talking. Like, say, going to uni for a month. If she appears uninterested, nothing lost. If she appears willing, well then, buy everyone on this thread a beer, and we'll celebrate.

 

[HotFezz8]

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taking the people who have responded with "talk", where and how would you do it? pub or park? try to kiss her at some point or just talk? etc..

 

[HotFezz8]

Like, say, going to uni for a month. If she appears uninterested, nothing lost. If she appears willing, well then, buy everyone on this thread a beer, and we'll celebrate.

love this, particulary the last sentence. lol to you sir.

 

[Donbett1974]

If there only 5 dateable women where you live then give it another go if not then move on.

 

[Legion]

taking the people who have responded with "talk", where and how would you do it? pub or park? try to kiss her at some point or just talk? etc..

That is impossible to say because we don't know you, or what your relationship with this girl is like. There is no "one-size-fits-all" way of telling somebody you like them.

I don't suggest trying to kiss anybody unless you are almost/definitely certain that they'd want you to, and it doesn't seem like she is aware of your feelings for her so that could go horribly wrong.

Perhaps try sitting down with her and telling her? Or when you are out together sometime ask her out on a date or something? Honestly, there is no real way that any of us can say what you "should" do for the reasons I said before, the best we can do is offer a few suggestions.

 

[Jonluw]

Bah, there isn't much to lose by telling her, is there?
Why not just tell her? Of course, that's easier said than done, but I figure that's the best route.

Edit: Why should the decision to tell her how you feel depend on whether she feels the same way about you or not?