Poll: Hats : Wearing Indoors. Rude?

[Red Right Hand]

One first-year university student I met refused to take his trilby off when sitting down at a table in a bar to eat. That really irked me.

To be quite honest, i'm glad the student refused. I personally find that tradition to be outdated and pointless. Who cares if you wear a hat inside? It doesn't really make a difference. Overall, I should be able to wear a hat wherever I want and i'm glad I live in a time where I can.

 

[ResonanceCascade]

As with almost anything, there are a huge range of variables which will determine if a specific situation is rude or not. I have only read the first few pages of this so far so I don't know if someone else has already covered it.

The thing that I think most people are forgetting is common courtesy. The act of wearing a hat indoors in of itself is not rude. However, in many situations this is seen as being a common courtesy. By not removing your hat you are effectively saying that I couldn't be bothered to perform the most trivial of tasks to show respect. Or in other words, I don't respect you enough to do this for you. This is where the rudeness stems from.

As always the situation will determine if this is the case. In a close group of hat wearing friends there would probably be no need to remove your hat. However in other peoples homes it would be courteous to remove your head wear.

The way I have been brought up leads me to believe that if I am unable to show the most basic level of respect for a person, that I have no right to expect anything else from them. Simply treat others as you want to be treated.

edit: hate != hat

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Depends. I would see it as rude in someone's house, but not in other places, like supermarkets or lecture halls.

 

[Ham_authority95]

I don't wear a hat, but I don't see how it's rude either way.

Arbitrary rules passed on through the generations, hey

EDIT: Whoa, that rhymed. I could write a song on this subject.

 

[Ham_authority95]

From this moment on I'm considering it rude for people to wear shirts when people enter my home. Why? Why not?

THIS! Totally this!

Yeah and no pants fridays!........
Too soon?

I'd be fine with this, except it's freezing where I live.

 

[UnderCoverGuest]

The purpose of a hat is beginning to descend into fashion rather than function, but one thing remains the same in my book; unless it's one of those fancy parties where women wear bowls of fruit on their head, hats should be removed by all gentlemen while indoors.

 

[Alphalpha]

If you think it is rude, it is rude. If you do not think it is rude, it is not rude. This is true of all manners.

European culture is different from Asian culture which is different from African culture et cetera. Using English table manners in China could be considered rude and vice versa.

If someone does not remove their hat somewhere you feel they should, unless they are aware of your expectations and deliberately flout them, that is not them being disrespectful, that is you interpreting that inaction as disrespect.

I have a general method for conveying respect: I speak to them as though they were my equal; I consider their opinions as deeply as my own; I adhere to their customs while in their home and cater to their comfort while I am their host. Thus far, this method has proven universal and effective, and I have not had to worry much about hats.

If you look to take offense, you will find it.

 

[Outright Villainy]

It's not rude, because no one's aware of the social conventions any more, and they're completely arbitrary at that.

If I were that student I'd have told you to fuck off.

 

[Booze Zombie]

I wear hats if my head is cold.

 

[Jabberwock xeno]

What's so rude about it?

Unless something personally offends the general populace, it shouldn't be considered rude.
At least in the schools I have been in, they had a practical reason to give us: so it wouldn't obscure a person on a security camera.

 

[CarbonEagle]

I wear a touque (also known as a beanie if your not from canada) indoors, but only during the wintertime. I dont mean any disrespect by it, my head is cold. If you dont want me to wear it your being rude

 

[Betancore]

I don't see it as rude, but it does look a bit funny depending on the situation. I think the expectations regarding hats are a little different now. They're not as common as they were before, and honestly, who cares? Is there some kind of logical reason why one must remove their hat when indoors? Many things have changed since back then, and this may as well be one of them.

 

[BlueGlowstick]

I'm a girl & I sometimes wear baseball caps. (on occasion though). I find it rude in certain places for men to wear hats, such as church, because that is disrespectful. But women are allowed to wear them in church and at funerals. I went to a school where our dress code was the most lenient one in the entire county and we weren't allowed a hat unless we were wearing hoodies. Even the girls weren't allowed to wear hats. They took them up. But if you find it rude, just politely ask the person to take it off & if they decline, that's their priority.

What? Women should be allowed to wear whatever hats they want? Why are the rules different for men?

(Hear that? It's the sound of a thread flying off of its rails.)

I don't understand the social convention of not wearing hats indoors, but I don't like wearing hats myself.

Well I'm from a Southern U.S. state in the Bible Belt where it's also a courtesy to pull over to the side of the road when a funeral procession passes by on the road. But yes, some women wore hats in church & men, if they wore a hat to church, had to take it off before they walked through the doors. Women wear hats with veils at funerals because they cry. Men wear sunglasses. (I actually find that offensive.) Tennessee (where I'm from) has a bunch of whackjobs with different views on hat policies.

 

[badgersprite]

Part of me seems to be stuck in the fifties, so I absolutely agree with you about this old social etiquette. It should still be in place.

Mind you, I'm a girl and I unfortunately can't pull off most of the vintage hats I would like to wear, if given the chance. That said, though, I did go through a hat period, in my last year of high school, and I always took it off inside small areas, like whenever I entered the classroom, and I always took my hat off whenever we said morning verse (which was kind of like a prayer, but non-religious), and whenever we sang the national anthem, or recited anything, etc. It's just basic politeness.