Poll: How do you flirt?

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Vern5

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Apparently I seem to be flirting with girls even when I'm not attempting to. I don't know if that's a subconscious talent or something to do with how I communicate but I keep hearing about it later. "Dude you were totally flirting with that girl" I was just trying to be nice. It was only later after I discovered this that I started asking for and receiving phone numbers.
 

Brandon237

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I give complements without noticing it... I wouldn't call it flirting, because that is not my intention, but other people seem to take it that way. Oh well, I'm in a good spot now partially thanks to not being a useless flirt, so I definitely can't complain :D
 

MasterOfWorlds

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DaphneRose said:
If you're a woman, flirting doesn't really seem to have to happen. You're just nice to them and whether or not you're interested in them, they'll inevitably fall for you.

And for some reason, they never ever want to say friends if you turn down their advances. Almost like they became friends just to take a swing at bat. Hmm.
I think that that works for guys too though. Just about all of my female friends have had crushes on me at some point or another. I've even had one tell me that if she wasn't with her bf, she'd totally...well, let's not get me in trouble for that one. XD

Works either way, I guess.
 

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xXxJessicaxXx said:
I'm actually quite good at flirting but I have come to the conclusion that any man I am vaguely attracted to, god or (insert omnipotent being here), puts a 'you only like that girl as a friend' chip in thier head and then laughs, eating popcorn, while I humiliate myself.

Oh and I'm usually utterly clueless if if a guy actually DOES likes me and if he does I think there must be something wrong with him and I'm usually not attracted to them in any way.

Conclusion: The universe hates me.

ps: I have tried to PRETEND I like the guys who fancy me out of pure resignation to my fate but tbh the last one I tried that with was an abusive dick and now I have PTSD. Did I mention the universe hates me.

There's also the geek girl factor, in which men act attracted to me becuase 'lol she likes computer games!' Then they actually realise that I am in fact a REAL geek and brozone me faster than Isaac Clarke did with his mad hallucinations. Please stop that.

Sigh.
...I totally want to give you a hug right now. I'm sorry that things turned out badly. My gf is a bit of a dork, so not quite the same as a geek I guess, we we get along pretty well. Althouh her brother has a serious man-crush on me, which is a little creepy. XD
 

l3o2828

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I am TERRIBLE at it.
I'm way too shy...Heh, i remember once a girl was talking to me and i know one of her friends, her friend later talked to me and asked 'she's not your type is it?' i asked her why and she said because i didn't flirt back, and i honestly hadn't realized she was flirting with me, it seemed like such a nice, normal conversation...
 

Moonlight Butterfly

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MasterOfWorlds said:
xXxJessicaxXx said:
...I totally want to give you a hug right now. I'm sorry that things turned out badly. My gf is a bit of a dork, so not quite the same as a geek I guess, we we get along pretty well. Althouh her brother has a serious man-crush on me, which is a little creepy. XD
Thanks lol, Atm I'm just kind of resigned to my fate and trying to work on my career. One of the worst things was a guy I totally fell head over heels for and adore says he's not attracted to me but sleeps with every other woman he comes across so I feel like a complete abomination lol. Maybe my prince charming will pop along one day, you never know.
 

MasterOfWorlds

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xXxJessicaxXx said:
Thanks lol, Atm I'm just kind of resigned to my fate and trying to work on my career. One of the worst things was a guy I totally fell head over heels for and adore says he's not attracted to me but sleeps with every other woman he comes across so I feel like a complete abomination lol. Maybe my prince charming will pop along one day, you never know.
Well, I wish you the best of luck. I know I had given up on dating until I met me gf. Sometimes strange things just happen. We clicked instantly, and a few weeks later we were dating. We've been together for a little over a year now.
 

loodmoney

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With a combination of witty shit-talking and outrageous compliments. Though I do tend to flirt with people I'm already friends with, so it doesn't take a great deal of effort.
 

HentMas

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there are 3 easy ways to take your flirting to the next level

1.- eye contact, every so many seconds in your conversation look at her in the eye, even if she is showing you something in a map, make a face of rapt attention to every word she says, smile a little and nod as if whatever she is saying is the absolute truth (unless you don´t agree in which case tell her why you think she is wrong, but still looking at her eyes), oh! don´t stare, that´s just creepy

2.- touch, every so often make contact with her, be it in her back, her arm, graze her hand with yours, reach out and grab her hair (if she makes faces stop this immediately, she might hate to be touched, which is weird and you should leave that instant)

3.- never have awkward silences, whenever one finishes a sentence, find the next possible answer, be it a joke or something serious, points up if its a joke, points down if its a sexist joke, points below zero if its a racist joke, keep those to your friends, and if the topic has ran its course, find the next one the fastest as you can, that will keep her interest, ask her about any topic you know about, or you know she knows about, that will keep things flowing smoothly

BONUS STAGE!!!!.- if you manage to get a girl out on a date, DONT BE SCARED, DONT PANIC, she already accepted to date your sorry ass, so you just have to be you!
 

Vanguard_Ex

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Successfully. Har har har.

Nah, I just make small talk but make it obvious I'm interested in them. If I'm flirting with actual intent, of course.
 

Not-here-anymore

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Um... I inadvertently flirt with everyone. Everyone! Don't mean to half the time, apparently that's just how I talk to people. It's led to some... interesting conversations with gay friends.

I am, however, woefully oblivious when it comes to people hitting on me. Which is upsetting. Probably a result of my pseudo-flirting at all times - I don't recognise it when the real thing's directed at me.

(NB: The above combination is great for alienating any friend of the opposite gender who likes you more than they're willing to say, but doesn't make this clear until you start seeing someone else)
 

ZtH

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Poorly as it were.

For some reason I knew who started this thread before I looked at anything but the topic. Anyway, I often get the "You're a really great guy but..." answer and get friendzoned. It's rather unfortunate. Actually at this point it's even worse, because I don't meet any new people due to some circumstances with my job and school being out of sync with people my own age. Overall I just flirt where I can and hope something catches and turns meaningful.
 

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apparently i'm a natural flirt. i just thought i was being nice until a girlfriend pointed out that no one is "that" nice to other people without having an agenda... let me just say, i never cheated on a girl ever ever. Anyway, since the end of that relationship i've made a conscious decision to only date women with sufficient self-esteem to handle seeing me making another girl laugh!
 

MasterOfWorlds

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ZamielTheHunter said:
Poorly as it were.

For some reason I knew who started this thread before I looked at anything but the topic. Anyway, I often get the "You're a really great guy but..." answer and get friendzoned. It's rather unfortunate. Actually at this point it's even worse, because I don't meet any new people due to some circumstances with my job and school being out of sync with people my own age. Overall I just flirt where I can and hope something catches and turns meaningful.
Chances are, if it has to do with sex/relationships, it's from me. Or if it isn't, it will be soon. XD
 

MasterOfWorlds

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undeserving said:
apparently i'm a natural flirt. i just thought i was being nice until a girlfriend pointed out that no one is "that" nice to other people without having an agenda... let me just say, i never cheated on a girl ever ever. Anyway, since the end of that relationship i've made a conscious decision to only date women with sufficient self-esteem to handle seeing me making another girl laugh!
This too. I still flirt with other girls, but I've managed to tone it down a lot since I got together with my gf. She lets me know when I take it too far though, which doesn't happen often, but every so often, somthing slips that wasn;t quite as innocent as the rest of my flirting. I'd never cheat though. I've been cheated on, and it sucks.
 

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MasterOfWorlds said:
I've been cheated on, and it sucks.
only once (that i know of) but yep... crushing. ultra gutting because she was a choir of angels* moment for me...

*http://xkcd.com/310/