Okay well, we?ve had 1010 responses and if anyone knows what this poll was born out of, they?d know 1000 is all I asked for. I will now be presenting the findings of the study. Firstly, the statistical analysis:
I?ve broken down the poll into two groups, spanked and not spanked. These results are correct as at the time of writing. Of the 747 who were spanked, 520 felt it benefited there learning and helped them become better people, giving a 70% support from those who were spanked, beating the 30% opposition.
Two other interesting facts popped up from this survey:
74% of people polled were spanked as a kid and;
210 people who weren?t spanked as kids do not approve, 4 times as many as those who weren?t and do.
What do these statistics show?
Bugger all really considering the group size and type of people polled. But if the people polled were the only people in existence, the majority of people who were spanked understand what their parents did and support their decision (But then the people who made the poll possible wouldn?t exist so the poll couldn?t exist and then the people who spanked the people who were polled wouldn?t exist and so no one would have been spanked or even have been given birth to?).
The reason I divided people up into spanked and not spanked was for two reasons:
Firstly, because the only people who really get a say in this type of debate are those who?ve experienced it firsthand (your psychological tests are actually included here because it takes into account actual people?s states rather than assumes what?s best for them). Judging by the results, as well as taking into account comments, the majority of people who were spanked believe it taught them right from wrong and they believe it is an effective method to deal with young children. However, many people who were spanked still don?t support it. Judging from the comments, most of these people were actually abused, rather than just spanked. Many people contest that the two are one and the same but we?ve had many definitions of the two and many who contest they are the same make very general definitions, opening the door to whatever they want, but then the people who oppose this provide very narrow definitions, ensuring that spanking is kept apart from abuse. For the purposes of this study, I?ll have to go with the latter group as many people who agree to being spanked described it as being hit on the bottom during times of extreme childish behaviour (whether it was with objects or just a hand differs between people), while many who disagree with spanking describe theirs as being beaten on a regular basis, hit in various places where bruises were left and even going so far as having broken arms. Then there were a small group who were spanked normally and had harboured resentment towards their parents for it or developed emotional problems because of regular spanking. This shows that spanking, when done merely as a method of teaching younger children right from wrong by a short sharp slap on the bum, mostly has positive effects and rarely causes mental trauma. This in fact contests psychological tests which say the exact opposite which forces me to ask the following:
What age groups did they test?
What methods were tested?
How long did the tests run?
What was the control?
What non-spanking methods were tested?
How exactly did they rate?
What types of children did they test (gender, race, etc.)?
But I digress. For those who say that violence begets violence, those who said yes are proof this is false however, I do believe this statement, I simply don?t believe spanking falls into this category, nor do many of those who were spanked, and they can even show how non-violent they are to prove that it?s false. It only seems to be people weren?t spanked who believe spanking is violence, which brings me to my next point.
The second reason I divided the people is to see how many people who weren?t spanked believe it?s wrong. A few people picked up on the trend along the way which was that most people who weren?t spanked don?t believe in it. This can be divided into two groups: people who know they were brought up fine without spanking and so know it is unnecessary and those who believe it is wrong because it seems so traumatising and the psychological societies say so. To the former: kudos to your parents. If you can raise your children without resorting to spanking as your parents did then perhaps we could make it unnecessary rather than just frowning upon it. To the latter, anyone who said yes will tell you it?s not that bad and it can actually be beneficial. Don?t believe everything various groups of scientists tell you, however, if you are undecided on the issue they can be a good guide. For the love of your children don?t yell and scream at others about how smacking their children is immoral and stupid because your kid could very well be pulling down shelves behind you. What I?m saying is, parenting is hard, different people have different methods, some smack, others simply scold, others do nothing. Better to be one of the former two than the latter, no?
Here?s my final word, spanking is an effective disciplinary method, it teaches younger children in an easily understandable, immediate way. Some children don?t need this kind of punishment, they just need a good scold or a disappointing nod for them to realise right from wrong. Spanking is not intended to be violence, it?s a way to teach children consequences, not that violence is the answer. For this reason, a smack should not be used for trivial things such as a child whining that he wants his toy out of the car while you?re at the shops. In these sorts of situations, you must reason first, then use any other tactic to get the child to be quiet. Never get angry, get stern. If you must spank, ensure they are warned it is coming and be sure to explain why you did it. When they finally do what you want reward them but stay stern. And always, ALWAYS, I mean every day, let them know you love them. The age at which spanking should end is determined by the parent, however it should be somewhere around the time they start to understand things better so you can use different methods such as grounding or removal of privileges. Finally, parenting is hard so keep calm and never handle your child?s mental state rashly, it is fragile but it CAN survive a smack or two.
Now, about the state of society, I don?t think spanking will have a magical effect on the state of the world but we do need harsher punishments for minors. People argue that they?re still learning and don?t know what they?re doing but most of the time they do and even if not, they need to be taught what they should do. But that?s a topic for another day?
Well, that concludes my major involvement in this poll. This study is by no means concluded (or legitimate for that matter so why does anyone care?) but the trend has been pretty consistent so it should remain so. I will check back intermittently so if it changes, I?ll correct my findings. However, I hope everyone?s learned something, mostly that spanking can work and has for many years but it can go VERY wrong so always try other methods first and save spanking for extreme cases, if used at all. If there?s one thing we can agree on it?s that children need SOME form of discipline, whether it?s spanking or otherwise, just ensure that there IS discipline. For the love of society, PLEASE ensure there?s discipline?