Poll: Is it ok for parents to spank their kids?
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I agree with this. When I was young I was spanked for being disobedient. At the time I hated it, but looking back 20-25 years later I understand and approve of it. My parents weren't by any means strict or sadistic about inflicting pain. I learned a lesson the hard way and I feel they made me a better person for it.Rawne1980 said:
I also had a science teacher that used to throw chalk at disobedient kids. It didn't hurt, and was more comical than anything, but it was effective for her to get attention of the class back.
I don't have kids myself at this point, but looking at the vast majority of kids out there, they need a discipline that can now get you sued or worse lost custody of your kid. It is a sad sad world.
TIP: If a topic has gone on for more than one page, then the discussion is well underway.PukingRainbows said:
If you want to jump into the middle of it, contribute something to it.
Yes. My parents (and grandma at one time) used to spank me when I did something wrong and I'm thankful for it. It kept me from becoming a complete spoiled brat. There's a line between physical discipline and physical abuse. When I got spanked, it was hard enough to hurt a little and get the message across but not hard enough to leave any marks or cause any serious pain. As mentioned before, depending on the kid, yelling doesn't work. When my brother do something wrong and our parents would yell at him, he would just stand there with a blank face on, obviously letting the lecture go in one ear and out the other and soon after continue what he did. But when we got spanked we would not to continue, and ergo, my brothers and I were raised to be decent people. But like most people I'm against actual physical abuse when it goes too far.
People are way to soft these days, I reckon a good spank is alright every now and then. Pain is a natural way of learning right from wrong, such as when you prick your finger on a thorn, you know not to touch the thorn again.
Look at kids today, they're reckless and savage little turds who want everything and complain when one thing doesn't go their way. Honestly most of them need a spanking.
I really don't think anyone should have a set decision about this matter unless they have spent alot of time with children.
Look at kids today, they're reckless and savage little turds who want everything and complain when one thing doesn't go their way. Honestly most of them need a spanking.
I really don't think anyone should have a set decision about this matter unless they have spent alot of time with children.
So, when/if your Daughter is in school and she just so happened to attack another child for being mean to her, how do you tell her it's wrong when you smack her yourself? (You didn't say you did smack her, just sayin')ravensheart18 said:
Parents are suppose to lead examples to their children, show them how to be in the big, real world, not smack them that it becomes so normal they'll think it's OK to do it to others.
And what does telling your Daughter no have to do with it? I tell mine no, she fusses and sometimes kicks up a stink, but that's normal child behavior and testing boundaries. I wouldn't physically attack her over it, though.
A few smacks does hurt someone, and that is the kid. That kid's kids, there partner, and most importantly there mental well being. Why do you think that a spank will not leave a mark on the childs mind, it could make them antisocial in the future because they dont want to be near other people, if its a man and they have a wife it will probably lead them to physically abuse their wife because they dont see anything wrong with it. Also HOW does a lack of being spanked hurt there future, they may seem like little s**ts when they're young but if the parent is actually good, they wont need spanking because they will learn whats right and whats wrong through the parent talking to them.Dense_Electric said:
Serial killers have nothing to do with being hit? Tell that to Albert Fish. I wasn't saying that spanking causes someone to become a serial killer. I was trying to poke fun at your black and white statement.You said EVERYONE never had any kind of psychological damage. Surely, there are cases where it has happened; not as extreme as becoming a serial killer, maybe more like being more antisocial. I saw some dude post a link that showed that spanking may lead to an increase rate of antisocial behavior. And where's your evidence to support that serial are spawned by their mother's cuddling?artanis_neravar said:
I was spanked, and I get paranoid whenever I see a cop anywhere. It's partially because I know I've been involved in certain activities that they might not be happy with.AMMO Kid said:
I have a friend who wasn't spanked, but he was disciplined well. He could be high off his ass, and still talk to a cop as if he were sober.
Dont even bother linking them to a long article like that, these people think there so right that they probably wont want to read it since it would prove them wrong.wackymon said:
I was spanked as a kid, I'm 17 now and very grateful. I've turned out just fine, in the future, if my kid is acting up, he will get spanked. just as he will get sweets and praise when he acts correctly.
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Read the articles yourself, here's a quote from them which gives you an answer to that:ravensheart18 said:
"The association remained even after her team accounted for varying levels of natural aggression in children, suggesting, she says, that "it's not just that children who are more aggressive are more likely to be spanked."
To be honest, given the number of Escapists who susposedly dislike children I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of them would change their tune once they have their own children and suddenly become a lot less eager to disipline physically. I find it a little disturbing that people happily advocate hurting small children and ignore scientific evidence to the contary when there are plenty of non-physical punishments that work far better if you actually have the guts to carry them out.
My mother was a text-book case of badly applied physical disipline, often attempting to avoid using it when she could but then punching me in the face for "smirking" when she lost her temper. Then again her non-physical disipline wasn't much better, telling me and my siblings that she was going to give us up since we couldn't be good, or threating to smash my baby sister's head in with a hammer, or lying to us that she was getting divorced from our dad solely to upset us. I would never want to put any child through something like that and I urge anyone reading this to carefully consider the evidence before making your decision on whether physical punishment really is a good idea.
My theory is that spanking doesn't actually teach the child a lesson it just instills "fear" in an authority that should be showing love and support. Ultimately it doesn't work, and usually encourages more misbehavior. The real solution is to talk it out and take away privileges. The idea of losing gameboy privileges was much worst than getting a spanking.
Who are you? Nobody going to care about your simple opinion five pages into a discussion.PukingRainbows said:
I'm just giving you a tip.
dead.juice said:
Who am I? I have a profile to tell you that. And thanks for the tip, much appreciated.
If you stick your hand in fire you get hurt
If you do wrong as child with a basic principle such getting too close to fire, you get hurt. Spanking in my opinion made me turn out a lot less lazy than my younger brother who didn't get spanked and is failing in school
If you do wrong as child with a basic principle such getting too close to fire, you get hurt. Spanking in my opinion made me turn out a lot less lazy than my younger brother who didn't get spanked and is failing in school
