zhoomout post=18.73851.814425 said:
That doesn't mean it is okay to though. I have been involved in enough fights (though never actually doing any fighting) to know that violence only leads to more violence. The more you fight back, the more they feel justified in attacking people in the first place.
I agree totally, but sometimes violence is required (i.e. self-defence or the defence of another). It's not right ir wrong in these cases, it's just necessary.
Do you honestly think that allowing a bully to kick your ass is going to stop his violence any more than kicking his ass to defend yourself?
A rapier wit can't stop a hard right to your nose, although that would be kind of cool...
There's an old story about Ben Franklin that I think is quite relevant to this conversation, although I'm not sure if it's true or not.
At one time, a group of over-zealous patriots were chasing down Native Americans and killing them in the frontierlands of Pennsylvania. The Native Americans fled to the Quakers in Philadelphia for protection. The over-zealous patriots came to Philadelphia and resumed their slaughter. Because of their beliefs in non-violence, the Quakers didn't do anything to stop the massacre. Ben Franklin gathered the Pennsylvania militia, marched into Philadelphia, and killed or arrested everyone who was taking part in the massacre.
The violence was met with violence, and it stopped. It would have ceased on its own, but every Native American still in Pennsylvania would have been lynched.
To defend oneself or another, it is perfectly acceptable to do whatever is necessary to ensure that an attacker can no longer cause harm.