Poll: Is this a dick move?

[2012 Wont Happen]

Ok. So let me give you some background before I get into the question:

I am 15. My parents have been sort of off and on together for about a year, and been a terrible couple since I've been alive. A few months ago, my dad moved to a different city 60 miles away (not the dick move yet) as his general actions of cheating on my mom and being an all-in-all dick to her (dick moves, but not the specific one in question) had driven her quite insane. Up until that time, I had been homeschooled, so I was moved to a city 90 miles away from where I used to live to move in with my sister and her husband to go to highschool with the plan that my mom would move out to where I am as soon as she could so I could get settled in high school and live with her.

Right now, I am, for the first time in years, what I would describe as legitimately happy or, less charitably but more accurately, not fucking depressed about my situation.

So now, out of the blue, my parents decided to get back together. Now my dad is telling me that he wants us all to move to the place HE lives, even though they've tried to get back together many times and failed because they both say all this crap they're gonna do for each other, then they just slip back into the same pattern that broke them up in the first place.

So, my question, summed up, is-

Is it a dick move to move me out to a place with the expectation that I would live there permanently, then, as soon as I'm settled and for once enjoying life, to, on a whim, decide that he (my mom actually still wants to move to where I am so I can keep living here) wants to move me somewhere else?

 

[Chancie]

I would say yes, just because I know how difficult changing situations like that can be. Especially after you're comfortable and more or less happy.

If you were older, I'd say stay where you are...but as you're only 15, I'd suggest you confront him about. Civilly. Just calming and rationally explain to him what's going on with you and try to persuade him and your mother to let you stay where you are. You never know; it may do the trick.

 

[DannyBoy451]

Ok. So let me give you some background before I get into the question:

I am 15. My parents have been sort of off and on together for about a year, and been a terrible couple since I've been alive. A few months ago, my dad moved to a different city 60 miles away (not the dick move yet) as his general actions of cheating on my mom and being an all-in-all dick to her (dick moves, but not the specific one in question) had driven her quite insane. Up until that time, I had been homeschooled, so I was moved to a city 90 miles away from where I used to live to move in with my sister and her husband to go to highschool with the plan that my mom would move out to where I am as soon as she could so I could get settled in high school and live with her.

Right now, I am, for the first time in years, what I would describe as legitimately happy or, less charitably but more accurately, not fucking depressed about my situation.

So now, out of the blue, my parents decided to get back together. Now my dad is telling me that he wants us all to move to the place HE lives, even though they've tried to get back together many times and failed because they both say all this crap they're gonna do for each other, then they just slip back into the same pattern that broke them up in the first place.

So, my question, summed up, is-

Is it a dick move to move me out to a place with the expectation that I would live there permanently, then, as soon as I'm settled and for once enjoying life, to, on a whim, decide that he (my mom actually still wants to move to where I am so I can keep living here) wants to move me somewhere else?

Totaly a dick move, though I voted don't complain.

Also: people who were born in '94 are 15 now? Christ, I feel old...

 

[TheNumber1Zero]

Kinda yeah. I wouldn't worry though, you can always feign a Nervous Breakdown if all else fails

 

[johnfistyadams]

If its been proven before that they just don't work together and that you are happy in your new home, then yes. It is dickheaded to move you for the sake of "taking a shot at being a family again." But still if you haven't talked to them about what you want, then you should do so now. Before you become miserable and resent them.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

I would say yes, just because I know how difficult changing situations like that can be. Especially after you're comfortable and more or less happy.

If you were older, I'd say stay where you are...but as you're only 15, I'd suggest you confront him about. Civilly. Just calming and rationally explain to him what's going on with you and try to persuade him and your mother to let you stay where you are. You never know; it may do the trick.

well, I already did confront him about it. Although I used the words "fucking" and "god damn" so I don't think it's quite civil how I did it. I'm a very reactionary person.

 

[Timotei]

DICK MOVE!!

I do find that wrong. Depending on how many times they have tried to get back together I can see this as a very potentially dangerous situation.

 

[OWENR22]

Yes, this seems like a dick move. As long as your sister doesn't mind, ask if you can stay with her while they deal with their problems.

 

[JRCB]

If you're happy with the area that you are lving in, maybe you could try to get him to move there. If that doesn't work, see if you can stay living with your sister.

 

[MelasZepheos_v1legacy]

Just don't even bother asking us. We don't know you, we don't know you're family, and although you might think you've just given us context, you haven't. Stop complaining, we can't help you, and since you didn't ask our opinions on what you might do, this is jsut whining, and it's a huge annoyance on the internet.

 

[archvile93]

Screw him refuse to go and stay where you are. As long as yor sister can put up with you, he can't do anything.

 

[Valate_v1legacy]

That IS an asshole move. Sounds like my dad. He's lucky he hides the crowbar.

 

[New York Patrick]

Yeah, that's a dick move alrighty...

 

[Chicago Ted]

That does sound like a pretty big dick move. Could you stay with your sister for the time being?

 

[twistedmic]

I call dick move. If you're actually (moderately) happy living with your sister and brother-in-law I'd talk to your mom about it, or get your sister to talk to her, about letting you stay with them (sister and brother-in-law) eve if she tries to work things out with your dad/ aka Colossal Dickhead

 

[dududf]

I voted don't complain about your problems on th einternet.

But yeah it's a dick move. Also I'd like to point out that your mother is guilty for keep on falling in "love" with him.

 

[LooK iTz Jinjo]

Tell your dad to fuck off and do what makes you happy. I did it and it was the best move of my life.

 

[Moonmover]

At least he's trying to get the family back together.

 

[Megaman1222]

I wouldn't call you a dick, you seem like a nice enough kid just trying your best to get through life happily.

Joking aside, YEA... pretty much. seems like your father doesnt think about anyone but himself. :/

 

[Kuchinawa212]

As the optimist that I am, I say that time they could really mean it and you could be happy living as one bug family again.

I dunno if that's going to happen or not