Poll: Is this a dick move?

[Xero Scythe]

Refuse. not even Yahtzee could think of a bigger dick move.

 

[oppp7]

Try using diplomacy. Let them know what their fighting is doing to you.

 

[CoziestPigeon]

Sucks that you are only 15 and can't really do anything about it, but yes, its a dick move. Tell him that if he really wants you and your mom back, he can come to you. Especially when he has a history of shitheadedness.

 

[cainx10a]

At least he's trying to get the family back together.

This. Although the real reason I would say you should consider having both a mommy and a daddy is ultimately having a stable economic support. Pretty useful when you are going to college after a few years.

 

[Carbonel]

In my own opinion your parents should care about what you think about that whole mess. Stay where you are with your sister if that is an option but if it isn't and IF your parents break up again after moving you all together again you will have the very small consolidation of saying: "I told you so"

 

[Blatherscythe]

Just don't even bother asking us. We don't know you, we don't know you're family, and although you might think you've just given us context, you haven't. Stop complaining, we can't help you, and since you didn't ask our opinions on what you might do, this is jsut whining, and it's a huge annoyance on the internet.

Get a life *CENSORED*hole. The kid has parents that are just as uncaring as you. He is at a turning point in his life and your calling him a whiny *PROFANE*? Hes not the annoyance you are. Honestly do you think before you text?

 

[historybuff]

Sounds like your mom is weak and your dad is an idiot. Call them out on it because they are being selfishly disruptive to your life and vote to stay with your sister.

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

Yeah, dick move, you should tell them to fuck off. That's what I do when my parents mess up my life significantly.

 

[Flour]

Judging from the OP, you're happy where you are. It's a dick move, if you really don't want to, then try to find out if wherever you live there is a law that allows you to live with your sister.

 

[Rheden_Sol]

Major dick move. Don't know what you can do about it. Depends on your persuasion skills to get him to shut it and make him see his large, throbbing knobbishness(icky). Don't sweat it too much though, just a few more years and you can high-tail it to greener pastures.

 

[DanDeFool]

Yep. That's a Dirty Sanchez to be sure.

I would quite calmly explain to the man that because he and your mother are clearly incapable of making their relationship work, and because his floundering is threatening to mess up a genuinely good thing you have going right now, that he should reconsider his options.

 

[jebus4you]

Ok. So let me give you some background before I get into the question:

I am 15. My parents have been sort of off and on together for about a year, and been a terrible couple since I've been alive. A few months ago, my dad moved to a different city 60 miles away (not the dick move yet) as his general actions of cheating on my mom and being an all-in-all dick to her (dick moves, but not the specific one in question) had driven her quite insane. Up until that time, I had been homeschooled, so I was moved to a city 90 miles away from where I used to live to move in with my sister and her husband to go to highschool with the plan that my mom would move out to where I am as soon as she could so I could get settled in high school and live with her.

Right now, I am, for the first time in years, what I would describe as legitimately happy or, less charitably but more accurately, not fucking depressed about my situation.

So now, out of the blue, my parents decided to get back together. Now my dad is telling me that he wants us all to move to the place HE lives, even though they've tried to get back together many times and failed because they both say all this crap they're gonna do for each other, then they just slip back into the same pattern that broke them up in the first place.

So, my question, summed up, is-

Is it a dick move to move me out to a place with the expectation that I would live there permanently, then, as soon as I'm settled and for once enjoying life, to, on a whim, decide that he (my mom actually still wants to move to where I am so I can keep living here) wants to move me somewhere else?

Yeah its a major dick move, stay away from that douche and have fun. I have dealt with a shitty home life myself im envious of your situation of being completely happy where you are

 

[The_Chief]

Sounds like your mom is weak and your dad is an idiot. Call them out on it because they are being selfishly disruptive to your life and vote to stay with your sister.

QFT this is one of the best advices i've read. do this or do what i do and just rage and break something to get them to stop and focus on you. but that isnt be helpful now is it. but yea confront them on how u think its a stupid idea

 

[Supreme Unleaded]

Normaly I wouldn't sujgest the teenage VIVA LE REVOLUTION thing but it fits here qite nicely. Tell your parents off, call them up and say you don't want to live with them because you finaly have a life and your happy for once. You can make it up later in life.

 

[I_LIKE_CAKE]

that sucks man, no one can fuck you over quite like your parents. Just try and stay sane until you reach age of majority.

 

[Shamgarr]

I think the real question is whether or not it's a dick move for you to not move back with them. Personally I think you should do what you think is best, but it would be completely unfair if you went with them and they went back to the way it was an eventually split up.

 

[Snowalker]

Yes. Screw him I say, he has no right to do that to you.

Well, in turth, it depends on who has custody to determine wether he has the right to do that, but regardless, its still a dick move.

 

[AvsJoe]

I would tell you to get out of there and start a life of your own, but you're too young to do that. I guess my advise is to just work with the carpy cards that you were dealt in life.

 

[Logic 0]

Eat his heart to gain his courage his rich tasty courage. YUM!

 

[New York Patrick]

At least he's trying to get the family back together.

And we all know that works...

Anyone remember Jon Bon Jovi in Pay it Forward....