Poll: Long distance relationships.

[Chancie]

So, my friend today was complaining that her boyfriend wanted to break up with her. He had told her that it "wasn't fair that she should have to wait around for him to come visit her." They live in different parts of the US and actually haven't seen each other in a little over a year.

She had said the whole thing was stupid because she's never complained about not seeing him for a long time and in a way, it seemed like she was kind of rejecting the idea of him breaking up with her and was trying to make him stay in the relationship.

So anyway, what do you guys think about long-distance relationships?
I personally think they're a stupid idea unless, of course, you're already married and it's just for work/military/etc. purposes.
But I don't understand how you can be dating someone that you hardly get to see in person. I dunno, I've never tried a long distance relationship but I just think it's a bad idea.

What about you?

 

[Julianking93]

They can be nice but it would quickly become annoying when you can't see them for months at a time.

I like more close and intimate relationships.

 

[the_pleasure_is_mine]

I'm in one unfortunately and i can't move to her for another year or so.
But we are really close and talk for hours a day and when we do get to be together we go out and have a full day together. It's not easy but she means enough to me that it's worth it

 

[101194]

Eh, It ends up the guy or the girl "Cheating" On the other person, and feeling guilty and then breaking up with the person.

 

[Trivun]

I was in a long distance relationship. In fact, I was in two, except the first one was when I was about 12 years old so I don't really count that. But still, neither one worked out long term. Then again, one of my housemates is seeing a guy who lives in France. He came to the UK to see her and I met him, he seemed a nice sort. Seems to be working out for them. Another of my housemates is in a stable relationship with his old girlfriend, who lives over a hundred miles south of us, near Bristol. So I guess sometimes it can work. It didn't for me. But it's not a stupid idea.

 

[ActionDan]

Long distance relationships have never gone in mine or anyone's favour. You need physical interaction in a relationship. Actually talking face to face with someone.

 

[jasoncyrus]

They work quite well, thats how i met my fiance I'm in the UK shes in the US.

 

[TimeLord]

Long Distance relationships don't work.

Been in one, it failed

 

[fix-the-spade]

Erm... they can work, but they only seem to work if the other person is genuinely the most important thing in each side's life.

More than a year apart is fear of breaking up more than a relationship, if it was going to work they'd be doing everything they could practically do to spend more time together, probably succeeding too. I guess it just depends on whether s/he is worth it or not.

 

[Indecizion]

They never work, they just draw out a painful situation whilst not allowing either party to move on/ get laid.

 

[Axle_Bullitt_19]

To me it seems that it would really depend on the people who are apart of it in order to make it work[sub]but then again arn't all relationships that way[/sub]

So long as both are willing to tuff it out it can be just as good as a short distance relationship. Plus not being able to see each other often would make the little time you do spend together all that much more meaningful.

 

[Raven's Nest]

Although I wouldn't personally get into one, or allow one to happen from a normal close distance relationship, but they can work if you put enough effort in. My friend has been 'seeing' a girl online for over a year now. She lives in Florida and he is in England. You'd never believe they have never met... Until May coming that is...

 

[SantoUno]

Long Distance relationships don't work.

Been in one, it failed

Same, I just wish I never had it, wasted my entire senior year because I was tied to her, didn't enjoy it.

 

[Joa_Belgium]

I'd go for the second choice. It's perfectly normal that two people can fall in love, even though they live hundreds of miles away. But it's only possible temporarily, sustaining it on a long-term basis is just unhealthy for a relationship. Someone eventually has to move closer to the other person, or in the best scenario: both of them move closer to each other.

 

[TimeLord]

Long Distance relationships don't work.

Been in one, it failed

Same, I just wish I never had it, wasted my entire senior year because I was tied to her, didn't enjoy it.

Yep, all my mates assumed when she moved away I was single again, then they would so out to parties and meet girls etc. While my girl was 6,000,000,000,000,000 miles away probably cheating on me.
[sub] It was only about 200 miles but that's not the point[/sub]

 

[Banana Phone Man]

If they work then that's fantastic but most of the time they don't. For friends it works (I'm in England and my best friend lives in Norway, we only see each other maybe once a year) but for intimate relationships it mostly fails.

 

[David Bray]

I broke with my ex because it would mean a long distance relationship but i would happily work for my current girlfriend. Luckily i havent been put in that position cause they're a ridiculous pain in the ass.

 

[Taerdin]

Imagine you meet the perfect person for you, someone better than anyone you've ever met before, but you live far apart. Do you not even try to make it work? I've been in a committed relationship with my girlfriend for two years now and she lives a 2 hour flight from where I am. We fly to see eachother about 4 or 5 times a year, and its expensive as hell, but its worth it. I couldn't be happier and I can't wait for us to both finish school so we can start a life together.

Long distance relationships stupid? Maybe if you're stupid at picking who to be in a relationship with. I find most people need to smarten up about who they date anyways, so many people make so many horrible choices its painful!

 

[derdeutschmachine]

its a good idea in theory but rarely works. mostly cause young people like to have epic amounts of sex and when you can't get it you go elsewhere. In your friends situation, the guy probably had other prospects lined up before dumping the distant relationship.

 

[jezzy]

Basically everything that Taerdin said.

I've been in one for over a year, and it's the best relationship I've ever had. Certain people just aren't made to be in one, so that's one reason why it doesn't always work. But given enough care and effort, it's wonderful, and I don't think anyone should simply give up on a person just because they live far away.