Poll: Long distance relationships.

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HerrBobo

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Ah, a topic close to my heart.

I'm in a long distance relationship.

I was going out with her about a year when she told me she had been accepted into college in England. I was devastated. When we first started going out she told me that she had applied to college in England. At the time though that seemed so far away, I did not really think about. When she found out we talked about what we should do, and where the relationship should go and so on. We both decided that we did not wanna do the distance thing and we ended it, on very good, loving terms. I mean she left my house to go to the airport.

It sucked, major ass.

We stayed in contact. Maybe once every two weeks. I was very happy to still be in contact, but I was not just gonna sit around and wait for her to tell me she was seeing someone else; I was with several other women. Did not help much though; the girl I loved was not mine. I had done nothing wrong, and yet she was not mine. I was pretty pissed off.

She came home at Xmas and we were together, we told each other that we were still in love and there was some talk of getting back together, but nothing really came of it. It was decided that I go over to here in Feb and we would see how it went. So, over I went and we had a great few days together. It was decided that we would get back together. We had been split up about 6 months.

We are together now, getting on for a year. I really dont think its that hard. Sure, sure, I miss her every day, but I would rather this then not have her in my life at all. I'm 28, been with my fair share of girl, and I have never found one that even come close to her. We talk on Skype, 2-3 times a week and I go over to her about once a month. Then of course, she is home during the Summmer, Xmas and Easter. It is hard, but it is worth it.
 

x0ny

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I'm in a long distance relationship, we make contact everyday, whether it be a simple sms or phone call or email. We were together during university, but after we graduated we had to go our different ways until we can get married. It's tough, but when we do get to see each other, we cherish the time more, and makes each meeting extra special.
 

JohnnySex

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It's a horrible idea. I got into a long-distance relationship once and it didn't work out well at all.
 

drisky

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Eh, It ends up the guy or the girl "Cheating" On the other person, and feeling guilty and then breaking up with the person.
I can vouch for that one, happened to me after a week. But I've seen long distance relationships work too, one just has to eventually move.
 

TehCookie

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I was in one for a little more than a year but it didn't work out as the calls became less and less frequent. Even though he was only 3 hours away we didn't have our licenses so we could only meet in person if we persuaded our parents to drive us (which never really went over well). Hey that's longer than most people date in high school, or at least my school.
 

Asturiel

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A decent idea, you guys want to keep the relationship going and I appreciate it.

However it has a 90% chance of failiure considering most human beings once in a relationship need their partner physically right there. Its a damn shame most people cant handle it or realize they cant and end their relationships over something not related to the people themselves really.
 

Drakarta

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Imagine you meet the perfect person for you, someone better than anyone you've ever met before, but you live far apart. Do you not even try to make it work? I've been in a committed relationship with my girlfriend for two years now and she lives a 2 hour flight from where I am. We fly to see eachother about 4 or 5 times a year, and its expensive as hell, but its worth it. I couldn't be happier and I can't wait for us to both finish school so we can start a life together.

Long distance relationships stupid? Maybe if you're stupid at picking who to be in a relationship with. I find most people need to smarten up about who they date anyways, so many people make so many horrible choices its painful!
I couldn't agree with you more, of course it's not going to work if the basis of the relationship is something like "Yeah, she's hot and she sometimes likes stuff I like."

I'm currently in a longish distance relationship, We live a little over 100 miles away and are both too poor to be able to see each other very often, but so far so good.

Also I don't really think one failed relationship is grounds for dismissing long distance rlationships as pointless and futile or a horrible idea all together.
 

Insanum

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Ok, Anything more than 20 miles is long distance, And within say...20-50 miles is workable, You can go visit. Anything more than that just doesnt work.

Its not a relationship, Its a friendship you can say naughty things too.
 

sky14kemea

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Hmmm.. I've never been in one, but I've seen it work for some people :/ so I dunno.

*Well done Sky, a helpful comment indeed*

Oh sharrup you.
 

awmperry

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Well, I met my girlfriend on a fan community for a sitcom. We started chatting about co-writing a story, then sort of forgot about the writing. She's from South Africa, I divide my time between Sweden and the UK. After six months of daily Skype conversations - averaging five hours a day during that time - she came up here for two months, spent Christmas with me and my family. Now she's back in SA while she applies for leave to remain, and I'm due to go down to spend a month or more with her in the next month or two.

So yeah, they can work. There's a hell of a lot of obstacles, and it can be absolutely hideous (particularly the bit where you have to end the call each night), but if it's the right people and the separation is relatively short-term it can certainly work.
 

Meridian

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If you can't keep up a long-distance relationship, then you didn't love each other to begin with. That's my opinion.