Alex Gray said:
Pubescent kids love to talk, especially in environments where they feel safe. It's well-established that adolescents of both genders routinely exaggerate their sexual experience and prowess to impress others.
True, but I'm not talking strictly about adolescents - these are grown women of my acquaintance as well.
Alex Gray said:
I am quite a bit older than you and that has not been my experience or the experience of anyone I know (as long as we're citing Unverifiable Personal Gnosis here).
Very well, as evidence that is more than Unverifiable Personal Gnosis, a University of Georgia study found that over 75% percent of college co-ed had had oral sex and 51.8% performed it regularly. This certainly qualifies as "most". So for a young man of college age who is worried about paternity issues, oral sex is certainly a viable option with most female partners. You can read it here:
http://www.uhs.uga.edu/sexualhealth/oral_sex.html
I think we may have hit on a significant difference in perspective, then - not only am I quite a bit older than you, but I had the misfortune of being expected to study and get good grades in college, and my social life suffered accordingly (and for the best, I think). My experience mostly occurred after college.
I'm not sure how old you are, but again, according to the research (Sanders, Stephanie A., Hill, Brandon J., Yarber, William L., Graham, Cynthia A., Crosby, Richard A. and Milhausen, Robin R. (2010). Misclassification bias: diversity in conceptualizations about having 'had sex.' Sexual Health 7(1): 31?34. DOI:10.1071/SH09068. - summarized here: http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/resources/images/SexualBehaviorPIc.jpg), instances of oral sex actually
increase after college, with 76% percent of women having performed it on a man within the last year in the 25-29 year old cohort. It declines to 59% for the 30-39 year old women, but it's still well within the realm of "most". In fact, it remains that way right up until the 50-59 year old age group; unless you're over 50, your experiences are unusual.
And, well... sorry about that, mate. Nothing more I can say really. If I were dating you, I'd go down. For most men over 18 and under 50, it's an entirely viable option if they've got paternity concerns.
(EDIT: Even more directly, the same study - National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB). Findings from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, Centre for Sexual Health Promotion, Indiana University. Journal of Sexual Medicine, Vol. 7, Supplement 5 - found that
Half or more of women ages 18 to 39 reported giving or receiving oral sex in the past 90 days. Not only are they willing to do it, most women are willing to do it with considerable regularity. I think your sample size is a bit skewed, especially if they're comparing sperm to a gun to the face - you
really need to get out of whatever dating circle you're currently in because it appears to be populated by the most frigid women I've ever heard of.)