Poll: Marrying your step-brother/sister
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I don't see a problem with it. If me and my step-sister (I don't have one) hypothetically were attracted to each other in that way I would date her. If not I wouldn't.
People who read this question may mistakenly interpret the question either consciously or subconsciously as "Would you date someone you thought of as a sister". This obviously isn't the case in such relationships.
People who read this question may mistakenly interpret the question either consciously or subconsciously as "Would you date someone you thought of as a sister". This obviously isn't the case in such relationships.
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I have no idea, since my only sister is 100% biological and while I love her more than anything in the world, I don't love her in that way. I don't see any moral issues with step-siblings marrying each other though I have doubts about whether they would actually want to do it, especially if they had been together since they were children since research has shown that it's generally difficult for male-female couples who have grown up together since they were aged six or below to fall into romantic love (regardless of whether they are actually related or not).
I don't really see a hard border, to be honest. How grown and mature the kids are when the parents marry is what determines the relationship between the kids. It could range everywhere from distant friends (me and my step-siblings, as my mom didn't remarry until I was 22) to siblings-in-all-but-blood.Dags90 said:
If the kids have grown enough to establish their own ideas of family, and there is little-to-no development of a "familial bond" between them, it's all good.
Like I said, there's nothing inherently wrong with it at all, but if they grew up together and think of themselves as blood family (which is relatively common for younger kids), it's a bit squicky.
While there's nothing morally wrong with step-siblings becoming romantically involved, it's highly improbably due to reverse imprinting which happens between childhood peers that continue to cohabitate through to puberty. In fact, this is the one reason we don't need to fear a mass of marriages between blood siblings were law to allow it: it just doesn't happen very often.
Regarding the potential of breaking up with a cohabitating step-sibling this isn't much more different than breaking up with an otherwise unrelated cohabitant, especially in this economy, in which finding a new place can be extremely difficult or impossible. In my own case, it's always been a personal code to regard my exes with civility (and despite our histories I can still remember she is someone I once loved). The awkwardness of a recent break-up, as intense as it can be, is transitory, and in eons during which we organized into tribes and bands, the process of forgiveness and re-inclusion was more necessary, so I don't see why, but for the convenience of alternatives, we practice it now.
But for the most part, between live-in siblings, step- or otherwise, it wouldn't happen.
Fun Fact: For most of history in western civilization, it was actually unlawful to marry step-siblings, since they were regarded as siblings-by-blood. On the other hand, marriages between cousins, or (just as often) uncles and nieces (less so aunts and nephews) were quite legal and commonly practiced. Only during the twentieth century did attitudes change.
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Regarding the potential of breaking up with a cohabitating step-sibling this isn't much more different than breaking up with an otherwise unrelated cohabitant, especially in this economy, in which finding a new place can be extremely difficult or impossible. In my own case, it's always been a personal code to regard my exes with civility (and despite our histories I can still remember she is someone I once loved). The awkwardness of a recent break-up, as intense as it can be, is transitory, and in eons during which we organized into tribes and bands, the process of forgiveness and re-inclusion was more necessary, so I don't see why, but for the convenience of alternatives, we practice it now.
But for the most part, between live-in siblings, step- or otherwise, it wouldn't happen.
Fun Fact: For most of history in western civilization, it was actually unlawful to marry step-siblings, since they were regarded as siblings-by-blood. On the other hand, marriages between cousins, or (just as often) uncles and nieces (less so aunts and nephews) were quite legal and commonly practiced. Only during the twentieth century did attitudes change.
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It's pretty much the same as the whole "incest if they use contraception" argument. Again, people seem to think the problem with incest is to do with genes, not that there's complex emotional and moral issues with sleeping with a relative (by blood or not). Mind you, I'm not going to go preaching my morals to anyone, so it really is none of my business what anyone does.
Honestly I wouldn't no matter how much I feel attracted to her. I would be emotionally conflict to whether to view her as a sister or as a lover (that and my moral compass would mess me up).
I guess it really depends on the context. Far be it for me to condemn what another person wants to do with his life (insofar as it doesn't restrict another person's freedoms, so no to the child molestors, who I think should have their 'weapon' removed, if you'll indulge a little Sin City justice). I have my own prejudices about it, but I guess I was lucky to not have a sister (step or otherwise), so the question never came up in my line of thought.
Also, as an aside to the idea of people being lucky to not be born in the USA, I consider myself extremely lucky to be born in the USA. I encourage anyone who really does hate it here to apply for permanent residency it the country of thier choice.
Also, as an aside to the idea of people being lucky to not be born in the USA, I consider myself extremely lucky to be born in the USA. I encourage anyone who really does hate it here to apply for permanent residency it the country of thier choice.
Hey, if it were up to me I'd be in Germany right now. FĆ¼r Deutschland!YamadaJisho said:
But in all honesty, that's the only other place I'd like to be right now. So in hindsight (as the thread maker), I guess I am pretty lucky to born here given all the other places I could have been born.
The only concern I have with incest is the genetic issues arising from inbreeding. Aside from that what harmless things consenting adults do is their own business.