Poll: No children: a turn-off?
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You know what this poll results have shown me? That there are a helluva lot more gents than ladies on the Escapist forums.
As far as the question goes, I've already got two, so I don't need you to want some. On the other hand, if you're not the person I've already dedicated my life to, the point's kinda moot. We're not getting together. (Trust me, it's no big loss. I'm kind of a jerk.)
As far as the question goes, I've already got two, so I don't need you to want some. On the other hand, if you're not the person I've already dedicated my life to, the point's kinda moot. We're not getting together. (Trust me, it's no big loss. I'm kind of a jerk.)
It would affect my decision, but not as a turn-off, rather a turn-on, as I have no desire for children myself and someone who thinks similarly easily saves some argument down the line.
This.Palademon said:
My genes need to proliferate across the Pacific Northwest. First Washington, then the world!
Based on my last name and according to the Bible, I get to inherit the Earth anyways
I'd be fine because I won't have children either way. The parts work as far as I know, but I'd never get into a relationship anyway, so I probably won't have any. Actually, that makes your question kind of irrelevent for me doesn't it? If I did somehow find myself unlucky enough to end up in a relationship I probably wouldn't want any. Children really shouldn't be raised by someone lacking social skills and hating most people anyway.
Well, I am female and would like to have children, though I can't have them myself. Being with a partner who doesn't want to have children though is not a deal breaker. Especially true as my boyfriend does not wish to have any more, as he has five adult children from a previous marriage. And besides that, we are both getting a bit long in the tooth to adopt a child, even if we could afford to support another person.
I want spawn. at least one. i like kids. what I don't get is why so many escapists HATE kids. it seems odd to me.
My reaction would be "oh really? Me too! Glad we agree "
So, no, it wouldn't be a turn-off. I don't want kids. I'd be an awful mother, and I am neither fond of nor good with small children.
"So, no, it wouldn't be a turn-off. I don't want kids. I'd be an awful mother, and I am neither fond of nor good with small children.
I hate kids, so yay! Much better for me.
EDIT: So, I actually should say, it would affect my decision, for the better.
EDIT: So, I actually should say, it would affect my decision, for the better.
If they wanted children right away, that would be a turn off, because I don't.
Unless I intended to have children with said person (ie. there would be a very direct conflict of interests and the intention behind the relationship), I don't see how it would really affect the relationship. Why should my relationship with someone now be affected by something that they don't want in the future?
The important thing for me is whether I am attracted by their looks and personality. Where they plan to be in 5, 10 years time is a non-issue.
Unless I intended to have children with said person (ie. there would be a very direct conflict of interests and the intention behind the relationship), I don't see how it would really affect the relationship. Why should my relationship with someone now be affected by something that they don't want in the future?
The important thing for me is whether I am attracted by their looks and personality. Where they plan to be in 5, 10 years time is a non-issue.
Sorry to sound like some horrible ogre here but I dont want kids, ever and i have little time or patience for them. I am old enough to make this decision not to have them and if a prospective partner also didnt want kids then i would consider it a bonus.
However all things change with time and no matter how sure I or this partner was i still wouldnt discount a change of mind on one or both sides.
However all things change with time and no matter how sure I or this partner was i still wouldnt discount a change of mind on one or both sides.
I honestly am not sure whether I want kids or not, so someone who is so opposed to them might not be the one for me. I mean, I think I'll eventually meet someone on the same wavelength as me, and they'll be the one for me. I think I'd make the decision based on whether I want to raise kids with that person or not.
Although the whole pain of childbirth thing is not something I am looking forward to, should I end up having kids.
Although the whole pain of childbirth thing is not something I am looking forward to, should I end up having kids.
I live in a very backward kind of life. My first girlfriend (my only girlfriend) wanted to have kids. The main reason I didn't want to reproduce involve issues with my dad.
The thing is if I had married my ex, I would have been against having kids because she wanted to have them so badly.
Now, I am against having kids, but if I ever did meet a girl who thought having kids would be a bad idea, I'd change my tune after a few months and I'd suddenly want kids.
It's an opposite attract sort of thing.
The thing is if I had married my ex, I would have been against having kids because she wanted to have them so badly.
Now, I am against having kids, but if I ever did meet a girl who thought having kids would be a bad idea, I'd change my tune after a few months and I'd suddenly want kids.
It's an opposite attract sort of thing.
I have no problem with that. In fact, I demand it. I decided a long time ago that I never want kids, and I learned the hard way to never, ever seriously date a woman who already has them. Not for the usual "kids are a pain" reasons, but because when it goes bad and you stop seeing her, you might be glad to have her out of your life for goodd (I know I was), but you still miss the little blighters...