Poll: No tolerance zone for bitching
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If that's how it went, I see nothing wrong with what you did. If you perform a kindness to someone, you should be able to expect gratitude rather than a stream of comments about the tools with which you do it. I have never made a negative comment about some deficiency in someone's car except the ones that the owner brought up first and that we had a little laugh about. Similarly, I suck at driving (in the sense of finding my way around, making the correct turns, etc., not in the sense of avoiding collisions) and am aware of it, and so are the people I've driven, but with one or two exceptions they've had the decency to not make an issue of it until I brought it up, because by driving them around I was doing them a favor.
If someone is rude to you while you're doing a favor there's absolutely nothing wrong with cancelling the favor. I don't know how she didn't see it coming, and I don't know why so many people here think you were unduly harsh. It was entirely within her power to not get dropped off on some street corner while running late for work. All she had to do was not be rude. If she didn't like you or your car, all she had to do was wait it out and then decline future offers for help and seek other means of transportation.
If someone is rude to you while you're doing a favor there's absolutely nothing wrong with cancelling the favor. I don't know how she didn't see it coming, and I don't know why so many people here think you were unduly harsh. It was entirely within her power to not get dropped off on some street corner while running late for work. All she had to do was not be rude. If she didn't like you or your car, all she had to do was wait it out and then decline future offers for help and seek other means of transportation.
Seriously?manic_depressive13 said:
It's not rude for your brother to talk about how shit his own car is. Nor would it be rude for his passenger to join in if it's being played for laughs. However, if the passenger were to talk about how shit the car was first as an actual complaint, before your brother had brought it up, and while your brother is doing them a favor, then yes, it's rude.
I'm not sure why you didn't see the difference, but oh well.
This was not an overly sensitive reaction, it was a perfectly reasonable response to a lack of gratitude. If I engaged in this behavior and didn't get asked to leave I would think the driver had self-esteem issues. If I'd been the driver, I would have given a warning first, also commenting on how bizarre and self-defeating her behavior was in the first place. I would also let her know that I would not be doing this for her again. Still, just telling her to GTFO is within the range of understandable reactions, though it is pretty close to the harsh end of that range.
The passengers are often the first to comment, and my brothers response is always along the lines of: "Ha! You think that's bad? You should hear the noise it makes when I drive uphill.", and then everyone has a good chuckle while inwardly fearing for their safety. What he doesn't say is: "How dare you comment on the quality of a piece of machinery I own, get the fuck out of my sight. We're not friends anymore."McMullen said:
I already said I was tired of this argument. I think that what the OP did was very aggressive, and that's it. No amount of disagreement is going to make me feel that it's acceptable to have a rage fit and jeapardise a person's job over something so trivial. The end.
it wasn't a dick move to kick her out of the car. She had been planning to walk, so she can walk, and aught to be thankful for as much of the ride she got, especially as she was being such a *****. Had you agreed to give her a ride ahead of time, then maybe that would be a bit of a dick move, but she shouldn't dis the car that's getting her to work. plain and simple. Arrogant prissy bitches can walk.shitoutonme said:
I think it's fair no matter the reason - she shouldn't have gotten in when you offered her a ride if she was just gonna criticize it. I would have just dealt with it, having a sense of chivalry and all, but if somebody does you a favour, you THANK them, not point out the faults of their methods.
I agree with you. She's got some big ovaries insulting the person whose helping her out. Also, if she was seriously the eighth person who insulted your vehicle, then I'd feel the same exact way. Hell, I'd probably be just as sick of it after the third person!shitoutonme said:
OP is quite awesome. I'm a female (just felt like I needed to bring this up for some reason) and it bothers me when some girls take these kinds of things for granted. I have some friends who keep telling me how shitty something of mine is, "you should get a better shower(WTF?)/computer/speakers"... However, I'm too polite a person to be able to say, "If you don't like it, leave" so I have a lot of respect for OP. I wish I could do something like that.
Really, if the female was as bitchy as you made her sound at least she understood she went a little too far with commenting your car/radio etc.
Really, if the female was as bitchy as you made her sound at least she understood she went a little too far with commenting your car/radio etc.
Well it's probably been said but the 'gift horse + mouth = no" analogy really is relevant here. Now you work at Walmart, so even working full-time it's not gonna give you that much disposable income and changing cars is an expensive prospect so really, it's not on you at all, except maybe to have told her this (in kind terms) once and THEN kicked her out if she carried on complaining.
Really though, if you've provided an accurate account of what happened then she's the one with the problem, not you.
Really though, if you've provided an accurate account of what happened then she's the one with the problem, not you.
I would've done the same thing in your position, except I probably wouldn't have remained so collected about it, so I definitely give you props on that count.
I'd like it if this forum was a no tolerance zone for bitching. Just saying.
OT: Dude, get over yourself. If your "kind" enough to give the girl a lift, you can probably stand having someone make fun of your precious car long enough to not leave them stranded. If I had guests over at my house overnight, and one of them complains about the decorations, it's not "keeping my cool" to make them stay outside till someone picks them up.
Everyone complains, just deal with it.
OT: Dude, get over yourself. If your "kind" enough to give the girl a lift, you can probably stand having someone make fun of your precious car long enough to not leave them stranded. If I had guests over at my house overnight, and one of them complains about the decorations, it's not "keeping my cool" to make them stay outside till someone picks them up.
Everyone complains, just deal with it.
Agree with what everyone else has said, she should have been grateful you gave her a lift and left the comments to herself.
You need to calm down and stop taking everything so seriously though, not everyone will share your opinion. They don't know the car has served you well, they're just taking it at face value. I'd say you were justified but this post makes you come off as a sexist Internet tough guy.
You need to calm down and stop taking everything so seriously though, not everyone will share your opinion. They don't know the car has served you well, they're just taking it at face value. I'd say you were justified but this post makes you come off as a sexist Internet tough guy.
What he said. Surely you'd stop after the 2nd or 3rd time it happened? In a way, there's no one to blame but yourself if you keep putting yourself through this.PhunkyPhazon said:
You can't be serious. Since when is it fair for ALL men to judge ALL girls in the same way you do? That's like those 13 year old girls who say all men are evil because they've had a few failed relationships.
It was whiny and snobby of her and I wouldn't do something like that, but I think you may have been overreacting. She might not have realised how bad she came across, and you said she used kinder words. I guess I can't judge because I wasn't there and couldn't read her demeanor or anything.
I was talking to this guy and I told him what type of car I drive sometimes and he said something like "sorry" and patted my arm. He insulted the trusty Daihatsu, so I took it personally and said, "don't touch me!". Just kidding, I didn't give a shit.
V8 engines are just overkill though, and I like civics.
I was talking to this guy and I told him what type of car I drive sometimes and he said something like "sorry" and patted my arm. He insulted the trusty Daihatsu, so I took it personally and said, "don't touch me!". Just kidding, I didn't give a shit.
I think they're probably a bit of a bogan tool, especially if they have brand name stickers. Although I admit sometimes obnoxious mods turn my head and that "ooh shiny" part of my brain goes off.Slayer_2 said:
V8 engines are just overkill though, and I like civics.
It's usually the opposite, if I see chrome or stupid brand stickers on a nice car, I'll immediately think "ricer!", then once I realize what kind of car it is, I rescind my mental statement. I like V6's and 8's because they give you the extra power that really makes the difference, in my opinion. When I drive a civic or those tiny four-banger cars, I:Ambi said:
1) Feel like I'm in a tin can with a lawnmower engine.
2) Have no head or leg room, since they're designed for tiny people, and I'm 6'3, and still growing.
They might save a bit on gas, but I'll pay the difference for comfort and style. Besides which, insurance is already raping me.
I lol'd because it's a fairly accurate description of how I feel driving a three cylinder car. I've never driven a V6 or V8. All I really care about is getting to where I want to go by the cheapest, most convenient way possible.Slayer_2 said:
The second point made me think of this:
