tennisace said:
In my original post i never specified gender. I open doors for everyone and well help regardless of gender. The only difference is getting things like car doors. I really don't care if there a guy or a girl manors are manors. The hypocrisy really flows when it comes to hitting. The very girl who called me sexist hits me and know i will not hit her back. At one point she kicked me in my shin and hurt herself then blamed me for not having softer shins.
Yes, manors are manors. Manners are not manors, though, as that would be a weird house to live in
-D). Sorry, that made my night.
On the question of physical violence, it's a gray area, I think. In fairness, the "don't hit girls" is actually a more modern ethos than chivalry, but let's roll with it. The sexism arises if you're willing to hit a man, but not a woman. Unless truly provoked, I wouldn't hit anyone, ever (except in sparring, or playing around). If horsing around, it would be sexist to not hit a girl, since it implies they can't take the horseplay. In sparring, it'd be sexist not to fight a girl, since it implies that they aren't as capable (given that all of the girls I've ever had to spar with were at least as capable as me, to insult them like that would have caused them to kick my ass). The only time it wouldn't be sexist is if you're willing to actually fight a man (knock-down-drag-out) and not a woman, but then it's just stupid.
Your stance is a little confusing, because the perceived double-standard seems to be entirely mental. Unless you're going out and fighting guys Tyler Durden style, you're not treating men any differently. I'm not saying backhand the girl, but a little playful response isn't not acting like a gentleman.
However, please, please, please, don't say things like "I'll be a gentleman if you'll be a lady."
