Poll: Should I give her a second chance?

[BonsaiK]

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You're doing a lot of guesswork, and basing your action on assumptions rather than definites. Sit down and talk to her about it. Try not to let emotions come into it, keep things civil and polite. Find out what you can about what went on. If she won't talk, fine, cut her out of the picture, but you should at least give her a chance to come clean and discuss the situation. It'll also help you get some closure. The point is not to get her back (I wouldn't go there if I were you) but just to find out how things played out, what happened, what she did, and what you could have maybe done better. Good learning experience for next time.

 

[dmase]

A lot of people including myself go between the angry and depressed phase. Basically the angry phase is its their fault whether logic points to it or not. The depressed phase seems to be a bit of selfloathing and if it comes after the angry phase maybe you feel like you misjudged something. I've gone through emotions like that for quite a few situations where your reason tells you one thing but suddenly your reason leads you in another direction. Maybe you where wrong in the first place or maybe your just no longer angry and you just feel depressed. Maybe you should have put more thought into it from the beginning and asked when it was fresh to get a straight answer now that seems useless.

Your no longer angry even tho being angry feels better than depressed but at least that gets you some where. Your recorvering you heads becoming a little more level but what if you did talk to her? Would you be able to just leave it at that one conversation or do you think you would think of another set of questions and basically not be able to give it up. Well you've got yourself down the road find something to take your mind off it and make it just another life question that you don't care if its answered or not.

 

[ItsAChiaotzu]

It depends, does she have 16 Faith? Otherwise she can't have Second Chance. (Anyone who gets that gets a cookie)

But seriously, no she sounds horrid.

 

[Kirch Libre]

*Clears throat*

Hell no! Are you daft?! Clear your head and take a cold shower. Here have some Ben Folds. He'll sing some sense in to you.

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[thirion1850]

She's not worth your time, mate. And it seems, neither is said friend. Time to sneak that eye out elsewhere, and put a smile back on your face.

 

[Brandon237]

Knowing me, I would probably try to, but she doesn't deserve it. To cheat on you like that, to coldly dump you and not have any consideration to tell you properly, she doesn't seem to have earned your contact back.

So no, not worth it.

 

[Capt. Crankypants]

Remember to respect yourself. Do that, and you'll be much happier with who you are.

All the best.

 

[370999]

So let me get this right, you had a bit of a bad break up and you want to still be friends right? Well, honestly while I wouldn't be as forgiving as you, I do think you are entitled to raise the issuse with your friend, at the very least if worse case scenario is true then he violated your friendship.

As for her, she isn't really pushing for a second chance (presumbly as friends, anything else and no way) so don't be too eager for it, if it happens good, if not then of well.

 

[Johnny Impact]

You know she cheated. She went behind your back with another man. This means she is selfish, immature, and callous. People who are selfish, immature, and callous generally do not learn from their own bad behavior because they are generally not the ones hurt by it. People who do not learn from bad behavior will always feel free to repeat it. This means if you take her back she will cheat on you again. If is not the question, only when and with whom.

Are you going to learn from her bad behavior or are you going to let her repeat it?

 

[Johnny Impact]

Same answer applies to this "friend" of yours.

 

[tehweave]

Absolutely not. And I came to that conclusion in the first paragraph. Just move on, it'll be better for you in the end. There are a lot of cool chicks out there who are far more considerate and worth your time. Otherwise, expect to repeat this again.

This. That chick was totally immature, and doesn't care about you. Leave her be.

Now, if somewhere down the road, she contacts you, this is where the FUN begins.

You firmly and with a smidgen of arrogance turn her down. IT BURNS SO GOOD. Spite is a wonderful thing my friend.

If she never contacts you, you were both better off.

 

[Hader]

Funny how this is such a parallel to me at the moment, in some ways. But the general consensus says to move on and forget about it. I would agree with that.

To OP, good luck with your situation, hope your friend isn't that big of an ass...that's just low, your friend ever heard of bros before hoes? Lol