Poll: Should I keep trying?

[Florion]

Tell her that if you two are going to be together, she has to cut off all contact with these other men. You'll also need to figure out why she keeps seeking out these affairs (unless she's an idiot, sex is not more important than being a good role model to your kids).

 

[ace_of_something]

I am sorry this must be very painful for you I can't even imagine.
I would say leave her FOR the children. Being in that enviornment and seeing that behavior can't be good for them. I am unsure how divorce works in Norway but here you'd be able to pretty much get everything if there is proven infidelity. House, Kids, car.

 

[fenrizz]

you are just blinded bye love.
it really sad but i think the best thing is to leaf here she has already betrayed you for more than 2 times so i don't think that she is going to learn it

sorry that i want to know but are you really sure that it are your children(plz don't hate me for this question)

To be honest I am not a 100% sure. I thought about taking a test, but I'd rather not know.
I love them no matter what, and if they turned out to not be mine, it would be too painfull to live with, because I could never leave them...

 

[massau]

you are just blinded bye love.
it really sad but i think the best thing is to leaf here she has already betrayed you for more than 2 times so i don't think that she is going to learn it

sorry that i want to know but are you really sure that it are your children(plz don't hate me for this question)

To be honest I am not a 100% sure. I thought about taking a test, but I'd rather not know.
I love them no matter what, and if they turned out to not be mine, it would be too painfull to live with, because I could never leave them...

k now i know that you will be a very good father and i think that you even have more right to have the childeren

 

[Kantoken]

The fact that you are asking members of an internet forum says enough I think. Wake up and get her the hell out of your life. You clearly deserve better! Yes, it will seem and feel unbearable in the beginning, but for your own and for your kids sake, break up with her and get to know someone who really loves YOU as well.

 

[bodyklok]

Sorry dude, but it sounds like she might never change. Might be worth a try for the lulz and you got nothing else to do. Change her that is.

 

[Syntax Error]

Don't stay together for the kids. You will end up giving them an even worse childhood by sticking with her.

 

[massau]

Dude, I feel bad for you because you are seeking serious relationship advice from the magical interwebs. You know everyone here is 25 years old, lives in their parent's basement and hasn't seen the light of day for the past three years.

i'm not i'm 16 years old but i know what to do i'm a good thinker and i can see right trough somebody's "first layer" and say what's wrong

 

[sorry user name taken.]

A fool? No. You just have hope, which is more than what most people have these days.

But, I would tell you to move on. She is not doing you any good by acting in this way, and seems to be showing no responsibility towards her own kids.

What is the point in being with her, if you could never trust her? Forgive her, but try to move on.

God knows I try...
I am good at being strong when she's not around, but when I see her...
It's like I'm unable to tell her no...
But you're right though, I really need to move on.

i understand that its hard to let go and it does take time but when you have finally let go you'll look back and see that yes you where inlove but it wasn't what she wanted to what you wanted.your not the fool here as many people are saying on the forum she's the fool for not noticing and its very cruel.you deserve ..sorry I'll be blunt..''better'' than her.

take charge!! =D

 

[massau]

Don't stay together for the kids. You will end up giving them an even worse childhood by sticking with her.

maybe he needs to take the children i think he desires it more

 

[AkJay]

how od you have 2 children, but they are aged "1, 5 and 3" i hope to god you mean to 3 children.

 

[Syntax Error]

Don't stay together for the kids. You will end up giving them an even worse childhood by sticking with her.

maybe he needs to take the children i think he desires it more

I didn't say he needs to leave them, I just said that if he wants to get back with her (not a really good idea in the first place), do not do it for the kids. Heck you can take the kids with you. That will probably be better for everyone involved (I hope to god you can support them if it ever comes to that).

 

[Crazy Elf]

The thing is, I really do love her. And I am willing to forgive her, because I can't imagine what I'd do without her.
She is the love of my life!

Um, had you been her only sexual partner up until the point where she started cheating on you? Also, have you slept with other people before?

Oh yeah, and how old are the two of you?

 

[Aura Guardian]

Trust=Love
Once someone breaks the trust, it's over. You need to move on. Tell your children that and I think they'll understand. But you can't love someone if you know they'll just backstab you. And the fact the she's pregnant with the guy she left you for is like the ultimate backstab(or front stab[TF2]).

 

[soren7550]

It's sad to hear this, and I really don't know what to say. Growing up not trusting people, I would have just dumped and beat down her lying, cheating ass.

But, seeing as that attitude is most probally the reason why no one has ever hooked up with me, I guess I can't really judge you on your choises. But if she has repeatedly cheated on you over and over again, you should probally let her go. It will hurt to do so, but it's the best thing for you to do in order to prevent haveing your heart broken again. And think of it this way: is it right to have your kids live and be raised by a woman who can't remain faithful?

People rarly change. You might not want to believe it, but that's how life goes unfourtantly.

 

[ohellynot]

It really depends on how old you are. If you are still quite young then you could fall in love again asuming you can let go of her. If you are an older gentleman, then try and stay with her, she probably has feelings for you if she came back too you. (though it might be possible she came back solely because she knew you wouldnt say no)

 

[fenrizz]

Um, had you been her only sexual partner up until the point where she started cheating on you? Also, have you slept with other people before?

Oh yeah, and how old are the two of you?

We have both had others before we got together, if that is what you mean.
And no, I have never cheated on her.

And we are both 22.

It really depends on how old you are. If you are still quite young then you could fall in love again asuming you can let go of her. If you are an older gentleman, then try and stay with her, she probably has feelings for you if she came back too you. (though it might be possible she came back solely because she knew you wouldnt say no)

I'm really starting to think it's just because I can't say no to her yet, and that she wants it to stay that way...

 

[incubus42]

That's a really though question because you have kids.

If you didn't any kids, I'd advise you to don't hesitate one single second and tell that woman to go and f>>> herself.

But there are children and you of course want the best for them. The question, that you have to ask yourself is: Is your whore of a wife is a good influence on their life? And if yes, is it worth all the pain that you go trough?

I don't know you as a person and I also don't know your wife. I only know what you wrote in the topic. That's why don't really consider myself capable of giving you an answer to that question. You have to find it yourself.

What I want to give you is advice on how to go on after you chose:

a) Forgive your slut of a wife:
Your wife cheated on you several times and it appears to me that she didn't even try to make a big secret out of it. THAT HAS TO STOP. Just imagine this klische situation: Daddy, daddy, there is a man upstairs and he makes mummy scream.
You should collect evidences of the affairs that your wife had. After you got some evidence, tell her that if she cheats on you again and you find out, you will get a divorce and that she's NEVER gonna see her kids again. The court case would look like that: Loving father forgives wife who has cheated on him several times and who has broken the promise of never doing it again. You could plead that it is unsupportable that your wife would have any more contact with your kids because she is such a bad influence on them.
What you should also do is learn some more sexual skills. There are a lot of helpful guides and material on the internet.

b) Tell that woman to go and f>>> herself
That is what I personal would be more likely to do, because I think she is probably not worth a the pain she causes.
Here, I also advice you to collect evidences to be prepared for a divorce. It's always good to be prepared.
Find somebody new and tell your wife how great the new girl is and how much you enjoyed fucking her, AND FEEL GOOD ABOUT IT (the telling it to her). I got the image that you have been a nice guy and always there for her and that she took you absolutely for granted. You are the man and not her boy-toy.

 

[Gamer137]

Do it for the kids if nothing else. My parents are divorced and I can vouch that they are not pleasent experiences. Don't let them suffer for a problem you two have. As for feeling actual love for her, there is nothing wrong with that. But you have to realize that she no longer likes you as much as you like her, and it is self-destructive to keep thinking you two are perfect for eachother.

 

[CNKFan]

Dude drop her like a bad comment because she will keep saying that she will chandge you keep forgiving her and she keeps blowing the mailman just let her go and take custody of the kids before she infects them with that same mindset