Poll: Stalking.

[Disaster Button]

afterall I do know where he lives.

Aww, you've got it so easy! I don't know anything about... I was going to say "my target" then. That would be wrong, and bad.

I'm going to sleep now. Hope it works out for you, DB.

If it makes you feel better thats all I know about his whereabouts, and thanks.

I didn't vote in the poll, but I just wanted to say from second hand experience that the person you stalk is never the person that you're stalking. Or, to make it slightly more clear, the person that you think you're stalking isn't anything like the person that you end up meeting. You end up making up a complete person that doesn't exist, and when you find out, you're heart broken. You'll ruin any chance of friendship that you had, and some people go even further.

I don't think you're the type to go further then heartbreak, but I would spare you that if I could. My friend (and really my friend, not the "my friend is spiderman" type friend) from highschool had a crush on this girl. Everyday he'd practically dissolve my ears crying about the cruelties of life that kept them apart and how his life was meaningless without her, ect. He had dreams about entire lives with her, thought about her every waking moment, and was really jealous that I saw her with only a bra on once. It was kind of like a Shakespeare play but with only one actor and rather boring. Eventually he went up and spoke with her and found out that she wasn't anything like he thought she would be. He then spent the REST of highschool telling me about that and how much it sucked. I was never so glad that he got married, lol.

But my point is, you can spare yourself alot of pain and heartache now if you just go and talk to the person. I can tell you from first hand experience that sitting around and waiting will do nothing. I liked this girl from my church and spent most of my days doing what you are now, and I actually might have had a shot with her...but she moved away. So, take a chance now, and save yourself some heartbreak in the end. You never know, you just mind find out that you were made for each other.

Its difficult for me to go up and talk to him, I mean even if I didn't suffer from anxiety problems I don't know where he goes to school and I don't how to get a hold of him or friends.

I'm trying to be cautious about not developing a crush and making him into this ideal perfect person for me because I did that once before with a good friend and it was all kinds of crazy obsessive and ended pretty badly for me.

I'm kind of just hoping he's straight so I can just forget all of this before I get too involved.

 

[Disaster Button]

I don't think that is the legal definition of stalking. Though it's definitly in the neighborhood. It's agressive, controlling, and not cool.
You could... oh, I don't know... CALL HIM!?

Would you happen to have his number? Because I sure don't.

 

[Loop Stricken]

Is the festival Slam Dunk by any chance?

If it is, I think you should tell everyone that Karadros wishes he was there. There will be people who know what that means and it would freak them the hell out!

 

[cerebus23]

noone gets turned on by being stalked period, its creepy, its co dependent, its psychotic

That's my idea of fun, to be honest.

Funny story - I've just checked the Facebook page of the first girl to have 'inspired' these feelings in me. She still lives in my city. it's been months since I checked her FB page - we're not friends, no that would BE TOO EASY. Now I feel all... weird.

I would say you would be in vast minority on your idea of fun. And i can almost 100% guarantee that 99% of the girls you might stalk you would probably frighten the hell out of and do the exact opposite of what your trying to do when they slap you with a restraining order.

 

[Marter]

Just go down to the festival and "bump" into him. Then you can get talking an see where things go from there.

 

[Loop Stricken]

I would say you would be in vast minority on your idea of fun. And i can almost 100% guarantee that 99% of the girls you might stalk you would probably frighten the hell out of and do the exact opposite of what your trying to do when they slap you with a restraining order.

Funny story - I might know someone in that 1% but she just blanks me because she is some sort of effing nutjob.

I really am going to bed now.

 

[Sougo]

Being that this is the internet and none of you know who I am and because I have no friends at all I've come to you for some.. something.

Recently I've been kind of obsessed over this guy I know and its gotten a little crazy for me. We've been at school together for something like 14 years and recently he moved and I dropped out for awhile so we don't see each other. We never really talked often but when we did it was always fun and he was always nice.. anyway, the point I'm getting to is that lately I've been having a really strong urge to stalk him. I never really found myself the stalker type, its always been a little desperate for my tastes but here I am.

I know he's going to be at a local festival soon and I keep fantasising about him and going and seeing him, and stuff. Now this would be incredibly crazy to just go and break into a festival just to see him on the off chance he even likes me, in anyway at all.

So, preferably, I want you all to tell me to be a man and stop being crazy or at least link me some kind of anti stalker electrocution band for myself or something, I don't really know. Escapists give me your shamdazzling insight, am I insane?

um ... what exactly were you doing in school for 14 years? Doesn't school end after 12 years? And aren't primary and high schools different? and after 14 years you dropped out? Don't you mean graduated?

So you're a guy. With a strong urge to stalk another guy? Interesting...
Dude, why don't you go pick a couple of fights with a few punks on the street. Nothing like a little pugilistic action to knock some sense into you and get that testosterone flowing again. Just remember, no 'sack-tapping.'

Next thing get yourself a girlfriend. Or a girl friend. (note difference b/w the two).

Act like a human, give your boy-friend a ring, chat with him (most of the time thats all you need when your lonely). Don't chase after his time-table.

If your feeling 'sexual' desires towards this fellow, consult a local priest (at own risk).

 

[Loop Stricken]

um ... what exactly where you doing in school for 14 years? Doesn't school end after 12 years? And aren't primary and high schools different? and after 14 years you dropped out? Don't you mean graduated?

So you're a guy. With a strong urge to stalk another guy? Interesting...
Dude, why don't you go pick a couple of fights with a few punks on the street. Nothing like a little pugilistic action to knock some sense into you and get that testosterone flowing again. Just remember, no 'sack-tapping.'

Next thing get yourself a girlfriend. Or a girl friend. (note difference b/w the two).

Act like a human, give your boy-friend a ring, chat with him (most of the time thats all you need when your lonely). Don't chase after his time-table.

If your feeling 'sexual' desires towards this fellow, consult a local priest (at own risk).

Oh, and don't listen to conservative Christian Americans. They're nuts.

 

[Disaster Button]

get some damn money and go to the festival and talk to him and see if he likes you. *****.

Kinda hard, even if I could the tickets are sold out and its like, tomorrow. Or today being that its like 6am now. Besides I haven't talked to him in a few months and even before that it was only now and then so I can't just be like HEY GUY WHATS UP SO DO YOU LOVE ME?

Is the festival Slam Dunk by any chance?

anyways.
OT: for a start, since you're a guy and he's a guy... i have to ask. Is he definitely into guys? fucking ninjas.
2. Tread very carefully. If I were you, I'd strike up a conversation with him via facebook/msn/aim/generic-social-website to see if he's still up for a chat. then progress from there. I know it might not be what you want to do, but believe me, if it's ever gonna happen, you cannot attempt to force it.

Not to be awkward or anything, but...do you know if he is gay/bi? Because thats the difference between me telling you to tell him strait up, or forget about him and find someone else.

I'm pretty sure he's bi, not totally sure though but then it would be hard to be without asking him.

Then theres a chance, so I say go for it.

I suppose I could try and talk to em on facebook even if that rarely works out well, facebook chat doesn't really create a lot of oppurtunites for a flowing conversation but it would be a first step I guess. Now to sleep deprive myself all day so that I don't care about my anxiety issues.

Oh and its the Evolution festival.

 

[Brad Shepard]

You want my advice? Go for it, if the guy rejects you, yea it will hurt for a while, but it will be close this chapter and open the next.

But if you dont, you will always wonder what if.

 

[Dahni]

Is the festival Slam Dunk by any chance?

If it is, I think you should tell everyone that Karadros wishes he was there. There will be people who know what that means and it would freak them the hell out!

ahaha why?
I'm going on the 31st. Slam Dunk Scotland.
I just assumed it might have been Slam Dunk because he was on about a festival that was today and today is one of the days that the Slam Dunk Festival is on

 

[Vohn_exel]

afterall I do know where he lives.

Aww, you've got it so easy! I don't know anything about... I was going to say "my target" then. That would be wrong, and bad.

I'm going to sleep now. Hope it works out for you, DB.

If it makes you feel better thats all I know about his whereabouts, and thanks.

I didn't vote in the poll, but I just wanted to say from second hand experience that the person you stalk is never the person that you're stalking. Or, to make it slightly more clear, the person that you think you're stalking isn't anything like the person that you end up meeting. You end up making up a complete person that doesn't exist, and when you find out, you're heart broken. You'll ruin any chance of friendship that you had, and some people go even further.

I don't think you're the type to go further then heartbreak, but I would spare you that if I could. My friend (and really my friend, not the "my friend is spiderman" type friend) from highschool had a crush on this girl. Everyday he'd practically dissolve my ears crying about the cruelties of life that kept them apart and how his life was meaningless without her, ect. He had dreams about entire lives with her, thought about her every waking moment, and was really jealous that I saw her with only a bra on once. It was kind of like a Shakespeare play but with only one actor and rather boring. Eventually he went up and spoke with her and found out that she wasn't anything like he thought she would be. He then spent the REST of highschool telling me about that and how much it sucked. I was never so glad that he got married, lol.

But my point is, you can spare yourself alot of pain and heartache now if you just go and talk to the person. I can tell you from first hand experience that sitting around and waiting will do nothing. I liked this girl from my church and spent most of my days doing what you are now, and I actually might have had a shot with her...but she moved away. So, take a chance now, and save yourself some heartbreak in the end. You never know, you just mind find out that you were made for each other.

Its difficult for me to go up and talk to him, I mean even if I didn't suffer from anxiety problems I don't know where he goes to school and I don't how to get a hold of him or friends.

I'm trying to be cautious about not developing a crush and making him into this ideal perfect person for me because I did that once before with a good friend and it was all kinds of crazy obsessive and ended pretty badly for me.

I'm kind of just hoping he's straight so I can just forget all of this before I get too involved.

Ah yeah, you might want to check on that because he might beat you up or something if he's not. I mean I'm sure he wouldn't, but then again you can't be sure he wouldn't. I'd say go ahead and go down to that festival just because it sounds like fun breaking into a festival. Go talk to him and find out what he's like, and then go forward from there. If things go good, you can get his number and work it out from there. But anticipation and "what if" will cause you more heartache in the end.

 

[Disaster Button]

Being that this is the internet and none of you know who I am and because I have no friends at all I've come to you for some.. something.

Recently I've been kind of obsessed over this guy I know and its gotten a little crazy for me. We've been at school together for something like 14 years and recently he moved and I dropped out for awhile so we don't see each other. We never really talked often but when we did it was always fun and he was always nice.. anyway, the point I'm getting to is that lately I've been having a really strong urge to stalk him. I never really found myself the stalker type, its always been a little desperate for my tastes but here I am.

I know he's going to be at a local festival soon and I keep fantasising about him and going and seeing him, and stuff. Now this would be incredibly crazy to just go and break into a festival just to see him on the off chance he even likes me, in anyway at all.

So, preferably, I want you all to tell me to be a man and stop being crazy or at least link me some kind of anti stalker electrocution band for myself or something, I don't really know. Escapists give me your shamdazzling insight, am I insane?

um ... what exactly were you doing in school for 14 years? Doesn't school end after 12 years? And aren't primary and high schools different? and after 14 years you dropped out? Don't you mean graduated?

So you're a guy. With a strong urge to stalk another guy? Interesting...
Dude, why don't you go pick a couple of fights with a few punks on the street. Nothing like a little pugilistic action to knock some sense into you and get that testosterone flowing again. Just remember, no 'sack-tapping.'

Next thing get yourself a girlfriend. Or a girl friend. (note difference b/w the two).

Act like a human, give your boy-friend a ring, chat with him (most of the time thats all you need when your lonely). Don't chase after his time-table.

If your feeling 'sexual' desires towards this fellow, consult a local priest (at own risk).

14 years was a rough guess, too lazy to do math. Its something like that though when you cant primary school and high school and then college. And no I dropped out to restart the year as I had health issues.

The whole FIGHT BECAUSE I AM A MAYUN AND MEN LOVE TO FIGHT thing isn't really me. Besides I'd get my ass kicked incredibly.

But why would I visit a priest?

 

[Internet Kraken]

... so even if he does like you, stalking him and breaking into a festival you found out he would be at will ruin it.

Some people would find that endearing. Some people long for the day when something so fantastic would happen to them.

And a lot of people would think that is incredibly creepy. Like me for example. If I found out that someone broke into any place just to talk to me because of some bizarre obsession, I would want to get away from them as soon as possible.

OT: I'd say purposely hunting down this guy just to meet him is pretty creepy and obsessive. Breaking into a paid festival would be even worse. I doubt most people would be to thrilled to learn that you did that. Quite simply it's not worth the risk of getting caught especially when the person you're trying to meet could easily reject you.

 

[cerebus23]

I would say you would be in vast minority on your idea of fun. And i can almost 100% guarantee that 99% of the girls you might stalk you would probably frighten the hell out of and do the exact opposite of what your trying to do when they slap you with a restraining order.

Funny story - I might know someone in that 1% but she just blanks me because she is some sort of effing nutjob.

I really am going to bed now.

I find it shocking that girl that likes being stalked is a nutjob.

 

[Dahni]

I suppose I could try and talk to em on facebook even if that rarely works out well, facebook chat doesn't really create a lot of oppurtunites for a flowing conversation but it would be a first step I guess. Now to sleep deprive myself all day so that I don't care about my anxiety issues.

Oh and its the Evolution festival.

Ahhh, trust me. If he really wants to talk to you, it'll work fine. If the conversation is going fine, ask for his msn. Facebook chat is a spaz. Msn is somewhat less of a spaz.

Oh man, I'm jealous of him then. Paolo Nutini is playing aha
I just thought it might have been Slam Dunk since it's one of the Slam Dunk dates today.

 

[Disaster Button]

afterall I do know where he lives.

Aww, you've got it so easy! I don't know anything about... I was going to say "my target" then. That would be wrong, and bad.

I'm going to sleep now. Hope it works out for you, DB.

If it makes you feel better thats all I know about his whereabouts, and thanks.

I didn't vote in the poll, but I just wanted to say from second hand experience that the person you stalk is never the person that you're stalking. Or, to make it slightly more clear, the person that you think you're stalking isn't anything like the person that you end up meeting. You end up making up a complete person that doesn't exist, and when you find out, you're heart broken. You'll ruin any chance of friendship that you had, and some people go even further.

I don't think you're the type to go further then heartbreak, but I would spare you that if I could. My friend (and really my friend, not the "my friend is spiderman" type friend) from highschool had a crush on this girl. Everyday he'd practically dissolve my ears crying about the cruelties of life that kept them apart and how his life was meaningless without her, ect. He had dreams about entire lives with her, thought about her every waking moment, and was really jealous that I saw her with only a bra on once. It was kind of like a Shakespeare play but with only one actor and rather boring. Eventually he went up and spoke with her and found out that she wasn't anything like he thought she would be. He then spent the REST of highschool telling me about that and how much it sucked. I was never so glad that he got married, lol.

But my point is, you can spare yourself alot of pain and heartache now if you just go and talk to the person. I can tell you from first hand experience that sitting around and waiting will do nothing. I liked this girl from my church and spent most of my days doing what you are now, and I actually might have had a shot with her...but she moved away. So, take a chance now, and save yourself some heartbreak in the end. You never know, you just mind find out that you were made for each other.

Its difficult for me to go up and talk to him, I mean even if I didn't suffer from anxiety problems I don't know where he goes to school and I don't how to get a hold of him or friends.

I'm trying to be cautious about not developing a crush and making him into this ideal perfect person for me because I did that once before with a good friend and it was all kinds of crazy obsessive and ended pretty badly for me.

I'm kind of just hoping he's straight so I can just forget all of this before I get too involved.

Ah yeah, you might want to check on that because he might beat you up or something if he's not. I mean I'm sure he wouldn't, but then again you can't be sure he wouldn't. I'd say go ahead and go down to that festival just because it sounds like fun breaking into a festival. Go talk to him and find out what he's like, and then go forward from there. If things go good, you can get his number and work it out from there. But anticipation and "what if" will cause you more heartache in the end.

I'm pretty sure he is bi but I'm not fully sure, but I doubt he's the type to beat me up because of that. And I have always wanted to break into a festival. But I've been in far too mant what if situations for my age already and Ii'm starting to get tired of it, I just lack confidence to jump into things like this, I also suffer from anxiety issues so that doesn't make the whole thing easier.

 

[Disaster Button]

I suppose I could try and talk to em on facebook even if that rarely works out well, facebook chat doesn't really create a lot of oppurtunites for a flowing conversation but it would be a first step I guess. Now to sleep deprive myself all day so that I don't care about my anxiety issues.

Oh and its the Evolution festival.

Ahhh, trust me. If he really wants to talk to you, it'll work fine. If the conversation is going fine, ask for his msn. Facebook chat is a spaz. Msn is somewhat less of a spaz.

Oh man, I'm jealous of him then. Paolo Nutini is playing aha
I just thought it might have been Slam Dunk since it's one of the Slam Dunk dates today.

Paulo Nutini would be my only reason to go if I could afford tickets, and if they weren't sold out.

 

[brenflood]

What you are considering does not sound like stalking. If you think he's gonna be there and he would be happy to see you, go for it, but try and at least find the money to get in there legally so you won't get thrown out by security.

 

[Dahni]

I suppose I could try and talk to em on facebook even if that rarely works out well, facebook chat doesn't really create a lot of oppurtunites for a flowing conversation but it would be a first step I guess. Now to sleep deprive myself all day so that I don't care about my anxiety issues.

Oh and its the Evolution festival.

Ahhh, trust me. If he really wants to talk to you, it'll work fine. If the conversation is going fine, ask for his msn. Facebook chat is a spaz. Msn is somewhat less of a spaz.

Oh man, I'm jealous of him then. Paolo Nutini is playing aha
I just thought it might have been Slam Dunk since it's one of the Slam Dunk dates today.

Paulo Nutini would be my only reason to go if I could afford tickets, and if they weren't sold out.

Well you, sir, have wonderful taste, because Paolo Nutini is beautiful.
I'm so proud of my local boy ahaha.