Poll: Teens sleeping together?

[SeeIn2D]

Alrighty, well tonight I was having a discussion with my sister about what will happen with the sleeping arrangements when my girlfriend comes to my house for about a week at the beginning of August. Basically to put this into context, I live in NYC and she lives in a suburb of DC, so it is a fairly long distance relationship. For 4th of July weekend I was invited to come with her, her parents, and her grandparents to her grandparent's beach house in Delaware. While there I had my own guest room while she was basically forced to stay in a room with her parents. Now when she comes to NYC to visit me my parents will not have any problem with us sleeping together, which brought to my attention the BIG differences in the way different parents think. So basically I'm asking out of curiosity, should teenagers be allowed to sleep with each other, and also as a side note, is it really SO terrible if they are sexually active as long as they are using protection?

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Edit: I also do recognize that different countries/states have different customs. Both of my parents being northern, they do not really care as long as they don't like walk in on their kids have sex. However my girlfriend's parents are both southern so they have really stringent customs regarding that stuff.

Editº: I'll try to add a bit more discussion value with this; why exactly is it a bad thing for teenagers to have sex if they are protected and educated?

 

[Apollo45]

Whether you and her sleep together is up to you, but I don't think your parents should be supporting it by any means. It gives the impression that they're trying to be the 'cool parents' instead of actually looking out for their kid. Protection or not, there's always a chance she could get pregnant, and that brings up the issues in having a child so young (or getting an abortion and everything that goes along with that). Couple that with the risk of STDs and everything else and parents certainly shouldn't be actively allowing their kids to have sex.

Of course, if it's just sleeping in the same room, then it's not too big of a deal. But your question seems to mean otherwise.

 

[crudus]

Just because you are sharing a bed, does that mean you are having sex? In my experience: no (...sadly). I really don't see the issue. Now having sex, that is a totally different issue entirely. Sex does crazy things to your biologically that is actually quite intense. I was saddened when I learned nobody told me about that. Sure they told us about all the STDs, pregnancies, etc, but never mentioned what your brain does after sex which is probably the scariest thing on that list in my opinion.

 

[Rylot]

What do you mean by teenager? There's a pretty big difference between eighteen and thirteen. Seventeen to eighteen isn't so bad but thirteen to fourteen is a bit bigger of a problem.

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[A-D.]

Depends on the Age Difference for one, if you are both about the same age, i.e. very close together and at least 14+..well as long as you use PROPER protection, sex is fine really. Dont expect too much out of it though, Porn aint really making much for "experience" there ;P

So yes, use a Condom, if she uses the Pill already, even better. Do not re-use a condom ever, just in case that even needed to be said. Other than that, keep it quiet. Parents waltzing in is a massive mood-killer.

For the record, i had my first time when i was 14 and i dont regret it at all. That doesnt mean everyone should have it early. Take it at your own Pace. If she is ready and you are, and you got everything covered in terms of protection, then go for it. Otherwise wait for the perfect Moment, i.e. when you are both ready for it.

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[chuckman1]

Ya people need to chill out on this type of thing.

 

[Kielgasten]

Well, I was 14 for my first, as was my gf. I really don´t see the problem?
(except that neither of us really knew what we were doing)

Also, everyone should be protected when having sex with someone new, regardless of age.

also, also, teenager runs from 13-19, I think most people would agree that an 18-year-old is an adult, which in term means that the rest of the world needs to butt out ;-)

 

[Ham_authority95]

I'll be sleeping with my girlfriend this summer, so obviously I don't care. It will be great being so close to her and being able share sleep with someone I'm deeply attracted to.

Be educated of the risks of sex, if you're doing that.

 

[Super Six One]

Fuck the rules, do what you want, Vivia la Mexico!!!!!!!!

 

[Ham_authority95]

Just because you are sharing a bed, does that mean you are having sex? In my experience: no (...sadly). I really don't see the issue. Now having sex, that is a totally different issue entirely. Sex does crazy thing to your biologically that is actually quite intense. I was saddened when I learned nobody told me about that. Sure they told us about all the STDs, pregnancies, etc, but never mentioned what your brain does after sex which is probably the scariest thing on that list in my opinion.

What do you mean by what your brains does after sex? All my brain did was "Huh, that was awkward, but I'd like to try it again and see if it improves".

 

[Erana]

Honestly?
It depends on if they're being stupid about it.

Don't sleep with people too great an age distance from you.
Don't fuck like rabbits- having a trustworthy boy/girlfriend is nice and all, but you don't want to get minor STDs, or worse, get something like HIV and ruin your entire life over not having a bit of discretion.
Protection: Condoms can help lessen the transmission of STDs, but for the girl? Birth control. If you're frequently active, get some kind of chemical contraception. Get the ring or injection if you can't remember pills.
But even if you don't have sex often, please be aware of the Morning-after pill. Depending on your country, you may need to have your mother get it for you, but for Heaven's sake, its worth it to be cautious.

Guys, please talk to your girlfriend about chemical contraception. Not from a "I don't want to be a dad!" perspective, but from the "I'd rather play it safe, for both our sakes" view.
And for anyone, if your girl or boyfriend freaks out over trying to play it safe, then you should probably take a good look at if you really want to be dating someone like this.

 

[Talson]

I may not like it on a personal level, since I've yet to meet, in person (can not stress that enough), very many teens who have the sort of emotional maturity to handle an intimate relationship. Really though, it's going to happen. I'm not going to have a fit when it does. If everything goes fine with the relationship, that's good. If not, people have been dealing with this exact same issue since the dawn of humanity and we're all still here.

 

[Spinozaad]

Even though the love between teens is driven by hormonal fury and is, quite honestly, usually pretty superficial, it's just sex.

You'll have plenty later on and the first time is 'meh' anyway. If you know how a condom works and it's consensual; bang away.

This entire myth that sex is something special and mind blowing that we need to protect our kids from it is beyond any sane thought. Fucking is what you are born to do, there is no age at which you're *magically* 'ready' for 'intimate physical contact'. You know when you're ready.

 

[templargunman]

I think once a person has sexual urges, they are old enough to have sex. If someone is educated enough to not make mistakes they'll be fine, if a kid is taught only to abstain, when they do choose to have sex, they'll be under-informed and unprepared.

 

[Stasisesque]

Honestly?
It depends on if they're being stupid about it.

Don't sleep with people too great an age distance from you.
Don't fuck like rabbits- having a trustworthy boy/girlfriend is nice and all, but you don't want to get minor STDs, or worse, get something like HIV and ruin your entire life over not having a bit of discretion.
Protection: Condoms can help lessen the transmission of STDs, but for the girl? Birth control. If you're frequently active, get some kind of chemical contraception. Get the ring or injection if you can't remember pills.
But even if you don't have sex often, please be aware of the Morning-after pill. Depending on your country, you may need to have your mother get it for you, but for Heaven's sake, its worth it to be cautious.

Guys, please talk to your girlfriend about chemical contraception. Not from a "I don't want to be a dad!" perspective, but from the "I'd rather play it safe, for both our sakes" view.
And for anyone, if your girl or boyfriend freaks out over trying to play it safe, then you should probably take a good look at if you really want to be dating someone like this.

Ignoring the bizarre priorities you appear to have, I do want to clear one thing up:

I believe you mean hormonal contraceptives, such as the Pill. Chemical contraception is something entirely different, not very widely available and of disputable reliability. Considering the vast range of safe, reliable contraception (along with barrier methods) there is out there I would not recommend chemical contraception.

 

[MyEscapistUserName]

Just because you are sharing a bed, does that mean you are having sex? In my experience: no (...sadly). I really don't see the issue. Now having sex, that is a totally different issue entirely. Sex does crazy thing to your biologically that is actually quite intense. I was saddened when I learned nobody told me about that. Sure they told us about all the STDs, pregnancies, etc, but never mentioned what your brain does after sex which is probably the scariest thing on that list in my opinion.

..what exactly does the brain do after sex that's so scary? I haven't heard anything except that it releases dopamine.

 

[SillyBear]

Does it really fucking matter?

If they are safe and aren't going to produce a baby or give each other STIs, what the fuck does it matter? What will be influenced negatively by this? What will change? How will it effect your life?

The answers are: No, No, Nothing, Nothing and It won't.

 

[SillyBear]

and how long they have been together.

Why would how long they have been together matter at all? What relevance would that have to anything?

 

[Stasisesque]

and how long they have been together.

Why would how long they have been together matter at all? What relevance would that have to anything?

From a concerned parents'/guardians' perspective, it may be easier to turn a blind eye to your child/ward being sexually active with a partner they have been with for years than one they met last week.