Lolth17 said:In that way, calling a woman a **** is a lot like a white person calling a black person a ****** - it reminds them of a time and a culture where they were devalued to the point of being not a person.
Yes, exactly, and until a century ago, '******' was a perfectly acceptable way to address a black person. Look at Huckleberry Finn.I think it's a bit of a stretch to draw comparisons between the c word and the n word. The n word is widely associated with the time of slavery and public racism. The c word is not, and in fact it wasn't even considered particularly derogatory until the last century (IE until the rise of women's rights).
I'm just telling you how I, as a woman, and probably many, many other women feel being called one by a man. I understand that you don't get it. I wouldn't expect you to. But I'm definitely not alone in my feelings. Try seriously calling a woman a **** and see what she says.