DarkRawen said:
Well, that's the thing, I am bisexual and trans (I suppose I should've made it clear, but I am blonde, what I meant is that it's just another trait to me, which I realize now wasn't very clear) , my experiences are just rather different from what they seem to have experienced, so I really don't feel like we have a lot in common, and no reason to being part of a group. The fact that I have very little sense of wanting to belong to a community is probably part of it as well.
I was trying to voice a note in agreement, apologies if it came across differently. There is a difference between saying, hey I support you standing up for what you believe, and standing there beside them shouting just as loudly.
One thing that made me think during writing this, is just how broad the term 'trans' is, I mean it's a broad spectrum. I self-identify as trans, yet I spend my days in my birth-gender, dressing to varying degrees as the situation permits. I accept as part of my life that I'll never be female nor transition, and that my expression of my own identity is something that isn't always a positive effect on the rest of my life.
I attend no support groups, I'm not part of the community, and the only other trans people I know and interact with are those who also perform in the same arenas. when I first publicly came out, I made an effort to try and meet others, attend groups, be part of the 'scene' but frankly even within the moniker of 'trans' there is so wide a ranges of causes/reasons/issues/goals etc, and frankly I got sick of being told that 'I should do this' or 'I should do that'.
I'd like to give an example if I may. I'm not entirely defined by my gender identity, and while it's an aspect of my life, it's not all encompassing. I've accepted that in day to day life that I must present myself as male. This is my choice, and one made in full awareness of the implications. I get to be 'who' I am at other times. It's a compromise, but one I'm willing to make.
I've been told this is wrong, that I should embrace 'who' I am fully, despite the fact this would cost me my (day-job) career, and quite possibly the ability to have contact with my own children. This is life, every choice has ramifications, it's own set of compromises. I'll stand proudly beside those to travel further down the path, admire their bravery & commitment, but thats not my path, and I won't be told what my path is.