Poll: Who pays on a date?

[ChromeAlchemist]

The guy, usually because it's pretty easy for the guy to make himself look like a jackass during the date, so at least this makes up for it a little...

Plus, one person pays, the other offers relations. I'm pretty sure that's how it's always been.

Dine and Dash, only scrubs pay for food >

[small](Just kidding, honestly who cares but in my opinion its more socially accepted that the guy pays the first time)[/small]

Don't wuss out! Dine and Dash is the best answer here! >

And it's true...only scrubs pay for food!

 

[LadyMint]

I would say whoever set up the date should pay, unless there is a mutual agreement to go dutch. So, if a man invites you out to dinner, that man should pay. If a woman does it, then that woman should pay. But have the decency to state beforehand that everyone needs to pay for themselves if that's the case. It's awkward to go out, eat, then try and debate on who's getting the check.

 

[sergnb]

Girl: Hey I'm in the mood to go out and talk and whatever
Guy: meh... I don't feel like-
Girl: COUGHCOUGHICHOPYOURBALLSCOUGH
Guy: Fine, jeez.

-After diner-

Waiter: Here you go
Guy: So... you gonna pay for that since it was your idea to-
Girl stares at Guy's soul
Guy spends over 9000 dollars on a diner he didn't even want to get.

Call me a jackass, but I would like the girls to pay for their shit too, I'm not made of gold you know

 

[Greater Evil]

Whoever suggested the date should pay or they should both pay for whatever they buy. Anything else is stupid.

 

[Chemical Alia]

Right now my boyfriend and I pretty much take turns. We make the same amount of money and live together, so it seems the most fair and balances out. When he had a job and I was in college, he paid a little more often for me, and when I finished grad school before him and had a job, I paid more for him while he finished up.

 

[Sojoez]

Obviously the person who expects to get laid is the one that will volunteer to pay.

In my dates we usually just had a drink somewhere and ate something somewhere else, so both of us would get the chance to pay.
(As a guy I payed for the larger bill of course)

A gentleman always pays.

 

[game-lover]

In my opinion, it should be whoever initiated the date. The one who asked the other out on the date.

General consensus is the guy pays because usually, the guy is the one who asks her out.

But if the girl asks him out, then I think she should pay. Or that they should at least go dutch.

Nowadays, women will pay for their own meals for a variety of reasons, I think. My mom suggests it so if I so happen to be on a date with a guy who believes a girl should be obliged to sleep with him just 'cause of something like that, you nip it right in the bud.

 

[Yopaz]

I always pay when we part... oh... that wasn't what you meant?

I always think it's good practice to pay, at least on the first few dates to show what kind of guy you are, then when you're moving on you'll move on and perhaps cook yourself or do other things depending on the situation. Perhaps I'll pay, perhaps we'll split, perhaps she pays. I know a few who hates it when guys pay for them, but likes when they offer to pay, and likes it if they argue a little before they "give up" and decide to split. It all depends a lot on the situation.

 

[No_Remainders]

Depends.

If it's just a starting relationship, the guy should pay.

Later on, split it evenly.

 

[Enrathi]

I think whoever asked the other out. It would suck for a woman to ask me on a date then expect me to pay, to me that just comes off as looking for a free meal. On the other hand if she asked me to pay half, I'd be ok with that. Whenever I ask someone out, I pay for the date. But I will let her pay half if she insists.

This is also assuming the first few dates/getting to know each other stage. If it's dinner and a movie and she wants to pay her way so she doesn't feel "obligated" that's fine. I'm not expecting sex in exchange for dropping some money and taking her out and don't want her to feel pressured, so if she wants to pay I'm ok with that. On the other hand, if our date was meeting at a coffee shop and talking, there's no pressure and I'll pay. Even if it doesn't work out all I'm out is a few bucks, less than I would have spent on dinner or a movie ticket for just myself.

Once you're past that stage and it's a relationship, then you can work it out between yourselves.

 

[Guffe]

In all the movies the guy always pays but maybe the one who asks the other one out or then perhaps both pay their share? I mean does the first date have to be some nice dinner or couldn't it be a nice chat round a cup of coffee?

 

[newwiseman]

I'd say whoever wanted to go out should pay at least most of the bill. But thats just me. I usually payed, but thats because I wanted to go out.

That's how I role, I figure if I'm taking someone somewhere then I'm paying for them. On occasion I'll invite people to come along somewhere then they pay their own way or they owe me.

This is the way my parents coaxed each other to go out, one had to bring the other, unless it was somewhere they both had to be.

 

[Brandon237]

The first few dates I refused to let my girlfriend pay, but she was really not happy with that, and she is a lot better off than I so now we split it, not quite evenly, but somewhere close. I pay for movies and she pays for dinner or vice versa.

 

[Polyintrinsic]

Woman want equality....



But not when it comes to paying for dinner. Or getting into clubs.

 

[OtherSideofSky]

Go dutch, unless it's a special occasion (no one should pay for their own birthday, etc.). A relationship is supposed to be equal and mutual and expecting one party to pay based solely on gender destroys that balance.

As a strong supporter of gender equality, if anyone tries to make me pay for everything just because I'm a guy my response will always be a very definite "Fuck you".

 

[Jodah]

In theory whoever asks the other person out on said date. In reality, the guy.

 

[Tomster595]

In my opinion, for the first few dates the guy should pay. Once they're actually "dating" and they've know each other for a while they should split the cost.

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

The guy. In my opinion anyway.

I kinda did something bad once though. I took a girl to the cinema, and she insisted she'd pay for her ticket, so I took the money off of her, paid with my own money, then slipped the money back into her coat pocket when she went to the toilet.

That was probably kind of wrong...

 

[GeorgW]

I'd say go Dutch if it's an expensive restaurant, if not then whoever invited the other one. And if there's a significant financial difference then that should of course affect. For a first date though, the guy ALWAYS pays.
I consider myself an old fashioned gentleman, but at some point you really have to draw the line. I have no problem buying my GF stuff, but if she just expects me to pay for everything then that takes away all the fun.

 

[Anchupom]

I'd say it's whoever initiated the date.
So tradtionally the man.

If not that, then they should split but the gentlemanly thing to do is pay more than the lady does.