Poll: Who pays on a date?

[Kair]

The only thing implied is that my observations point to that many girls aged 12-18 have the mentioned interests.

The interests of a Prostitute? Yeah, I suppose you're right, when I was 12-18, I only had sex with guys so they'd give me money. Same with all the other girls I knew in that age group.

Money is not directly what I was pointing to. I really do not wish to elaborate further on the relations between teenagers.

 

[ButanicXpandA]

the person that asked the other out.

 

[supermariner]

it's all very well saying the guy should pay
but what if it's a pair of gay men?
who pays then!?
argh!

 

[Scepter Uchiha]

it varies on who askes who out and how serious the relationship is if its serious then the person tht askes the other out if its not then the one asking pays for most of the bill...or at least for what they ate or half whichever is more

 

[Colour Scientist]

The only thing implied is that my observations point to that many girls aged 12-18 have the mentioned interests.

The interests of a Prostitute? Yeah, I suppose you're right, when I was 12-18, I only had sex with guys so they'd give me money. Same with all the other girls I knew in that age group.

Money is not directly what I was pointing to. I really do not wish to elaborate further on the relations between teenagers.

Well Prostitutes aren't really in it for the love.
Actually, I still stand by my point but I am being a bit of a dick. I didn't mean to come across as such an asshole.

 

[silver wolf009]

On the dates I have been on, I, the guy, have payed. Although there was one time when she got really upset, and demanded that she pay for the food at the movies.

 

[Dieter Meyer]

The check dance is to be played:

Guy: Well, I guess I'll take the check..
Girl: Oh, you cant do that *takes the check from guy*
Guy: Nonono, I insist *manly, and gentlemanly feeling*

Guy pays.

 

[Kair]

The only thing implied is that my observations point to that many girls aged 12-18 have the mentioned interests.

The interests of a Prostitute? Yeah, I suppose you're right, when I was 12-18, I only had sex with guys so they'd give me money. Same with all the other girls I knew in that age group.

Money is not directly what I was pointing to. I really do not wish to elaborate further on the relations between teenagers.

Well Prostitutes aren't really in it for the love.
Actually, I still stand by my point but I am being a bit of a dick. I didn't mean to come across as such an asshole.

And I would dare say far too many teenage girls choose partners not out of compatibility but in exchange for services such as rides ("does he have a car?" - classic example), gifts, and sometimes straight out money.

 

[gustcq]

split or take turns

 

[dday4you]

guys should pay. girls can give hot coffee back as a reward

 

[Colour Scientist]

The only thing implied is that my observations point to that many girls aged 12-18 have the mentioned interests.

The interests of a Prostitute? Yeah, I suppose you're right, when I was 12-18, I only had sex with guys so they'd give me money. Same with all the other girls I knew in that age group.

Money is not directly what I was pointing to. I really do not wish to elaborate further on the relations between teenagers.

Well Prostitutes aren't really in it for the love.
Actually, I still stand by my point but I am being a bit of a dick. I didn't mean to come across as such an asshole.

And I would dare say far too many teenage girls choose partners not out of compatibility but in exchange for services such as rides ("does he have a car?" - classic example), gifts, and sometimes straight out money.

I don't think that's too common though, at least not in my experience anyway.

 

[Pilkingtube]

I guess the guy pays, it's not really equality but every feminist i've met only argues for equality in things that they like, not the things that they don't. ;D

 

[Plurralbles]

first date: whoever asked the other out.

then you figure it out from there based on preference.

 

[Mr.logic]

The man MUST PAY. Women preach female equality till the rooster sings, but they want more than equality. so even if they have a job you pay for dinner. What kind of man would let his date provide for him? Also I don't really see dutch happen, i'm sure it happens sometimes but not usually. It also doesn't hurt to remember that women almost never say what they mean, so when they offer to pay you should decline.

 

[RedEyesBlackGamer]

Me. I demand it.

It's what my mother and father taught me.

I was taught to go dutch. I expect a person to pull their own weight. I'm not made of money.

 

[Kair]

The only thing implied is that my observations point to that many girls aged 12-18 have the mentioned interests.

The interests of a Prostitute? Yeah, I suppose you're right, when I was 12-18, I only had sex with guys so they'd give me money. Same with all the other girls I knew in that age group.

Money is not directly what I was pointing to. I really do not wish to elaborate further on the relations between teenagers.

Well Prostitutes aren't really in it for the love.
Actually, I still stand by my point but I am being a bit of a dick. I didn't mean to come across as such an asshole.

And I would dare say far too many teenage girls choose partners not out of compatibility but in exchange for services such as rides ("does he have a car?" - classic example), gifts, and sometimes straight out money.

I don't think that's too common though, at least not in my experience anyway.

Where I live it is extremely common. I assumed it was elsewhere also.

 

[The Funslinger]

The guy should usually pay. Not always, though, especially if the girl makes more money or it's the guy's birthday or things like that. It's a very good way to make a good impression on a girl. However, girls should always come prepared to pay for themselves and should always offer. I always abide by that because I don't want to be a total mooch.

This is a pretty reasonable approach. Also, your avatar is going to have me waking up screaming for the next week.

 

[Jinxzy]

My boyfriend and I like to take turns. If we go out somewhere nice and he pays a little more then normal I'll treat him to breakfast and lunch/dinner (not on the same day), or take him to Red Robin to make up for it. He loves Red Robin.

But if my boyfriend is working and I'm not working that day I'll pick him up and treat him to something for working hard.

 

[Woodsey]

First date? Man. After that you can split or take it in turns.

 

[Rivers Wells]

As a straight male: Always make the offer. It's just polite to your date. If she wants to pay that's fine, but its never a bad thing to have offered to help someone.

Me. I demand it.

It's what my mother and father taught me.

Best of intentions here, but I'm pretty sure the wrong approach. Take it with a grain of salt but:

NEVER DEMAND IT. It can come across creepy and even a bit controlling. If she wants to pay for her own meal/movie/etc., forcing her to not pay can make her (and honestly anyone else) think...

A.) This guy isn't even listening to me and isn't respecting what I want.

or

B.) Wow, he's seriously telling me what to do with my money?

Oldest dating advice in the world: If you're not sure what to do, pretend its a friend of the same gender you're just being nice too.

"Hey, I got this."
"Oh don't worry about it. I got it."
"Yeah?"
"Yeah."
"All right."

Addendum: Her birthday/Your anniversary/Any major relationship event? You take that check. You take it and you fortify it and you use all manner of warfare and skullduggery to get your card to the waiter first.