Poll: Who Should Make the First Move?

[justnotcricket]

It occurred to me the other day that this seems to be quite a big dilemma for some people, and I thought I'd take a little survey.

So - who should ask who out, and why?

For myself, I'm sitting on the fence somewhat - I've been asked out, and I've asked someone out. Both work, but I have to admit that sometimes, a girl just wants a guy to want her enough to make that first step!

P.S. I hope this hasn't been covered in another forum...I ran a few searches and nothing came up...

 

[Washboard]

IMO girls always seem to know what they want more

But asking out should be done by whomever the whim takes really.

 

[The Blue Mongoose]

It really, really shouldn't matter. I say shouldn't because some girls have it programmed in that the guy MUST make ALL the moves in a relationship.

These girls frustrate me.

Mind you... if a girl has the courage to ask me out, i'm rather impressed and find it very hard to say no.

 

[Peach_hat]

Me.

I should make all the moves.

 

[Andalusa]

I don't think a guy should make all the moves, but I think he should make the first one.

 

[Noamuth]

I don't think gender really matters, when you boil it down.

Usually the more assertive of the pair will take the first step, obviously, but we all have our random moments of courage. I guess it all just depends on the couple, really, whether it's a man asking a man out, or a woman asking a man, etc.

That being said, I find women taking control very attractive, so personally, I'd prefer being asked out. >.> Though I'd prefer to pay.

.. And I'm probably not making much sense. Shouldn't post when I'm tired. Blargh.

 

[Dys]

It doesn't make a difference.
I often refuse to ask girls out, even if I know they like me, if I've made it clear I'm interested simply because I don't want to project the image of a one sided realationship. I don't do anything by tradition, relationships are no different.

 

[Yassen]

You know for a while I could never go out with anyone. Eventually I figured out what it was, they wouldn't do anything unless I made the first move. So I started doing most of the work and before long I got my first girlfriend and started making more friends. (I was 15 at the time) This both relieves me and annoys me.

The public notion that males have to make all the moves at first is annoying because how are we to know what a girl wants if they never do anything about it until we have? It strikes me as being a show of girls shedding all responsibility and the misconcieved notion that whoever has the guts to come up and actually reveal how they feel makes a good partner, which it obviously doesn't.

In my opinion, if a girl likes a guy there's nothing wrong with them asking the guy out. I can't possibly understand how that's wrong or makes the girl "look desperate", after all, can't the same be said for guys?

 

[Skalman]

I know I would prefer if a girl asked me out rather than, me trying and failing.

Mind you... if a girl has the courage to ask me out, I'm rather impressed and find it very hard to say no.

I would have to agree with you, I don't think I could say no to a girl asking me out unless they were very unattractive, or I'm already in a relationship (which isn't likely to happen. Yay, optimism.).


Generally though, if a person feels attracted to someone, they should ask them out, regardless of whether they're a guy or a girl.

 

[justnotcricket]

I often refuse to ask girls out, even if I know they like me, if I've made it clear I'm interested...

Hm, that raises an interesting aspect of the whole process actually - who asks who out is so often affected by how well one can judge another's degree of interest! If the signals aren't clear enough, you can get a bit of an emotional mexican standoff going...

 

[EchetusXe]

The girl PLEASE!

I can talk to women all day, even flirt if I have to, but I cannot for the life of me ask them out on a date.

 

[Insomniactk]

The girl, because I'm a guy and l'm lazy

 

[DolphinWacker64]

I like a girl who takes initiative, so thats why I would like the girl to start things off.
Plus, I think it's pretty damn sexy when the girl takes lead.
I guess that's why I'll always be waiting...*sigh*

 

[Cowabungaa]

Depends obviously, I'm too chicken to make the first move, although I tried. However, I think it would mean a lot more to me if a girl would ask me first. That would make a lot more confident, and would boost my broken self-image a bit since it would mean that a girl actually likes me enough without me having to do anything special in the first place.

 

[Ago Iterum]

Me.

I should make all the moves.

yeah because women are crazy for die hard Harry Potter fans.

Anyway, guys are usually more intimidated, and girls are usually more confident. But it depends on the situation usually.

 

[nekolux]

To me it depends on the individuals involved. I can never make the first move. Unless the girl i'm trying to talk to loves shy nerdy guys who start blabbering when he gets nervous... and i get extremely nervous around girls i like >.<

 

[cuddly_tomato]

The girl PLEASE!

I can talk to women all day, even flirt if I have to, but I cannot for the life of me ask them out on a date.

Try doing this [http://www.youtube.com/watch?gl=GB&hl=en-GB&v=w1XOfHax6Q8].

 

[EchetusXe]

The girl PLEASE!

I can talk to women all day, even flirt if I have to, but I cannot for the life of me ask them out on a date.

Try doing this [http://www.youtube.com/watch?gl=GB&hl=en-GB&v=w1XOfHax6Q8].

lmfao. Barrowman.

 

[guardian001]

The girl, because I'm totally incompetent at that sort of thing and nothings ever going to happen ever.

 

[ZeroMachine]

It doesn't really matter. It's basically one of those things of who's quicker to the draw. I usually make the first move, but my current girlfriend is the one that made the first move on me this time... I was kinda surprised, too!

The girl PLEASE!

I can talk to women all day, even flirt if I have to, but I cannot for the life of me ask them out on a date.

Try doing this [http://www.youtube.com/watch?gl=GB&hl=en-GB&v=w1XOfHax6Q8].

I... kinda want to see that movie now. It seems like it'd be so bad it would be as entertaining as a trainwreck full of clowns and Cyanide and Happiness characters (not that I would want them to die... their reactions would probably be priceless!)