Ridergurl10 said:
I consider myself an old fashioned type of girl, I would really like the guy to make the first move. I try very hard to drop all the right hints to make sure it's understood that I am interested, but in the long run if he's not willing to do the asking then for me it's not worth it. I'll find someone who does think I'm worth the effort. However after the first "asking out" I think both parties should make the moves equally.
Only problem with this though is that sometimes it's not merely a method of simple effort. That being said, I mean that it's not always as simple as it may seem. Depending on the person, asking someone out could take as much effort for them as... well, I can't think of much of a comparison, mainly because everything else is too easy.
I'm gonna make more of a personal point on this. I've only asked someone out once, the other two times I was thwarted by circumstances. (Long story). In all three cases though, it took about 4-6 months of preparation just to get to the point where I could muster up the courage to do so, and even then I had no idea how I would do so due to fear of getting emotionally scarred. The difficulty was not in "taking the time" or "effort", but fighting oneself into believing it's something you can do. In fact, I've spent more "effort" on all three situations than I have on studying for my exams.
What I'm trying to say is that if you could easily ask someone out, but won't because you want them to, and they seem unable to, you're being sadistic. Depending on who you're dealing with, the amount of self-doubt could lead to months of emotional torture as you drop "all the right hints" (which are likely not all going to be understood) before enough courage is mustered up, at which point a simple "yes" or "no" will probably be the only answer, which in either case would probably still cause some amount of pain.
I'm not saying that girls should ask out guys, I'm just saying it depends on the type of person.
