Amazing how you post this a week after I broke up with my ex. I can get women to like me, but I just have low self-esteem. That, and the over-looked benefits that BonsiaK mentioned.
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Poll: Why are you Single?
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Why I'm not seeing anyone:
1. The women where I'm living at either have children, are married, or are at least twice my age. I really don't want to deal with another man's kids and her baggage.
2. Low self-esteem/fear of rejection.
3. Ugly in general.
1. The women where I'm living at either have children, are married, or are at least twice my age. I really don't want to deal with another man's kids and her baggage.
2. Low self-esteem/fear of rejection.
3. Ugly in general.
1: I find it hard to talk to new people/low self esteem
1.5: I especially find it hard to talk to people who are already in established social groups.
2: Whenever I do find a nice lady friend to talk to they always drop in 'oh also my boyfriend did such and such'. I swear, every time. Well, every time, I swear slightly in my mind.
1.5: I especially find it hard to talk to people who are already in established social groups.
2: Whenever I do find a nice lady friend to talk to they always drop in 'oh also my boyfriend did such and such'. I swear, every time. Well, every time, I swear slightly in my mind.
Fair enough.JanatUrlich said:
Being a badass without being a jerk, sacrificing your morals, or fucking over your friends? Very thin line.heyheysg said:
OT: Got a few more reasons why: I am quick to judge, I hate most of the cliques at my school, I spend my days gaming, I am very unatheletic, and I am nervous around girls I like.
Not single but when I was it was because i was too shy to talk to girls, and was oblivious to signs of interest they showed, I have lots of friends that are girls but when it came to being more then friends, I was out of it. Now I have a great girl and and going on 2 years in 2 months.
I pretty much can't be arced...
That and the two girls I have ever met that I could even remotely see myself getting along with well for any extended period of time have been in relationships.
I swear, around here girls act like idiots because it's perceived as being cool, and I can't stand that, because they've acted stupid so long that they actually become stupid.
Mispronouncing simple words, incapable of simple math, unable to grasp the easiest of concepts.
That and they expect the world to be handed to them on a silver platter, and have their every whim fulfilled then and there, no questions asked.
And if they don't get their way, they go and pout in a corner.
I'm just waiting until I find an easy going, down to earth, preferably nerdy, girl who just likes life as it is.
Too bad I have a better chance of being hit by a meteor, struck by lightning... twice... and getting run over by a bus while stranded on an iceberg, while being visited by the flipping ghost of Christmas past than finding anyone like that around here.
Oh, and while winning the lottery too.
It's truly a shame.
That and the two girls I have ever met that I could even remotely see myself getting along with well for any extended period of time have been in relationships.
I swear, around here girls act like idiots because it's perceived as being cool, and I can't stand that, because they've acted stupid so long that they actually become stupid.
Mispronouncing simple words, incapable of simple math, unable to grasp the easiest of concepts.
That and they expect the world to be handed to them on a silver platter, and have their every whim fulfilled then and there, no questions asked.
And if they don't get their way, they go and pout in a corner.
I'm just waiting until I find an easy going, down to earth, preferably nerdy, girl who just likes life as it is.
Too bad I have a better chance of being hit by a meteor, struck by lightning... twice... and getting run over by a bus while stranded on an iceberg, while being visited by the flipping ghost of Christmas past than finding anyone like that around here.
Oh, and while winning the lottery too.
It's truly a shame.
Okay, this is where I point out that the following isn't aimed at you.TimeLord said:
The problem with a lot of 'nice' people is that they seem to expect some sort of reward for being nice. That is a huge mistake. Being nice to people creates no obligations whatsoever. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that being nice for the sake of some reward isn't being nice it's providing a service. Be nice because you like being nice to people or don't fucking bother is my view on it.
When it comes to helping out a female friend that you're keen on my rule of thumb is to never help them more than you'd help out any other friend. It really, REALLY cuts down on the bitterness when they, as people so often do, go off and do something that gives you the shits.
The other rule I stick by is never do something in the expectation/hope of a reward that you couldn't ask for upfront. "I will design a new tatt for you for a bottle of whisky," is something I'd say upfront. "I'll help you move house if you put on beer and pizza after," is another. "I will help you through a rough patch in your life if you'll be my girlfriend," is not something I'd say nor is "I'll help hide you from your abusive ex-boyfriend in exchange for sex." If you can't verbalise your motivations to the other person beforehand then you should think about examining your motivations is what I'm slowly getting around to saying.
I don't like children, so I wouldn't be into the whole procreation thing.
As for being single, I seem to be too selfish for an intimate relationship.
I am barely courteous and conscientious of my own housemate and best friend, let alone someone who was emotionally invested more so in myself and my actions. I enjoy going out without having to answer to someone or explain why I was home late.
And I enjoy my personal time and space.
I also seem to have an aversion to too much human interaction - it seems to tire me out. So to consciously try and put in a lot of effort into a relationship which more than likely will just end with a broken heart is something I don't fancy investing in.
But I have been in love and wanted to change the world for someone. I've had my heart broken, and broken others. It's just something I don't fancy doing again in a hurry.
As for being single, I seem to be too selfish for an intimate relationship.
I am barely courteous and conscientious of my own housemate and best friend, let alone someone who was emotionally invested more so in myself and my actions. I enjoy going out without having to answer to someone or explain why I was home late.
And I enjoy my personal time and space.
I also seem to have an aversion to too much human interaction - it seems to tire me out. So to consciously try and put in a lot of effort into a relationship which more than likely will just end with a broken heart is something I don't fancy investing in.
But I have been in love and wanted to change the world for someone. I've had my heart broken, and broken others. It's just something I don't fancy doing again in a hurry.
I have a couple serious flaws when it comes to finding a partner. First off would probably qualify as "Ugly", because I generally look as if I am supremely pissed off at the world with the structure of my face. Looking as if you are always spoiling for a fight is generally a big deterant, along with rarely smiling in public(away from friends).
Example:
Also I am very picky about the type of girls I will and wont pursue. And while I dont see my standards as excessive it does tend to narrow the field considerably even though intelligence,drive, and purpose are the only deal breakers .
All in all though I am used to it, and it is working for me recently.
Example:
Also I am very picky about the type of girls I will and wont pursue. And while I dont see my standards as excessive it does tend to narrow the field considerably even though intelligence,drive, and purpose are the only deal breakers .
All in all though I am used to it, and it is working for me recently.
i'm single because i broke up with my boyfriend about... 5 hours ago.
quite simply, i want to be single because i like the freedom. that and i feel no attraction towards him anymore....
quite simply, i want to be single because i like the freedom. that and i feel no attraction towards him anymore....
I don't want to be in a relationship.
On a sidenote, yeah I am really picky but have a lot of reasons to be so
On a sidenote, yeah I am really picky but have a lot of reasons to be so
Oh yeah, better to have 3-5 good female friends than 1 jealous girl that you must give all your attention all the time or she'll think you're cheating on her.ISawAFish said:I've never been a flirty guy. When I talk to a chick I usually just talk to them like I talk to another guy. So I guess I'm more of the "Just Friends" kind of guy. Which is fine, because I got some sexy friends