Poll: Would you date an asexual person?

[Monkfish Acc.]

I AM an asexual person.

Can you elaborate? To my knowledge it isn't technically possible to be text-book asexual, meaning reproduces without a partner and the child only inherits the single parent's genes.

So I take it you didn't pay attention to the subject matter of this thread at all.
We're talking about the nonsexual kind of asexual. Not the textbook biological definition.

 

[Littaly]

Let's see here.

Current status: No relationship - No sex
Hypothetical status: Relationship - No sex

Hey! It sure looks like the better out of the two options! ^^ So yeah, I probably wouldn't have anything against it.

 

[Drake_Dercon]

To me sex is the only reason for a relationship, I can get meaningful conversations and close friendships from y'know my close friends, just need sex when you get bored of giving yourself the low five every once in a while.

Or, that statement could be reversed. Theoretically, you could have sexual relations with anyone you were attracted to (could, as in physically possible), whereas you could only have an actual romantic relationship with someone you felt emotionally drawn to. If you feel no different towards your romantic partners than to your friends, you might want to consider thinking about your relationships. Of course if you only care about having BFWB (that'd be best friends with benefits) relationships, or even just the last bit, that's your business.

Personally, I'd be fine with a nonsexual relationship. As long as it's the right person, I don't see why not. Sex is great, but basing a relationship on it seems a bad idea to me (don't know 'cause I've never tried), unless of course nobody expects anything from it. Bottom line being that I could have a relationship without sex, I don't really see why people have such an aversion (sometimes I wish I were asexual myself, though then I realize I don't).

I flirt with basically all my friends, and the majority of my sexual encouters have been friends with benefits, I think people are to hung up on serious commitment and love etc. I'd rather just enjoy myself and someone else, the idea of being with one person for longer than a month is terrifying to me so I think why bother when I have friends who think the same way I do.

You're welcome to your own preferences, but the idea of FWB doesn't really appeal to me (and frankly seems a bit hollow). I think that people aren't hung up enough, but that's just perspective, isn't it? If your friends think the same way as you, then all the better for you (dodges awkward situations), but some people do like to live their lives that way and gain fulfillment from it. Just keep that in mind.

 

[RedEyesBlackGamer]

Yes. I see no problem with it. Masturbation exists for a reason.

 

[HerbertTheHamster]

Only strange people would take the fun part out of a relationship.

 

[bushwhacker2k]

I AM an asexual person.

Can you elaborate? To my knowledge it isn't technically possible to be text-book asexual, meaning reproduces without a partner and the child only inherits the single parent's genes.

So I take it you didn't pay attention to the subject matter of this thread at all.
We're talking about the nonsexual kind of asexual. Not the textbook biological definition.

That's nice but then you guys might wanna work on your terminology... as that's a completely false use of the term. Also, yes, I did stop reading to post that before reading farther into the post.

 

[Josh123914]

well I romanced Liara in Mass Effect soooooo I guess I already have?

 

[Something Amyss]

I'm more a fan of the people than the parts.

 

[Sarahcidal]

Honestly, no.
Sex is not the most important part of a loving relationship... but frankly it's a big part of it.

 

[Nargleblarg]

If I fell in love than yes.

 

[dementis]

To me sex is the only reason for a relationship, I can get meaningful conversations and close friendships from y'know my close friends, just need sex when you get bored of giving yourself the low five every once in a while.

Or, that statement could be reversed. Theoretically, you could have sexual relations with anyone you were attracted to (could, as in physically possible), whereas you could only have an actual romantic relationship with someone you felt emotionally drawn to. If you feel no different towards your romantic partners than to your friends, you might want to consider thinking about your relationships. Of course if you only care about having BFWB (that'd be best friends with benefits) relationships, or even just the last bit, that's your business.

Personally, I'd be fine with a nonsexual relationship. As long as it's the right person, I don't see why not. Sex is great, but basing a relationship on it seems a bad idea to me (don't know 'cause I've never tried), unless of course nobody expects anything from it. Bottom line being that I could have a relationship without sex, I don't really see why people have such an aversion (sometimes I wish I were asexual myself, though then I realize I don't).

I flirt with basically all my friends, and the majority of my sexual encouters have been friends with benefits, I think people are to hung up on serious commitment and love etc. I'd rather just enjoy myself and someone else, the idea of being with one person for longer than a month is terrifying to me so I think why bother when I have friends who think the same way I do.

You're welcome to your own preferences, but the idea of FWB doesn't really appeal to me (and frankly seems a bit hollow). I think that people aren't hung up enough, but that's just perspective, isn't it? If your friends think the same way as you, then all the better for you (dodges awkward situations), but some people do like to live their lives that way and gain fulfillment from it. Just keep that in mind.

Oh I do don't worry I always tell anyone I might get with that I have no interest in a long term relationship and the likes, give them a heads up and go from there, I've tried the whole emotional relationship thing and I just couldn't get into it so I just stick with like minded people.

 

[KarlMonster]

For the record, having a fetish counts as being sexual.

Why? Because those people above, who require coitus in a romantic relationship, have a fetish for sex. Regrettably, now I have to invoke the cliche; "to each his/her/its own".
[I avoid cliche as a rule, but it is true, and applicable to this discussion.]

Now, I could wish that the OP had more clearly stated the premise. "Dating" was used in the title, but that was replaced by "relationship" in the statement of the premise. The two words are not homonyms. As a result, many of you are answering one of two questions;

1) Would you date an asexual person?
2) Would you enter into a relationship with an asexual person?

Personally, I have no issue with #1, dating an asexual person; since that is usually the process of determining compatibility. My response to question #2 depends on the outcome of the process implied by question #1.

Consider: if your normal "dating" process includes fabulous headboard-smashing copulation, then clearly your answer to both questions will probably be "no." [With a few "yes" votes if really great drugs are involved.]

Edit: and now that I consider it, the Poll choices are; "yes", "no", and "depends on the person."
The choice "depends on the person" is actually an implicit "yes" to my question #1 - because the process of discovering that person is called "dating."

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

I AM an asexual person.

Can you elaborate? To my knowledge it isn't technically possible to be text-book asexual, meaning reproduces without a partner and the child only inherits the single parent's genes.

So I take it you didn't pay attention to the subject matter of this thread at all.
We're talking about the nonsexual kind of asexual. Not the textbook biological definition.

That's nice but then you guys might wanna work on your terminology... as that's a completely false use of the term. Also, yes, I did stop reading to post that before reading farther into the post.

No. It isn't.

A = lacking; without + sexual

A word can have multiple meanings, you know. It's okay. There's no law against it.

 

[okogamashii]

A person that reproduced by budding?! No way!

 

[Fiz_The_Toaster]

I wouldn't, while sex isn't the most important part of a relationship for me, it's a close second, it's still there for a reason.

I am tired of the new gender terms...there is just no end to the political correctness there, but anyway...

I date people I am serious about getting to know deeply, and I am an adult. Adults have sex as a part of a mature relationship to share intimacy (some wait for marriage even.) Why would I want to date someone who has and never will have any interest in sharing sexual intimacy with me? Shouldn't they look for another asexual person and just let me be there friend?

Agreed.

 

[Eldarion]

I don't believe for a second that sex defines a relationship. All sex needs to happen is physical attraction. A relationship is an emotional bond.

That being said, not everyone could date a person knowing that sex is never an option. At least these people are being honest about what they want.

I personally have a high sex drive. But I still value the person more than the sex. On the other hand I would probably have to try out the relationship first. I don't honestly know weather or not I could stay with someone and deny myself such a basic human need. Its not like I have ever tried it before as to have a frame of reference.

 

[Lambi]

definition of Relationship

1. The condition or fact of being related; connection or association.
2. Connection by blood or marriage; kinship.
3. A particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealings with each other: has a close relationship with his siblings.
4. A romantic or sexual involvement.

so seeing point 4 you can have a relationship without a sexual involvement. Romantic isn't the same as sexual.

To answer your question. If it was someone who i liked and she liked me i i wouldn't mind. It isn't like i care about sex anyway.

I was basically going to say the same thing as you. Just replace "she liked me" with "they liked me" since, being pansexual, I can be with anyone and everyone.

Also, I have dated an asexual person. I didn't mind that.

 

[HT_Black]

Already did. It's great. Arguably even greater than normal because there's no really bad sex or disturbing kinks to impact things.

Moving on.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

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Completely off-topic, but I'm loving the Flipside avatar.

^^ Thanks!

Yeah, I've rarely found an avatar that better reflects my personality. I love May! Who else could make friends with someone by letting them eat her arm?

 

[The Shade of Time]

I'm currently dating someone that's asexual.

It's great we get on like a house on fire but I feel like an old married couple when we've been together a year.