Poll: Would you date/sleep with a person that has a Physical handicap ?
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Woah , i'm not a dickhead , just a dick , and i did explain this in my edit , no need to remind me . Anywho a day disabled and i would probably kill myself , i'm not a strong enough person to handle that , i actually respect the disabled because i would NEVER be able to live that way , they are stronger people than i could ever be . Still wouldn't date one though.MianusIzBleeding said:
I do know a cute girl with one leg shorter than the other. But I'm not interested. If she had an incredible personality, I would consider it.
Everything except being paralyzed at least from the waist down. This isn't a "Fuck cripples" thing, it's more of a "it would just feel creepy, like having sex with a corpse" thing.
I probably would but at the same time I don't see it possible for me to end up in a situation with it as an option. Love is love and all that so I suppose if your hypothetical scenario is me actually being in love with someone disabled then sure, the core identity of love is to disregard logic and reality in favor of that nice feeling in your chest after all.
Sure.
Not to make assumptions, but I think it would be easier in some ways. I probably wouldnt be so afraid of having to live up to some super-high standard so less stress there, and they'd be less likely to cheat I think--or less able to. That sounds kinda selfish but stability is less stressful to me.
Plus, Im a caring person.
Not to make assumptions, but I think it would be easier in some ways. I probably wouldnt be so afraid of having to live up to some super-high standard so less stress there, and they'd be less likely to cheat I think--or less able to. That sounds kinda selfish but stability is less stressful to me.
Plus, Im a caring person.
Well, I happen to be physically disabled. To be more exact, limited ability. I can get around ok, but it causes much pain in my feet, legs, hips, and back. I have to pace myself throughout the day. usually by the end of the day, my legs are tired and I may experience quite a bit of pain.
It hurt to read the opening post; that it would be hard to put a loved one through the ordeal of living with a disabled person. I wonder about that every day. Am I being to much of a burden? Am I pulling my own weight? Am I good enough?
None of that matters because at the end of the day, it was my wife who chose to be with me, flaws and all. We deal with the flaws of others and ourselves everyday. I just happen to have some physical flaws as well.
There are days when I use a wheelchair to help ease the pain from much walking, and man the looks I get from people when I roll on up to a shelf in Wal-mart and then stand up to reach something off the top shelf. Man, it used to bother me and at times it still does, but now I mostly find it hilarious.
My wife has never had a problem with my body. At first, I was terrified that if she saw my scarred feet she wouldn't want to be with me. She simply said that my legs are a part of me and she loves my legs just as much as the rest of me.
A physical disability may not "define" a person but it certainly can influence their personality and character. When you fall in love with someone, you fall in love with all of what makes he/she a person.
It hurt to read the opening post; that it would be hard to put a loved one through the ordeal of living with a disabled person. I wonder about that every day. Am I being to much of a burden? Am I pulling my own weight? Am I good enough?
None of that matters because at the end of the day, it was my wife who chose to be with me, flaws and all. We deal with the flaws of others and ourselves everyday. I just happen to have some physical flaws as well.
There are days when I use a wheelchair to help ease the pain from much walking, and man the looks I get from people when I roll on up to a shelf in Wal-mart and then stand up to reach something off the top shelf. Man, it used to bother me and at times it still does, but now I mostly find it hilarious.
My wife has never had a problem with my body. At first, I was terrified that if she saw my scarred feet she wouldn't want to be with me. She simply said that my legs are a part of me and she loves my legs just as much as the rest of me.
A physical disability may not "define" a person but it certainly can influence their personality and character. When you fall in love with someone, you fall in love with all of what makes he/she a person.
Yeah see, reading the first post again I noticed he doesn't even mention "love", he just superficially tackles the supposed "ickyness" or w/e of having sex with someone disabled and then goes on to say a few more things that were pretty badly developed as well. I doubt he understands the concept well enough to realize how people normally respond to each other when there is love.HeSaNa said:
If anything, you make your wife feel worthwhile, she isn't like every other wife who supposedly loves her husband, she actually and indisputably loves you and she behaves in a way that makes her feel you know she loves you, which is more than you can say for a lot of able-bodied couples out there.
I feel like Vriska's expression in your icon is perfect for that comment. Just sayin'.DarkRyter said:
OP: I'd probably do it, as long as I liked their personality. Hell, I'm somewhat enamored with a blind person as we speak, so eeyup.
I have a rule, Fucking things that have genetic problems leads to genetic problems... Other then that I'm open to almost anything.
Yeah i didn't mention love , because obviously if you love someone ot wouldn't matter. Thats why o said you would have to meet the person ater their disability , not to say you can't fall in love with someone that is disabled. Also sorry for having a poorly developped opinion, it's hard to write an opinion ( for me anyways) on something like this without offending someone. And the last thing i want to do is offend , which is why i was reluctant to wrote down my opinion in the first place ( as mentionned in my edit).Dreiko said:Yeah see, reading the first post again I noticed he doesn't even mention "love", he just superficially tackles the supposed "ickyness" or w/e of having sexHeSaNa said:
with someone disabled and then goes on to say a few more things that were pretty badly developed as well. I doubt he understands the concept well enough to realize how people normally respond to each other when there is love.
If anything, you make your wife feel worthwhile, she isn't like every other wife who supposedly loves her husband, she actually and indisputably loves you and she behaves in a way that makes her feel you know she loves you, which is more than you can say for a lot of able-bodied couples out there.
krazykidd said:Yeah i didn't mention love , because obviously if you love someone ot wouldn't matter. Thats why o said you would have to meet the person ater their disability , not to say you can't fall in love with someone that is disabled. Also sorry for having a poorly developped opinion, it's hard to write an opinion ( for me anyways) on something like this without offending someone. And the last thing i want to do is offend , which is why i was reluctant to wrote down my opinion in the first place ( as mentionned in my edit).Dreiko said:Yeah see, reading the first post again I noticed he doesn't even mention "love", he just superficially tackles the supposed "ickyness" or w/e of having sexHeSaNa said:
with someone disabled and then goes on to say a few more things that were pretty badly developed as well. I doubt he understands the concept well enough to realize how people normally respond to each other when there is love.
If anything, you make your wife feel worthwhile, she isn't like every other wife who supposedly loves her husband, she actually and indisputably loves you and she behaves in a way that makes her feel you know she loves you, which is more than you can say for a lot of able-bodied couples out there.
The problem with your not mentioning love at all is the simple fact that you shouldn't really be having sex with someone whom you do not love. If there is no love then sex is just elaborate masturbation and nothing more, which sorta makes the question into "do you find physically handicapped people sexy", which would have a whole other host of responses about it and would end up completely different than what I think you're wanting to ask.
For example, how about a supermodel who lost an arm vs a girl who weighs 250 pounds? The tanker is probably going to be less sexy by a mile but we have the uncanny valley effect. See, now we're trying to balance imperfections as though people are cattle, which is a horrible thing to do and what your way of asking this question will eventually lead to, which was why I called it under-developed.
If you truly believe in something, if your opinions are to ever matter, you need to be ready, nay, excited about debating with people who disagree with you. You shouldn't be scared about what they'll call you or think of you. Otherwise you're just one more head in the hydra of our society hissing the same noise, noise that makes you, specifically, not matter at all. After all, if someone defeats you, two more will pop up.