TimeLord said:
First: I like your avatar.
HK_01 said:
No, never.
1) If she's still in the business she has sex with other men every day.
2) It would be awkward.
To summarize my logic, this^.
I have a few points in no particular order.
First, while they are people too, it would bug me to know that anybody could spend a few dollars...or go on the internet and she my wife naked. That would be weird
Second, does she still work in the Adult Entertainment business? I mean, if somebody were an exstripper that's different because they do it anymore and not just anybody can go see them naked.
Third, the thought of them having been with so many people would bug me. Yes, they get tested but it's still possible. Let's say she was tested and is clean.
All right, fourth point still...she's been with how many people. I'm no prude and I can't count how many people I've been with on one hand (or probably both for that matter...don't know, I'd have to think about that. Does it count if we didn't "go all the way"? I'm getting sidetracked). I mean, it wouldn't make it feel special at all to me (I don't think the act MUST be special but "making love" is different. If you don't know the difference, then you've never made love before.)
Fifth and final point: I would wonder if she really truly enjoys it or just feels that she is checking off an obligation from a checklist. Like, is she really enjoying it or is she just doing it because "He knows I used to do this so he expects it from me." I understand many women feel similar to that with the logic that "If I don't do this, he will leave me for somebody who does" but I wouldn't want to be with someone who feels that way, it would feel like I'm forcing them or something. I don't think ANYBODY is worth doing something that you don't feel comfortable doing or don't want to do. Also, I never ask my partner to do anything that I wouldn't do for them in return.
Sixth, I don't think I would date somebody who was a pornstar in the first place because of the above reasons. If I found out after the marriage, it would create issues because of the above issues and I would feel lied to for her not telling me. I an upfront guy when it comes to relationships. When I met the woman who is now my wife and we decided to date, I thought it would best to get all the important stuff out of the way upfront so we knew that we weren't wasting time in a relationship that wouldn't work out, knew what the person was like, and we already knew rules and boundaries and stuff. It was kinda like a game of truth or dare (just truths though...we saved the dares for another time
)...or that tv show "Baggage". for example, I told her that my exwife was a liar and manipulator who liked to play me like a pawn and that was something I don't appreciate. She agreed and admitted that she had been cheated on her before and that doing so would immediately end the relationship since the trust is gone and it's practically impossible to earn that back. I think more people should do that, prevents wasted time in relationships that won't work out in the end anyways.
