Poll: Would you Marry a Pornstar?

[Naheal]

Marriage and relationships go to a flow chart of sorts with me.

She interesting? Move to date. Do we connect? If so, how long does she keep my interest? Long = second date. Short = no need to date again. Beyond that, it falls to emotional connection and if feelings end up being reciprocated. If they don't, then no marriage. If they do, then marriage is an option.

 

[OmegaXzors]

I'm sorry - call me heartless, no. Even if I loved her, the minute she told me she had sex for money then I'd throw her out like yesterday's news. Things like that sicken me to no end. I could handle cigarettes and getting drunk every once in a while. Maybe even if she smoked weed, but no. Not excessive porn. I can't even take it if the girl has just had sex with many boyfriends. Same concept to me.

 

[BlindMessiah94]

I think I'll worry about real life dating scenarios before I start worrying about fantasy ones.

 

[Queen Michael]

Depends on if she likes manga. But if she does, then sure, as long as we're talking a suicidegirls star.

 

[Sark]

Absolutely not. As far as I can tell, for some baffling reason, every female pornstar is physically repulsive, and I imagine they also have the emotional intelligence of a 4 year old with fetal alcohol syndrome.

Oh, I'm sure. And I bet they all had their souls sucked out when they started doing porn. See, I can make crap up too.

I think it's safe to assume most porn stars hate their job.

Despite making piles of money when they could be busting their butts at a crappy Burger King job instead? I thought BonsaiK already refuted this absurd statement way back in another thread.

"I wouldn't enjoy doing porn, therefore nobody who does porn enjoys it."

Only a person with no respect for themselves would do the many things that are considered pornography while filmed to be watched by the entire world for the sake of money.

What about someone who was proud of their body and open with their sexuality? The money is fairly good, the work is pleasurable, though not intimate and you are never forced into working in a situation that you find uncomfortable.
I have read a few interviews by the pornstar Tyler Knight and throughout these he stated that the work he does is on his terms. He also stated that the job can drain the pleasure of sex out of regular non-work sex, it does not infringe on the intimacy that is involved in a real relationship.

 

[Chicaine]

Louis Theroux did a great documentary about pornstars and one of the people featured was a pornstar married to a regular guy, i strongly recommend checking that and his other documentaries out
As for me, i dont see any difference between prostitutes and pornstars, and i wouldn't fuck let alone marry a prostitute

 

[Jezzy54]

Probably not, because a lot of things porn stars do in videos/pictures are friggin' disgusting.

 

[dududf]

I would like my wife to be human and not plastic, thank you very much.

 

[Hurr Durr Derp]

A pornstar? No way, no way in Hell.

An ex-pornstar? Yeah, I guess.

 

[ResiEvalJohn]

Wow, the poll results are so close, amazing! ( I chose no btw)

 

[Herb sewell]

If it was real love I'd marry an ex-pornstar. An active pornstar would not work for me.

 

[Socius]

Personallity is the key word, if there is love I would.
I wouldn't marry someone for a couple of good shelves, even if I could put the entire "anamorph" series on them.

 

[Everin]

if we were in love, then yes. Otherwise, I'd have to think hard about it.

 

[ResiEvalJohn]

Pornstars are people too

First: I like your avatar.

No, never.

1) If she's still in the business she has sex with other men every day.

2) It would be awkward.

To summarize my logic, this^.

I have a few points in no particular order.

First, while they are people too, it would bug me to know that anybody could spend a few dollars...or go on the internet and she my wife naked. That would be weird

Second, does she still work in the Adult Entertainment business? I mean, if somebody were an exstripper that's different because they do it anymore and not just anybody can go see them naked.

Third, the thought of them having been with so many people would bug me. Yes, they get tested but it's still possible. Let's say she was tested and is clean.

All right, fourth point still...she's been with how many people. I'm no prude and I can't count how many people I've been with on one hand (or probably both for that matter...don't know, I'd have to think about that. Does it count if we didn't "go all the way"? I'm getting sidetracked). I mean, it wouldn't make it feel special at all to me (I don't think the act MUST be special but "making love" is different. If you don't know the difference, then you've never made love before.)

Fifth and final point: I would wonder if she really truly enjoys it or just feels that she is checking off an obligation from a checklist. Like, is she really enjoying it or is she just doing it because "He knows I used to do this so he expects it from me." I understand many women feel similar to that with the logic that "If I don't do this, he will leave me for somebody who does" but I wouldn't want to be with someone who feels that way, it would feel like I'm forcing them or something. I don't think ANYBODY is worth doing something that you don't feel comfortable doing or don't want to do. Also, I never ask my partner to do anything that I wouldn't do for them in return.

Sixth, I don't think I would date somebody who was a pornstar in the first place because of the above reasons. If I found out after the marriage, it would create issues because of the above issues and I would feel lied to for her not telling me. I an upfront guy when it comes to relationships. When I met the woman who is now my wife and we decided to date, I thought it would best to get all the important stuff out of the way upfront so we knew that we weren't wasting time in a relationship that wouldn't work out, knew what the person was like, and we already knew rules and boundaries and stuff. It was kinda like a game of truth or dare (just truths though...we saved the dares for another time )...or that tv show "Baggage". for example, I told her that my exwife was a liar and manipulator who liked to play me like a pawn and that was something I don't appreciate. She agreed and admitted that she had been cheated on her before and that doing so would immediately end the relationship since the trust is gone and it's practically impossible to earn that back. I think more people should do that, prevents wasted time in relationships that won't work out in the end anyways.

Wow, thank you for the lengthy response sir. I completely agree with your first point especially - it would be too strange to think that other people could see my wife online whenever they wanted! Your other points are all totally valid as well.

I'm surprised the results for this thread are so close!! It's kind of disturbing to me actually. For your second point, you asked if she still worked in the porn business. Well no, I assumed that it was implied she would quit, or did quit before you married, but I think a lot of people chose "yes" anyway even though they thought that she was still working! It really makes me worry about our society, the lack of self respect people have and "do anything for money attitude."