Poll: Your stance on monogamy?

[Giest4life]

Monogamy is the last vestiges of a dying human race--the race of the "last men," as Nietzsche called them. There is nothing good, noble, and praiseworthy about monogamy. Just as there is nothing special with polygamy.

If we were meant to be monogamous we wouldn't have any desire to cheat.

Simple as.

Penguins don't cheat, in-fact most of the time when one's partner dies. It will simply never mate again. Some die soon after, thoughts are from grief. Wanna know why? Because they were born to be monogamous.

Be careful with that, sir. When you say "we" how sure are you that you speak for 100% of the human populace, the dead, the living, and those that are not yet conceived? I'd be careful with generalizations like that....

 

[Tharwen]

We've evolved to develop long-standing and deep relationships with exactly one other person. Part of that mindset is that the relationship lasts as long as only two people are involved. Otherwise they can't maintain it and it becomes very superficial.

As for your second question, I assume that I'd be a part of the society that accepted polygamy in the first (second?) place, so yes.

 

[Mcupobob]

Pffhh You can date/marry whoever you want how many want as long as its consensual. For me, I think one girl is enough drama for me.

 

[TyphoidMary]

If we weren't told our whole lives that we would find that "One special person for us" then I think more people would be more okay with a lot of things they aren't now. But that's mildly off topic.

Monogamy can work if both parties are committed to it, but it is difficult as hell sometimes. Not because of the desire to cheat, that may be low to nonexistent, but because it is really hard to like (or love) one person all the time, especially living with them.

If you want to be monogamous, be so. If you would prefer to fuck anything that stops moving long enough, have at (as long as it's with other consenting adults).

 

[AngelOfBlueRoses]

I've never liked the idea of polygamy, and not because of any religious views or societal views. Perhaps it's because I have a rather naive yet high outlook on love; I'll share my love and passion with one person and that one person only. Inb4 somebody laughs at me. I do have a lover. I have a lover of 2 and a half years and it's still going strong. Once, I did ask for permission from her to hook up with a guy and she agreed. The guy and I didn't make it very far because... it just felt so guilty. I didn't enjoy it at all. Well, I did enjoy it. I just had to stop before any guilty feelings, despite having permission, overwhelmed me. Wow, that sounds dirty.

To sum it up: Monogamy, to me, just feels... right. No other way to say it.

Edited: Just felt like mentioning that if you can make polygamy work, more power to you, I guess. Sleep around, for all I care. That's your right as a human being. I'll stick to my one, truly passionate love.

 

[Ravek]

It's wrong, it goes against our base animal instincts

No it doesn't. Read up on evolutionary biology and game theory.

 

[Yuno Gasai]

I am a monogamous person by nature.

I accept polygamous people, and can understand their point of view - but I do not share it.

I wish to share myself with one person, and one person alone. It just feels right.

 

[ZephrC]

It's neither right or wrong, and it's stupid to pretend sex and how many people you have it with is some kind of great moral dilemma. I prefer monogamy myself, but that has more in common with preferring mint chocolate chip ice cream than it does with preferring not to kill people.

I say as long as you're not directly and quantifiablly hurting someone it's nobody's business but your own.

And that goes for a lot of other things besides sex as well.

 

[TaboriHK]

I know a legit polyamorist that changed my perspective on this entirely. Is her way for everyone? Absolutely not. To each his own. But some people do have needs that can't be met by just one person. People are strange and interesting creatures.

 

[Iron Lightning]

As long as it doesn't harm anyone, I couldn't really care what people choose to do.

 

[Zeromaeus]

Monogamy and polygamy work on a general case by case basis. It really depends on the mindset of the people involved. Most people are raised to think that they have to be bound to a single person and that's what they believe. Some people are psychologically different and don't have a problem with either sharing a partner or having multiple partners or even sharing a partner and having multiple partners. Polygamy isn't wrong in the same sense that monogamy isn't wrong. Hell, as long as all of the individuals are happy, it shouldn't matter.
Me, myself? I'm a one-woman sort of guy, short and simple.

 

[Scars Unseen]

I personally have enough trouble tolerating the one woman that I'm with at times. Having to deal with the unpredictable mood swings of multiple women at a time would drive me batty. That said, I don't support society placing artificial constraints on individuals when no one is being harmed, so I guess my answer is "I really don't give a shit."

Apologies to the, in my experience, rare women out there that are well balanced individuals. I know you have to put up with a bunch of bullshit from us too.

 

[ayailla]

I'm a mushy person. If I'm in love, I can't think about anybody else, so Monogamy makes sense and feels right to me. I know my own feelings, and know that if I start thinking about somebody else in that way, I'm not as in love with my partner as I thought, so I shouldn't be with them anymore.

That's just me, though. Some people feel differently, and I accept that, however I would want my partner to feel the same as me, which, fortunately, he does. ^_^

 

[CoL0sS]

I dunno I'm really a one-woman type of guy, but I think it's ok as long as all parties involved are happy. To me it would feel like cheating.

 

[TheLiham]

Ever had to share a girl you love?

Didn't think so.

 

[Wolfenbarg]

I put other, just because I don't feel it is "right", but it is the only way I'd go about things. People should be entitled to sleep with whoever and however many people they want unless it hurts someone. Unless it does that, there's no real breach of morality in my opinion.

 

[Kevonovitch]

i like manogomy myself, but eh, if she likes an open relationship, then if we're still togeather, and it's open, can i just ask they come back to me at the end of the night?

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

I'm indifferent.

I can't imagine having more than one spouse, but that's just me, with all my cultural bias...most of the time I can't imagine having even one spouse. So...

As long as people involved are happy, I don't care.

 

[spartan231490]

Monogamy-the practice of having only one spouse/mate (etc.)

I've heard people before (mostly promiscuous people) give the excuse that monogamy goes against our base instincts as human beings/animals. They give the example that most animals just whore around with every other one so why shouldn't humans? (Although I believe some animals do practice monogamy not sure which ones though) They think our sole goal in life is to spread our seed around as much as possible. Truth? Or a convenient excuse for their promiscuity (generally whoreing around in case you don't know)?

Not to mention those crazy Mormons LOL.

I feel that monogamy is right simply because it just feels right. Having more than one spouse/mate (etc.) seems like it would just make you feel dirty. But I've never experienced a polygamous relationship so I can't say for sure.

How do you feel about monogamy?

EDIT: Secondary question: If polygamy was all of a sudden generally accepted in society (and legal) would you practice it?

animals that mate for life include but are not limited to, eagles, falcons, wolves, and whales, i believe. and monogomy feels right,

 

[Betancore]

I personally can't see myself with more than one person at a time, but I can't really say if monogamy is wrong or right. It's up to the individual. If they're in a polygamous relationship, and it's legal wherever they are, and everyone in the marriage agrees, then who's to say that's wrong or right? It feels right for them, and that's fine by me.