Poll: Your stance on monogamy?
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I don't really feel one way or another towards monogamy or polygamy. If someone wants to follow either I have no problem with it so far as its consensual. I mean polygamy can sound nice, but I can see how it can cause a lot o problems between the numerous spouses (be them male or female). So I say do whatever you want to. I would be willing for either.
I'm indifferent. People should do what they feel will make them happy(Which they do anyways, virtually no exceptions), who am I or anyone else to tell someone what's right or wrong to do with what's theirs?.
Personally, If i was in a romantic relationship I would feel compelled by the programing of society to practice monogamy. But if the relationship was just about sex, I'd rather just keep at that and do whatever the hell I want.
I'm really not the best person to answer this question, I have no objective opinions about what's right or wrong anyways. I have feelings on the subject(See above), but no conceptions of them being anything more then just personal compulsions. How could I logically argue right from wrong anyway?(See: Existential Nihilism)
Personally, If i was in a romantic relationship I would feel compelled by the programing of society to practice monogamy. But if the relationship was just about sex, I'd rather just keep at that and do whatever the hell I want.
I'm really not the best person to answer this question, I have no objective opinions about what's right or wrong anyways. I have feelings on the subject(See above), but no conceptions of them being anything more then just personal compulsions. How could I logically argue right from wrong anyway?(See: Existential Nihilism)
When everyone involved is aware of what's happening, accepts what's happening, and isn't emotionally injured by the fact that it's happening, then whatever.
When that's not the case, very much not whatever.
My wife and I have already had a talk about this - if we meet someone who we both feel we could have a relationship with, and that third person was also up for it, we'd go for it. But that's pretty much the extent of either of us having someone beyond each other.
Really, it depends on who's involved. There's no "Monogamy is right" any more than there is a "Monogamy is wrong" - it's case-by-case. A polyamorous relationship can work, if everyone in it behaves. So can monogamous relationships. And both can also fail, sometimes spectacularly, for any number of reasons.
When that's not the case, very much not whatever.
My wife and I have already had a talk about this - if we meet someone who we both feel we could have a relationship with, and that third person was also up for it, we'd go for it. But that's pretty much the extent of either of us having someone beyond each other.
Really, it depends on who's involved. There's no "Monogamy is right" any more than there is a "Monogamy is wrong" - it's case-by-case. A polyamorous relationship can work, if everyone in it behaves. So can monogamous relationships. And both can also fail, sometimes spectacularly, for any number of reasons.
I have goats. Monogamous they are not.Glademaster said:
Monogamy is what God ordained to be. I don't care if you agree with me or not. I'll just go ahead and just use marriage as an example, because it'll be easier to explain. One man and one woman. That is "traditional" for a reason. The loving and trusting bond created between a single man and a single woman is the perfect environment to excell, for a marriage should bring out the best of both, (I'm not saying all do, but they should!), and to raise a family. People are more then animals. Our bodies may be pretty darn similar to monkeys and pigs, but that is not all we are. Contrary to popular belief, we are perfectly capable of overcoming our bodies. If not, we'd all be having raging orgies every month.
In fact, someone saying a person can't control himself or herself is an insult to all humanity.
Lastly, no, I would not practice pologamy, even if it was legal.
I personally choose Monogamy as I enjoy it and feel a deep bond with a partner knowing that we care for each other and only each other, but I don't judge those who disagree.
Whatever makes you happy (as long as it is consensual)
^ the words I live by
Whatever makes you happy (as long as it is consensual)
^ the words I live by
I'm non-monogamous. I think it's a false dichotomy, this either/or decision of monogamy or polyamory. I think everyone has a comfortable amount of people they would like to share their life with and be in love with - for some people that might be zero and they just want friends and fuck buddies, which is fine. For some people that's 1 - they just want one person to have as their partner and to love and that's fine too. For some the number is higher. Two or three or more, and that's fine too, as long as everybody involved is cool with it, because as adults, we have this amazing ability to look at things and make our own decisions about what's good or bad for us. I don't see how having none, one, two, or more partners could be intrinsically wrong - to me that's as sensible as saying the letter Y is inherently immoral.
I couldn't care less if multiple people want to be involved in a relationship, but I don't see it working from a legal standpoint. If they were all to get married, who would get to make end-of-life decisions? Do they form a council? How does taxation work? I'm no expert, but I think it would be more trouble than it's worth. As a matter of fact, marriage in general seems like more trouble than it's worth. As it stands, you're probably just going to get divorced anyway.
I think monogamy is great and all, but I also feel it's tempting to want to be a polygamist. It's definitely a base instinct, but I think it's also an imporant part of being human that we resist base insticts for logical and practical and emotional reasons... basically, we have a higher instict.
Monogamy is simpler for society as a whole; inheritance rights, family relationships, a lot of very pragmatic stuff is simpler when everyone has only one (at leas one "official") partner.
Things are quite more complex than thinking monogamy "feels right" because you were taught this way. No matter how much you love someone, you will eventually feel attracted to other people. I do think it's quite possible to deal with this and continue to be monogamous, but simply trying to deny and repress the urges won't do much good.
Yes, many times the "we're not biologically made to be monogamous" may be just a lame excuse for people who want to cheat. But I don't think monogamy is right because it's right either. It's more complex than that (even though I am monogamous myself).
And as many people before have said, if it is consensual polygamy and no one is being hurt, I don't see why anyone would have problems with this.
Things are quite more complex than thinking monogamy "feels right" because you were taught this way. No matter how much you love someone, you will eventually feel attracted to other people. I do think it's quite possible to deal with this and continue to be monogamous, but simply trying to deny and repress the urges won't do much good.
Yes, many times the "we're not biologically made to be monogamous" may be just a lame excuse for people who want to cheat. But I don't think monogamy is right because it's right either. It's more complex than that (even though I am monogamous myself).
And as many people before have said, if it is consensual polygamy and no one is being hurt, I don't see why anyone would have problems with this.
I think polygamy is fine if others want to do it, whatever floats your boat. But I'm a one-man kind of girl and would probably not date anyone who was intending on hooking up with other girls, at least not if the relationship was serious.
Polygamy to me just feels animal in mindset, and that's exactly why I don't like it. I don't look at myself and think I'm a homo sapiens sapiens, I think I'm a person. But that's not my reason for monogamy, just my reason against polygamy. Not everyone feels the way I do, but it's hard for me to get along with polygamist-minded people, they just seem hedonistic and aloof.
I believe in love is all. I doubt I need to justify that if someone's felt it.
Oh, I guess that answers the "if polygamy was legal/accepted" thing. I just... couldn't go up to two girls and tell them I have a crush on both of them.
I believe in love is all. I doubt I need to justify that if someone's felt it.
Oh, I guess that answers the "if polygamy was legal/accepted" thing. I just... couldn't go up to two girls and tell them I have a crush on both of them.
I personally find it odd to leave one person sexually frustrated, let alone several. Me being polygamous would be a plague upon the world, the likes of which have never been seen.
But for you guys, hey man, whatever floats your boat. Just please don't pick up my girl.
But for you guys, hey man, whatever floats your boat. Just please don't pick up my girl.
Again, sir. Do you know if it's true for the 100% of those--even males--that have yet to be, those that are, and those that were? What makes you think everyone is concerned about the survival of the species--let alone its progress? It's a disturbing trend that I've seen amongst humans: the trend to state their observations as the "truth."dathwampeer said: