I am expected, as a man to surrender my life to save others.
As a man i am expected to bear the brunt of responsibility for everything that can be defaulted for me.
As a man I can be forced to pay child support if i date a single mother for 6 months even if i was not introduced or informed about the child
The foreskin actually matters, no seriously.
Femacide is a thing while as a man i am likely the largest target for murder and physical violence
The battered woman defense, as displayed here on this channel
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVRQqUgDRBevsDGOeE1DL3A
I have had few actually male role models in my life until highschool and i think id be fucked up if i did not have those positive male figures.
I will be called a white fat neckbeard, 1 1/2 out of 3 anyway but the point remains.
Terms for consent are weird
naturally men end up with worse prison sentences
men are misrepresented in domestic violence, It's almost even in split.
False rape charges is a potential problem now more then ever.
I am more likely to be homeless
People keep telling me that sensitivity is the right why, while as an emotional man I prefer to work that out inside myself, t feels better and people can become irritated with that.
misogyny's definition has been forgotten and is used as a silencer, see tumblr for examples of this, It's like nazi turning into a mythical daemon and does not question why a person is distrustful of women.
on personal levels i had to battle with self hatred for my maleness for years, having been raised in an abusive household.
I valued neither my self or my sex as valuable and silently hated myself.
As for gender, the modern, post atomic family rendering has been negative, thusly the brute has overtaken the man and It's hard to explain to people that manhood is more then unthinking violence or social ignominy.
as a foot note the reason why i placed so many global talking points is I myself have not payed much attention to my sex nor my treatment because of it.
I am not necessarily here to complain about my personal oppression, I pretty damn close to ASD (literally i can't believe it's not aspbergers) and that's likely caused be more problems the gangly bits handing off of my pelvis but as it stand you have to play the hand you are dealt, either get busy dieing or get krackin'.
erttheking said:
*Sigh* You know there's kind of a generally "accepted" mindset of what a man should be in society, at least in the united states. We're supposed to be tough, we're supposed to be crude, we're not supposed to get upset at anything, we're supposed to play sports and we don't do "girly" shit, because obviously we're gay if we do. Every single fucking day people ask me "do you play basketball" because I'm tall. And then I tell them I prefer to write and they act like I just told them the sky was purple. And I have to bite back telling them to go fuck themselves because I am tired of being asked that. No I don't play basketball, in fact I hate basketball with a burning passion. I find writing stories to be a much more productive way to spend my time. But I'm tall and a guy, so therefore I must want to play basketball because it's hardwired into my DNA, at least according to the cunts I talk to. It's very telling that I can look at another tall man, say "So how often do you get asked it?" and he knows exactly what I'm talking about.
But it doesn't stop there. Gym in high school was a bit of a miserable experience for me. Because there was a non-competitive side and a competitive side. All of the guys were on the competitive side, with the exception of me and about three others who were with all of the girls on the non-competitive side. I hated sports but I didn't want people to think I was a wimp so I stuck with the competitive side, until the teacher saw how underpinning I was (I was pathetic) and told me to go to the non-competitive side. I never exactly got made fun of for it, but I always did feel insecure about it. Something about the way society saw men made me feel ashamed for not being on the tough manly side of things, and it made gym a miserable experience. There's also how I thought 90% of the guys at school were all douche bags and had been conditioned to think that acting that way was acceptable, but that's a whole other can of worms.
That's not even getting into the fact that I suffer from bouts of depression at times and how society deals with men who feel sad a lot. They get called pussies. Thankfully I lucked out on that end with a pharmacist for a mother and an understanding family. We live in MA too, which is a bit more progressive than the rest of the states, so I wasn't just told to take it like a man in suck it up. If I had been born somewhere else though...I don't want to think about it.
So. Other guys out there, what bullshit have you had to put up with because of your gender? And ladies, any that you have noticed?
If i could go through as a check list, don't worry, under no circumstance is that the description of man, i suggest man for all seasons Saint Thomas Moore is a good example of a true man.
Being tall people assume you would be better at it, we have persona identification for a reason, walking up t oa person with no understand of what they are translates to death in the wild, being able to see patterns is hwy were are what we are, sad but true.
Perhaps in America gym-rats are jerks but up here they are not bad, i took two weightlifting courses in my day and they were definitely better then gym. You have free rein and the competition you find is one you make. Those gym rats tend to give you a bit of a hand if you don't go out of your way to be a dick and you get to see a different side of them, they can be pretty cool, or stoned 24/7.
Girly is undesirable in a man, It's simple, just don't be girly. instead be yourself in every aspect and accept it all.
(even then if you have the stereotypical male tendency to want to fix/provide solutions to things (part of the reason why I'm responding to you) then you should be fine).
Watch the edge man.
Aren't we all gamers/nerds here, I can personally recite the rules to 40k and my army-list by heart. ask me to describe any sport and I'm goign to fumble, hard. ask me to play, see above. Not to say we don't have athletes, just saying the choir doesn't need a preacher man.
I'd have to ask you about your symptoms of depression, i myself may be and have been suffering from Dysthymia, as i await a full examination i hoped to ask you about your experiences as to it and to the severity of it if you ware willing to share.
Also suck it up is a good phrase, pragmatic in the simple working class way but important none the less. You need to be strong in this world three's a reason we say that. Take it as a perceived act of mercy, when zen teachers would smack students over the head with bamboo it was see as an ack of mercy as well, a painful cleaving of vanity or failure.
There is a reason sin is sin, it carries a consequence. And all the beautiful monsters and beasts that terrorize you in both the human skin and the cloak of mind, all of them are bread from you, they are your blood and bone. Love them, hold them in high regard if you can and best them. and the best way to do it is to take a deep breath, spit out that blood pooling in your throat and charge.
Man
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