As a guy, my mental and emotional well-being is pretty much worthless to a lot of people. I've struggled with depression for a fair time. I get suicidal, that kind of thing. It's not something I particularly talk about, but, I guess it's relevent to this.
But, anyway.
A few years back in college, during one of my swings, I simply didn't feel capable of doing the work that week. It was something minor and trivial, a small piece of research that wasn't even graded.
The tutor questioned me about it, and in private I expressed that due to personal reasons I hadn't done the work, it'd be a little late and I didn't really want to go into it.
He basically said "Riigghhtt" and stared at me as if I was simple.
Not very pleasant. This tutor was also frequently questioning the women in the group often about "Are you okay?" and usually spent a fairly larger chunk of time on individual tuition with them than the male members. Often excusing female members of the group from entire sessions if they complained about not feeling up to something. Eventually a couple of them cottoned on and gamed it all year. Eventually calling him out on it at the end. Which was rather amusing.
I believe he cited his reasoning for acting in such a way as something to do with "The time of the month". Which just seemed insulting for both genders.
As for me? Well, he branded me as lazy based on our limited interaction and despite getting distinctions and merits in my areas of study, I was constantly berated for "underachievement" whilst other tutors sang my praises. However, as the head of the course, he had the final say. I do wonder if the event affected my grade particularly.
Fast forward a few years, and I'm in University.
Similar situation. However, this is spread to the entire group. The class is 60% Male, 40% female. Tutor spends 90% of the class time talking to the female members of the group and providing them feedback.
Basically, he'd go around everyone in class and look at their projects and provide feedback. Males were basically "What are you working on?" followed by "Oh, okay". Females got an awful lot more time, more allowances with things and there was an incredible noticeable bias towards them. To the extent basically the entire class were complaining about it and the female members of the group felt they were unfairly praised and thus not learning appropriately.
He'd call out male groups for not making female characters, yet would never mention to female groups for having an all-female cast. Pretty much always negative about things, he wasn't a particularly pleasant person to be around if you were a guy.
He'd cite the achievements of the female members of the group as his reasoning for spending time with them, however, given he'd spent half the year in this setup, it's not terribly surprising to find that people who get the most amount of the tutor's time do well.
As far as I'm aware, nothing came of it, despite a large section of the class lodging a formal complaint.
My family is pretty indifferent towards my mental well-being. I've tried to explain and ask for help, but, despite my parents doting on my sister in her times of depression, I've basically been ignored with it. My worth is more one of monetary and educational achievements than any form of happiness to them.
Not that I mean to sound overly morose, I've had some good times too. And despite the disadvantages of my gender in both instances, I've emerged with degrees and diplomas.
So, yeah, I guess I've had my fair share of this kind of thing. I don't "Blame" women for any of these things or anything nonsensical like that. And I imagine those not particularly fond of me believe my opinions to be "Getting revenge" after reading this.
Frankly, I've always maintained that there are issues on either side. I maintain that people should really just stop being shitty to one another. Accusing people of being things they aren't, decrying opposing political beliefs as stupidity, harassing people in any form. It's all wrong to me.
But, anyway. I think that's probably enough of my depressed ramblings.