Proposals

[PedroSteckecilo]

Alright Escapist, I'm placing my trust in you, you're the only one I know who won't spill this...

I'm planning to propose to my girlfriend, we've been together for 5 years and I've flubbed many an opportunity. She knows it's coming, she'll say yes, but for all that matters she deserves a decent romantic proposal!

Only problem is I'm not very romantic... so the question I pose is this...

How in the living hell do I go about this?

Married Escapists...anyone...advice? stories? anything?

I'm pretty lost here.

 

[stompy]

First of all, good luck, whatever way you choose to do it. As for some actual advice... well, perhaps you could ask her while partaking in an activity she really likes (no, not that...)

Best wishes.

Edit: I'm not married, so ya know... probably not the best advice out there...

 

[ellimist337]

Good luck and congrats in advance. Sometimes the best approach is the simplest. Take her to dinner or out somewhere with just the two of you, get on one knee, and give it a shot. Then again, I'm no expert.

 

[Erana]

Hrm... Do you have any particular plans for where you are doing it?
Don't do like my father and do it so suddenly, she doesn't realise what's happening.
I like the idea of setting the mood through a romantic dinner, but I'm not much for putting the ring in food. After you set the mood, you want to come to a very comfortable place, and have a deep, heart-to-heart conversation, so she knows you're the right person. You don't need to get down on one knee, if you're sitting or something, just place it in her hand.
Then pop it! like its hot
That's my ideal proposal, at least.
Is there anywhere romantic around there that you could go after a meal that won't be too cold? Or are you in a warm place?

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Do it in a nice restaurant. Nothing says I love you like letting the whole world know it too =D

Or you could dedicate an entire day to her (not like you aren't doing that already) and have a romantic setting at your house, candles, relaxing music, and all of that good stuff. Then when the moment is right, pop the question.

 

[Blind0bserver]

Well, before I can give you any real advice I'd have to come up with some kind of elaborate plan. So first, a few questions:

1) Where do you guys live?
2) What are her interests? What does she like?
3) What are your talents that you could make use of to do something impressive and romantic?

With any luck while your thinking about answers to those three you might just think of something incredibly brilliant yourself. If not, coming back to me with some "logistics" is Plan B.

~Van

 

[TheBluesader]

And why, after five years of her knowing it's coming, can't she propose to YOU?! What century is this?! Can I get an amen, brethren?

(Note: If you couldn't tell, I am not married and have absolutely no chances of getting married any time soon. But good luck to you both.)

 

[kdragon1010]

Go ahead and make it as public as possible, do the whole getting on one knee thing and make sure you get the attention of as many people as possible beforehand.

Four years later and whenever I remind my wife of how I proposed she's the one that gets on her knees...

 

[RufusMcLaser]

Asking for advice on the internet... A potential minefield.
Still- good luck. At least you didn't ask 4chan.
The perfect proposal will depend greatly on the woman. I think mine wanted to be proposed to in Paris. Well, I couldn't afford that. But that's the sort of sappy thing most women love.

 

[PedroSteckecilo]

I'm the only person my age I know in real life who's far enough along in a relationship to be considering marraige! I have nowhere else to turn! The Internet was/is my only salvation!

Something nice and outdoors is out of the question at the moment...

http://www.theweathernetwork.com/weather/caab0049

... and interests... well plenty, but we're often with friends when we're not just watching movies or playing videogames etc.

As for proposing at her favorite restaurant... that's a little cliche'd and she'd probably laugh at me.

 

[The Great Fa]

Congratulations, sir, in advance.

You should just, I don't know, put the box in her sock or something. Somewhere she can't fail to notice it, then when she sees it...POW! Ask her to marry you!

This cannot fail.

 

[Erana]

I'm the only person my age I know in real life who's far enough along in a relationship to be considering marraige! I have nowhere else to turn! The Internet was/is my only salvation!

Something nice and outdoors is out of the question at the moment...

http://www.theweathernetwork.com/weather/caab0049

... and interests... well plenty, but we're often with friends when we're not just watching movies or playing videogames etc.

As for proposing at her favorite restaurant... that's a little cliche'd and she'd probably laugh at me.

No, no. They just set the mood. You actually purpose elsewhere.
But still, you have to retain some, "Prince charming," in however you do it...

Oh, God, my inner priss is showing. She's almost as bad as my inner fangirl.

 

[PedroSteckecilo]

And why, after five years of her knowing it's coming, can't she propose to YOU?! What century is this?! Can I get an amen, brethren?

(Note: If you couldn't tell, I am not married and have absolutely no chances of getting married any time soon. But good luck to you both.)

As she puts it...

"I dragged you into dating me and living with me, you at least owe me a proposal."

 

[rottenbutter]

Congrats.

I'm probably the wrong person you should take advise from, but I say, go as cheesey and over-the-top as possible and make it something really memorable.

But, then again, you probably shouldn't listen to me.

 

[Blind0bserver]

As she puts it...

"I dragged you into dating me and living with me, you at least owe me a proposal."

Perfect! You just helped me come up with the line you'll say when you propose. After an evening out generally having fun you nonchalantly say "You know, I think I owe you something." After she says the expected "what?" or something similar you pull out the box with the ring and say "This." After that of course you ask her. The more she says that line, the better this will work.

 

[TheBluesader]

As she puts it...

"I dragged you into dating me and living with me, you at least owe me a proposal."

Oh. Well, with logic like that...

Sounds like a fine basis for a lifelong relationship.

(Obviously, I'm assuming she's joking. She's joking, right?)

 

[x434343]

And why, after five years of her knowing it's coming, can't she propose to YOU?! What century is this?! Can I get an amen, brethren?

(Note: If you couldn't tell, I am not married and have absolutely no chances of getting married any time soon. But good luck to you both.)

As she puts it...

"I dragged you into dating me and living with me, you at least owe me a proposal."

Spin this on her. "I've been you're boyfriend for 5 years, the least you could do is marry me, honey." Procure ring. She shall be happy. Unless... IT'S TOO CASUAL

 

[PedroSteckecilo]

As she puts it...

"I dragged you into dating me and living with me, you at least owe me a proposal."

Oh. Well, with logic like that...

Sounds like a fine basis for a lifelong relationship.

(Obviously, I'm assuming she's joking. She's joking, right?)

Yes, it's sort of a joke. But the onus for marriage is on me... the part that makes it scary is her consistently discerning and judgmental family staring at me in expectation at every family get together...

it's off putting.

 

[TheBluesader]

Yes, it's sort of a joke. But the onus for marriage is on me... the part that makes it scary is her consistently discerning and judgmental family staring at me in expectation at every family get together...

it's off putting.

Ugh. Maybe it's not the same thing, but I know the feeling. I'm the only full-genetic grandson on my dad's side of the family, and the oldest male grandson on my mother's side. At 26 and with no relationship ever lasting more than a couple of months, they're starting to ask questions that are none of their business with no sense of why they shouldn't. It's gotten so bad I'm avoiding certain family functions, which really only makes it worse.

I applaud your maturity, friend. Applaud, envy, and FEAR it.

 

[Souplex]

Get a helicopter, fly over somewhere you both hate and watch as words will you marry me are spelled out in explosions underneath. When she looks in your direction after seeing this spectacular sight she will notice you are kneeling holding a rather nice cubic zirconium ring. Her: You couldn't get a real diamond you jerk? You: It is scientifically made to be a perfect diamond! Science makes it real! Her: That is just an excuse for being cheap. She will then proceed to push you out of the helicopter. That is the part that really hurts.