Proposals

[Galletea]

One more very important thing. Don't embarrass her. Do it someplace secluded so it will be special, don't announce it to the world. It will be far better in the long run. Spectacular proposals may be good for the spectator, but it isn't so nice for the proposee.

 

[PedroSteckecilo]

Well if she likes silver and not diamonds, it all depends on your budget. Bear in mind an engagement ring has to be long wearing, so silver is not a good idea. It is too soft, while gold is cool, but it the colour isn't quite the same and it will need re plating with rhodium every so often. So unfortunately that leaves platinum, the strongest, shinyest bestest and priceyest of all metal. There is also palladium, for wedding rings, it's almost the same, but not as rare, so it is cheaper. However there are not many palladium rings with stones in yet, as it is as hard to work with as platinum.
Stones wise, go for one of the big ones, emerald sapphire, ruby maybe, or tanzanite, which is easily one of the pretties stones around.

Next be aware of settings, if you go for gold, make sure it isn't tension set, or the stone will eventually fall out. Claws are best, make sure they are not to pronounced or she'll catch them on things.

That's about it for the ring, but it's important. (My mother is a jeweller so I know plenty about the shiny things. )

Thanks for that info, I didn't know all that about jewelry. I probably can't afford platinum easily, and she requested that I not over spend on the ring (again we have a "No Double Talk" rule, basically if its important, say what you mean, don't lie and get mad later, it's worked pretty well so far).

The problem is she needs any metal to be Pure, since she has some metal allergies. She usually just wears silver, not gold, because of the high percentage of base metals included in most gold products.

 

[Galletea]

Thanks for that info, I didn't know all that about jewelry. I probably can't afford platinum easily, and she requested that I not over spend on the ring (again we have a "No Double Talk" rule, basically if its important, say what you mean, don't lie and get mad later, it's worked pretty well so far).

The problem is she needs any metal to be Pure, since she has some metal allergies. She usually just wears silver, not gold, because of the high percentage of base metals included in most gold products.

Well then, what I would suggest is going for silver at this point in time, and then maybe upgrading it in a couple of years. The main problem with silver is it is very soft, and therefore if you have stones, they may fall out after a while and then you're paying for maintenance because you don't want to just get a new one, as it is a special ring.

 

[pffh]

oooh I can answer that one. First sneak out early and place a single rose on her car (somewhere where she can see it and it won't be blown away), if she doesn't have a car place it indoors somewhere she sees it right before she leaves for work.

Now you want to have secured the help of a work friend of hers and have said friend arrive before she does and sneak another rose on your girls desk (or any other handy spot). Place another 4 roses here and there throughout her day so she will always get one ca about every couple of hours.

When she comes home she should have 6 roses. Have a romantic dinner prepared (and don´t forget to put a vase on the table for the roses). After the dinner move to the couch and have a heart-to-heart conversation and propose.

After the dinner you can also move to some romantic spot that has a meaning to both of you and if you live where it's warm a romantic picnic dinner would also be acceptable me thinks.

 

[Myan]

I'm the only person my age I know in real life who's far enough along in a relationship to be considering marraige! I have nowhere else to turn! The Internet was/is my only salvation!

Something nice and outdoors is out of the question at the moment...

http://www.theweathernetwork.com/weather/caab0049

... and interests... well plenty, but we're often with friends when we're not just watching movies or playing videogames etc.

As for proposing at her favorite restaurant... that's a little cliche'd and she'd probably laugh at me.

Someone suggested this above, but I was proposed to on New Year's Eve (a little late for that I know)in front of ALL of our friends. There were a few people in on it and there was a video camera involved so our families could see it later. We were together for 9 (!) years by then so coming up with something romantic was tough. Also, if you haven't already, ask her father. Even if you know her parents love you, ask anyway. This old fashioned ritual made my father cry. Anyhow, it was special because it was shared with our closest friends.

 

[PedroSteckecilo]

I'm the only person my age I know in real life who's far enough along in a relationship to be considering marraige! I have nowhere else to turn! The Internet was/is my only salvation!

Something nice and outdoors is out of the question at the moment...

http://www.theweathernetwork.com/weather/caab0049

... and interests... well plenty, but we're often with friends when we're not just watching movies or playing videogames etc.

As for proposing at her favorite restaurant... that's a little cliche'd and she'd probably laugh at me.

Someone suggested this above, but I was proposed to on New Year's Eve (a little late for that I know)in front of ALL of our friends. There were a few people in on it and there was a video camera involved so our families could see it later. We were together for 9 (!) years by then so coming up with something romantic was tough. Also, if you haven't already, ask her father. Even if you know her parents love you, ask anyway. This old fashioned ritual made my father cry. Anyhow, it was special because it was shared with our closest friends.

We're mainly doing this (marraige) for her family, so maybe positioning a video camera isn't a bad idea...

On the subject of asking her father... hmmm... that's not something I considered. It's a little old fashioned and I would have no idea how to go about it. I'd be too worried I'd crack up in the middle of it because of the overbearing seriousness of it all. I'm not a very "serious" person.

 

[BallPtPenTheif]

Only problem is I'm not very romantic... so the question I pose is this...

How in the living hell do I go about this?

Basically, you have to do something really cheesy and committ to it without any sense of irony.

I hate getting my wife flowers because it's so easy, cliched, and takes very little thought and she isn't a typical romantic type either... but I'll be damned if she doesn't love the flowers everytime.

So yeah, committ to something 100% cornball and she'll probably love it. Personally though, if I were to put time into any kind of extravagant plan it would be more like a verbose prank that ends with the proposal.

 

[Myan]

I'm the only person my age I know in real life who's far enough along in a relationship to be considering marraige! I have nowhere else to turn! The Internet was/is my only salvation!

Something nice and outdoors is out of the question at the moment...

http://www.theweathernetwork.com/weather/caab0049

... and interests... well plenty, but we're often with friends when we're not just watching movies or playing videogames etc.

As for proposing at her favorite restaurant... that's a little cliche'd and she'd probably laugh at me.

Someone suggested this above, but I was proposed to on New Year's Eve (a little late for that I know)in front of ALL of our friends. There were a few people in on it and there was a video camera involved so our families could see it later. We were together for 9 (!) years by then so coming up with something romantic was tough. Also, if you haven't already, ask her father. Even if you know her parents love you, ask anyway. This old fashioned ritual made my father cry. Anyhow, it was special because it was shared with our closest friends.

We're mainly doing this (marraige) for her family, so maybe positioning a video camera isn't a bad idea...

On the subject of asking her father... hmmm... that's not something I considered. It's a little old fashioned and I would have no idea how to go about it. I'd be too worried I'd crack up in the middle of it because of the overbearing seriousness of it all. I'm not a very "serious" person.

Ask her father anyway, trust me on this And, by the way, even after 9 years of being together I WAS surprised and VERY emotional. These are not normal emotions for me.

Good luck!

 

[preachersaul]

Make it honest. Make it yours.

 

[Sparkly-elf]

Going for the simplest thing if often the best.

Bring her out to a fancy restaurant (preferably, show up to her door with flowers), when you're finished eating, take her hand and tell her how much she means to you (basically, explain why you want her to marry you) and how perfect you are together, and then ask her, quietly, romantic and sweet.

Gestures like this are sure fire ways to do things. If you keep it simple and sweet, it's often much more romantic.

Good luck, I hope you have a happy life with her! :3

 

[Baby Tea]

On the subject of asking her father... hmmm... that's not something I considered. It's a little old fashioned and I would have no idea how to go about it. I'd be too worried I'd crack up in the middle of it because of the overbearing seriousness of it all. I'm not a very "serious" person.

Ask her father anyway, trust me on this.

Seconded. It's not about tradition, it's about respect.

 

[Evilbunny]

Go to a Chinese restaurant, and ask them to put a little slip of paper that says will you marry me?" in her fortune cookie. I saw it in a movie once, hopefully she hasn't seen it.