Psst he is in the friend zone

[hazabaza1]

Pro-tip buddy, the friend zone doesn't exist.
The reason a girl won't date a guy is because of the same reasons a guy won't date a girl. You're either too much of something, or too little of something.
And don't give me that bullshit about "B-b-b-but I respect teh wimmuns and onleh look for personalities!" because you don't.

 

[Yopaz]

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I'm just saying there's plenty of guys trying to be nice and getting a date but not succeeding, they get rejected, fine.
But when a girl then confides with them that she can't find any nice guys to go out with it's like she's rubbing it in that they will never date.
Just saying that when they stop complaining that there isn't any nice guys, friendzoned peeps will get over their rejection quicker.

Yeah, but should anyone settle with someone they don't really like because they have ONE quality they like? Let's say you are a nice guy. A girl doesn't find you attractive, she doesn't share your interests, but she wants a nice guy so she settles with you. This makes neither of you happy. She is in a relationship with a person she's not attracted to and you're in a relationship with her only because you she's given up.

She's not in love so your love wont be returned. Sounds like a dream situation to you?

 

[Elementary - Dear Watson]

Wooo... generalisation and stereotyping!

The 'freindzone' is a term created by spinless gubbins who lack the balls to ask a girl out... they beleive that just being nice to a girl 24/7 grants instant access into her panties...

In reality these guys are actually just being creeps, hounding girls all the time, and constantly being there, whether they are wanted or not! A genuine nice guy wouldn't jump on the internet asking strangers why a girl won't fuck him, even though that one time he held her bag while she tried on shoes...

Way to get out of the 'freind zone', ask the girl out, if she says yes... bargain, is she says no... face it, she doesn't like you like that and you shoild move on...

 

[Vegosiux]

Yeah, but should anyone settle with someone they don't really like because they have ONE quality they like?

Of course not. But if they express their frustration in a way that makes said quality more important than the rest, then things can get hairy. I mean, "Where are all the nice guys?" sounds like "nice guy" is of paramount importance, while the girl usually means "Why can't my man be nicer?"

It's just that people really need to communicate better. It's not a "friendzone" problem, it's a problem of saying something dubious that doesn't necessarily get your point across clearly.

 

[Vault101]

Damn man you seem severely against the whole concept of the friendzone.
What I'm saying, is that the friendzone exists because girls continuously say how there are no good guys out there when the people who do meet all their specifications are ignored.
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so what your saying its ENTIRLY a products of the girls...and not say....guys who instead of asking the girl they like out, they pretend to"be her freind" under the Idea that she somhow is obligated to share those feelings, or that he has "earned" her affections

oh and if a girl is going out with "as asshole"..

1. she probably doesnt know he's an asshole
2. she sees somthing in him you don't
3. he actually isnt an asshole thats just how your seeing him
4. he's hot and can fuck like a machine

 

[Doclector]

Even I'm getting fed up of the friendzone talk now, and I'm a forever alone virgin, lvl 99. Seriously, I can even cast the "b***** please" spell any time people have relationship troubles. Not that I do...If I don't hate the person involved, that is. I've got a hangover and one hell of a cynic drive, so you went to the wrong dragon burial site, mister. This is going to be "fun".

A girl likes you as a friend, she likes you as more, or she f***ing hates you. You have no right to any of those states, nobody does. As unfair as it may seem, it is possible for no girl to ever like you like that, trust me. Some people just aren't born right, some people are barely born human. If you were, you may as well give up. C'mon. Would any girl who would willingly date somebody who can barely act human, and certainly doesn't look like a normal human? Somebody who's effectively wrong?

You can say I know nothing about how "people" work and you'd be part right, I don't understand normal people, they seem more crazy than the crazy people, I'll get about three hundred responses from people saying I should jump off a cliff because I'm a terrible person for having such an AWWFUL OPINYUN OF HOOMANZ and I'm AN EMMMO AAAND I SHUD GO BAK TO CUTTING MY WRISTS, WAAAAAAA WAAAAAA WAAAAA! But I've been watching for a long time. Most of my life, in fact. Most people who are in relationships are attractive. Abominations are alone. So, feel free to disagree, but quite frankly I've yet to see a shred of evidence that more than a few people aren't shallow.

 

[nuba km]

Spoiler: WHAT IF I TOLD YOU

Personally, I feel it is bullshit. It's a made up term for a made up place.

well the flaw with that is many guys who are in the friend zone are the type of guys who care about a relationship more then sex.

I see the situation of the friend zone like this, someone complains about not having ice cream, now their is ice cream in their fridge but it ain't the right type of ice cream. So what they do is eat a packed of crisps and then later say about how it didn't match up to ice cream. Now it would have been better for them to eat the other ice cream as vanilla ice cream is a lot closer to straw berry ice cream then salt and vinger crisps.

 

[Keoul]

so what your saying its ENTIRLY a products of the girls...and not say....guys who instead of asking the girl they like out, they pretend to"be her freind" under the Idea that she somhow is obligated to share those feelings, or that he has "earned" her affections

oh and if a girl is going out with "as asshole"..

1. she probably doesnt know he's an asshole
2. she sees somthing in him you don't
3. he actually isnt an asshole thats just how your seeing him
4. he's hot and can fuck like a machine

Ehhh well the girls are the ones rejecting, if the laws of society was revered I'd bet the girls would blame guys for being friend zoned.
Reason 4 was hilarious by the way XD
-cough- anyway. I was under the impression that you're suppose to befriend someone before getting in a relationship not straight away go on a date and start boning.
And these asshole boyfriends would be fine if their relationships lasted, they don't and the girl complains as if every guy is like them.

 

[tobi the good boy]

Spoiler: WHAT IF I TOLD YOU

Personally, I feel it is bullshit. It's a made up term for a made up place.

See, from my experience (not first hand but having to listen to people go through the stuff) they're not looking for sex, but romance. Also, isn't the friendzone after the guy asks the girl out and she gives him the "I just want to be friends" line? At which point I honestly see no reason why the man should have to stay friends, he was trying to pursue a romantic relationship with that intention being the foremost meaning chances are it only ends up being a relationship beneficial for one party. Some guys lose contact with their ex's because they can't provide on a romantic level. I see choosing to not be in the frienzone as being the same situation.

 

[Keoul]

Yeah, but should anyone settle with someone they don't really like because they have ONE quality they like? Let's say you are a nice guy. A girl doesn't find you attractive, she doesn't share your interests, but she wants a nice guy so she settles with you. This makes neither of you happy. She is in a relationship with a person she's not attracted to and you're in a relationship with her only because you she's given up.

She's not in love so your love wont be returned. Sounds like a dream situation to you?

You're right, a relationship like that shouldn't happen and if it did and lasted long enough, we get divorce.

I'm not saying girls have an obligation to go out with every "nice" guy the meet, just that they gotta stop complaining they can't find a single one and any person that is nice and interested is just seen as a best friend. Basically if they don't want guys complaining about friendzone they gotta stop complaining about guys and move on.

 

[Vault101]

Ehhh well the girls are the ones rejecting, if the laws of society was revered I'd bet the girls would blame guys for being friend zoned.
Reason 4 was hilarious by the way XD
-cough- anyway. I was under the impression that you're suppose to befriend someone before getting in a relationship not straight away go on a date and start boning.
And these asshole boyfriends would be fine if their relationships lasted, they don't and the girl complains as if every guy is like them.

the thing is.....the way thease things work seems like theres no "set" rule.......

I mean I guess its different for different people

my problem is with the Idea that all of this rests completly on the female end of things shoulders....which is bullshit.I feel like thats part of it, theease "nice" guys seem to blame women for their inability to get one

its not my fault if I'm freinds with a guy and it turns out "he really really wuvs me".....I don't HAVE to go out with him If I don't want to...who the fuck says I do?

 

[Keoul]

the thing is.....the way thease things work seems like theres no "set" rule.......

I mean I guess its different for different people

my problem is with the Idea that all of this rests completly on the female end of things shoulders....which is bullshit.I feel like thats part of it, theease "nice" guys seem to blame women for their inability to get one

its not my fault if I'm freinds with a guy and it turns out "he really really wuvs me".....I don't HAVE to go out with him If I don't want to...who the fuck says I do?

Noone says you have to go out with him
As long as you don't string him along or complain about other guys to him then you're fine. Guys have feelings too, the sooner he knows you're not interested the sooner he can get over it.

Lifes tough we're all charging in and hoping for the best -.-

 

[Keoul]

While I do have to say complaining to someone who had a crush on you about not being able to find a guy is kind of poor taste, it still doesn't really justify the odd views these 'friend zoned' people seem to have that others call them out on.

They're emotional wrecks who have been dumped by the girl they love who keeps coming back to them, making them even more confused.
Emotional people do stupid things.
It doesn't justify their actions but there you go :L

 

[ReadyAmyFire]

I don't want a 'nice' guy. Aside from the fact most of them are chivalrous perverts (I catch my platonic male friends staring where they shouldn't as much as any sleazy chap in a bar). But anyone in my friendzone is there because:

a: I met them through university/school/another friend and it would be odd to think of them romantically.
b: They're unattractive.
c: They're unassertive and lack confidence, which I, like many I'm sure, find very attractive.

 

[Justank]

*eye twitch*

The friend zone does not exist, at least not in the way many guys think it does. To some guys, the friend zone is where the worthy guys are warehoused while women go out and go date the undeserving assholes. In reality, the "friend zone" is the unintentionally self-imposed unattractive status said man ends up giving himself when he confuses "acting friendly, nice, and good" and "acting like a puss" among other similarly unattractive behaviors while vainly believing he can some how convince her that she should suddenly be attracted to behaviors she's already deemed unattractive. It's their own damn fault for being in the "friend zone".

We have a winner right here, man up, ask her out, if she says no and you were only there for a relationship beyond friends, get over the rejection and bounce out. Stop stringing yourself along.

 

[Phasmal]

Spoiler: WHAT IF I TOLD YOU

Personally, I feel it is bullshit. It's a made up term for a made up place.

well the flaw with that is many guys who are in the friend zone are the type of guys who care about a relationship more then sex.

They're still being an asshole.

If a guy doesn't respect you enough to let you choose your own romantic partner without sticking around and bitching that you `friend-zoned` them, then they do not like/love you. They just want to `have` you, and are going to throw a hissy fit if they can't.

The `friend-zone` is just a place dudes made up so they wouldn't have to face rejection.

Noone says you have to go out with him
As long as you don't string him along or complain about other guys to him then you're fine. Guys have feelings too, the sooner he knows you're not interested the sooner he can get over it.

If you have a friend who you cannot talk about other dudes around, he is not your friend. He is a sore loser. Sadly, I had to lose a friend like this, so it really irritates me.
You do not have a right to sulk around if your friend says she just wants to be your friend and then dates other dudes. If someone cannot handle seeing someone they wanted with someone else, they shouldnt be sticking around pretending to be a friend.

I hate this topic!!!

For god's sake. We ladies do not stick around labelling our friends. If you present yourself as a friend and get only friendship, what did you expect??! (`Oh, this dude is NICE! A decent human being!` Dunno about you dudes, but I aim higher than that).

 

[Vegosiux]

I don't want a 'nice' guy. Aside from the fact most of them are chivalrous perverts (I catch my platonic male friends staring where they shouldn't as much as any sleazy chap in a bar). But anyone in my friendzone is there because:

a: I met them through university/school/another friend and it would be odd to think of them romantically.
b: They're unattractive.
c: They're unassertive and lack confidence, which I, like many I'm sure, find very attractive.

A and B are clear-cut, but "confidence" is one of those things everyone has an own definition of. Also I wonder why you consider "nice" and "confident" to be mutually exclusive?

 

[OniaPL]

Well, if you are constantly getting friendzoned, take an alternate approach and the next time you are meeting a woman for the first time, rather than being friendly just be bold and say "Hey biatch, get your daily serving of big hard cock from me, free of charge!". Guaranteed to work. Trust me. Now go and do it.

Seriously though, where is this friendzone thing coming from? Sometimes it feels like some people think that being nice to women means they should give you some ass.

 

[Carbonyl]

So women why did y'all invent the friendzone? .

cause were evil bitches involved in a global feminist conspiracy

OBVIOUSLY

Don't tell them the evil plan! Geez!

We're supposed to be the subtler sex, right?

 

[Yopaz]

You're right, a relationship like that shouldn't happen and if it did and lasted long enough, we get divorce.

I'm not saying girls have an obligation to go out with every "nice" guy the meet, just that they gotta stop complaining they can't find a single one and any person that is nice and interested is just seen as a best friend. Basically if they don't want guys complaining about friendzone they gotta stop complaining about guys and move on.

Well you just hit the nail on the head there. Girls shouldn't be obligated togo out with nice guys they aren't attracted to, but that's also the whole deal with most of the guys who complains about the friend zone. They feel like girls should go out with them because they're nice or simply because "they're always there for her". The friend zone is just some bullshit guys who chase girls that aren't interested in them have come up with.

I also find your statement that girls should stop complaining about guys and move on hilarious. You said that in a thread about the friend zone. A subject which is mainly about guys who whine about their love life and wont move on and try to find someone who returns their feelings.