Question about dating...

[Jacco]

Yes, its another one of "this thread again" threads but no one ever goes to the advice forum and I am out of time! lol. I have basically tomorrow or wednesday to do this if I'm going to so I need quick advice.

Basically, what's the best way to ask a girl out that you kind of know?
There is this girl I've had a couple of classes with (I go to a university) and I kind of like her. The problem is that I've been wanting to ask her out all semester. She'll say hi to me when she sees me and smile, but I don't know if she's just being friendly or flirty.
Anyway, I don't really know how to go about asking her given that we kind of know each other (we don't hang out or anything) I don't know how to go about it in a way that would be appropriate or not too forward or anything. Should I just find her and ask her? Or should I do something else?
Any advice would be appreciated.

God, I'm 21 and feel like I'm in high school again. This is awful! lol

Hopefully I don't get in trouble for this...

 

[Biosophilogical]

I'm 21 and feel like I'm in high school again. This is awful!

Speak for yourself. I'm at university and I've never asked anyone out.

OT: To be honest, that's really all I have to say, as with my zero-quantity experience I'm not really qualified to comment. However, if someone were to ask me out, I'd personally prefer it if they just came out and said "I like you and I'd like to go on a date with you to see if we could work out. If you say no, or it doesn't work out, then I have my answer, in which case I'd like to remain friends, and hopefully we could just skip the awkward period."

I think being overly passionate or intense about it is more likely to freak them out and make everyone uncomfortable. Just be aware of the line between honesty and creepy-stalker-speech.

 

[Deef]

Yes, its another one of "this thread again" threads but no one ever goes to the advice forum and I am out of time! lol. I have basically tomorrow or wednesday to do this if I'm going to so I need quick advice.

Basically, what's the best way to ask a girl out that you kind of know?
There is this girl I've had a couple of classes with (I go to a university) and I kind of like her. The problem is that I've been wanting to ask her out all semester. She'll say hi to me when she sees me and smile, but I don't know if she's just being friendly or flirty.
Anyway, I don't really know how to go about asking her given that we kind of know each other (we don't hang out or anything) I don't know how to go about it in a way that would be appropriate or not too forward or anything. Should I just find her and ask her? Or should I do something else?
Any advice would be appreciated.

God, I'm 21 and feel like I'm in high school again. This is awful! lol

Hopefully I don't get in trouble for this...

Strike up a conversation, then at some point during ask if she wants to [insert date activity of choice] with you sometime. BAM!

But really, just be non-threatening. I'm sure you'll be fine.

 

[DragonChi]

Isn't one of the better ways to engage a date is to simply ask to go out for a drink? Instead of just full out asking to go out with the person straight up? which, to me, sounds way to forward. This is what I have come to understand anyway. Correct me if I'm wrong.

 

[Jacco]

Honestly, suck it up and ask her out just like that. It's quick, simple, straight forward and if she says no it won't be too big of a deal. Do it. Seriously.

PS: Confidence is key. For God's sake don't stammer or not look at her when you ask her. Even if you're nervous as fuck, at least LOOK like you know what you're doing.

Thats kind of what I figured I should do but I didn't know if it would be too forward or not.

 

[Mordekaien]

Simply go and ask her if she will go with you for a coffee or something. It's better to ask her out straight, as opposed to kind of stalk and sniff around her like a nervous dog.
If she says no, then it's not a big deal.

 

[Blue Hero]

Women are cryptic beasts. You need to be very subtle. Stroke her ears gently and ask her if she wants to go eat some spaghetti with you. Don't speak too fast or too loud. You might accidentally startle her.

 

[Kinarth]

Nothing says 'would you like to go out with me?' like a proposal.

 

[DiMono]

Strike up a conversation, make her laugh a little, then ask if she'd like to join you for [activity]. She's already saying hi to you, so you know she's willing to speak to you, just use that.

Honestly, the best "pickup" line I've ever used is "Hi."

 

[Section Crow]

rope and alcohol, that is all

 

[Bassik]

Wait till she wiggles her ears, raises her rump and moves her tail out of the way. Girls do this every 4 days or so. Also a few hours before they do this, they'll leave sweet-scented urine marks to warn you- and other males- that she wants teh secks.
But be quik, because you are not the only male around! Make sure you are the first one to have a go for maximum pregnancy.

 

[JesterRaiin]

She'll say hi to me when she sees me and smile, but I don't know if she's just being friendly or flirty.

"Flirty" ? We're talking about long shot here i guess. Remember : with girls it's almost always the third option. This one you can't see and comprehend.

OT : Stand proudly before here, and give your best Fus Ro Dah. You won't have to talk. Simply collect hell unconscious body and proceed to, you know... Being true Nord. Works like a charm.

But seriously.
Just do it. Don't think too much. Don't concentrate on thoughts like "damn, am i doing it wrong or what ?"
Be open. Simple "Hi, i was wondering, wouldn't you like to..." + "my treat". is a good start. Goodluck !

 

[Xixikal]

rope and alcohol, that is all

Chloroform and duct tape for me, sometimes I even have to use leather belts... I guess men are a lot stronger and the restraints require more reinforcements...

 

[gazumped]

Obviously I can't speak for all girls, but as a girl I'd say:

If she likes you already, she's not going to give much of a crap how you ask her out (so long as you don't, yehknow, punch her in the face or something while doing it). And if she doesn't like you already, the way you ask her out isn't going to make much of a difference to her feelings about you.

So just relax and do it. The only preparation is that you should probably think of somewhere to suggest you go to. You could ask if she'd like to go for coffee? dinner? a drink? and have a place in mind for whichever of the above she chooses. (This is me assuming you don't know her well enough to know which of the above she'd be most comfortable with on a first date.)

 

[Jacco]

Obviously I can't speak for all girls, but as a girl I'd say:

If she likes you already, she's not going to give much of a crap how you ask her out (so long as you don't, yehknow, punch her in the face or something while doing it). And if she doesn't like you already, the way you ask her out isn't going to make much of a difference to her feelings about you.

So just relax and do it. The only preparation is that you should probably think of somewhere to suggest you go to. You could ask if she'd like to go for coffee? dinner? a drink? and have a place in mind for whichever of the above she chooses. (This is me assuming you don't know her well enough to know which of the above she'd be most comfortable with on a first date.)

I know she is something of an artist and she is studying English. Beyond that, I don't know anything.

 

[manic_depressive13]

Just ask her if she wants to grab some coffee because coffe is what grown-ups drink. Say "Look, we're both adults, I think I should be able to ask you out without experiencing crippling embarrassment or fear of rejection", then punch her in the face to drive the point home.

 

[Kragg]

Wait till she wiggles her ears, raises her rump and moves her tail out of the way. Girls do this every 4 days or so. Also a few hours before they do this, they'll leave sweet-scented urine marks to warn you- and other males- that she wants teh secks.
But be quik, because you are not the only male around! Make sure you are the first one to have a go for maximum pregnancy.

someone has been spending too much time with his rats !

people have suggested alot of good stuff here, can add that you shouldnt overthink it that much, it's a girl, not some kind of alien. worst that can happen is that she says no, and if she does she will probably be nice about it. and might even keep saying hi and smiling, so what is there to lose? nothing, go for it

 

[Macgyvercas]

Snip

You: "Hey, you wanna go for coffee sometime?"

Simple as that. No need to complicate shit.