Alright, I'm trying to avoid making this too rambling, as I realize most people don't give a shit about my personal problems. It's just that the friends that I have (emotionally or physically -- in the sense that they are actually nearby) available are either busy or dealing with their own shit right now. I also realize this isn't a relationship forum, so if nobody responds to this, I understand completely.
For the first time in my life, I've met a girl who is interested in me romantically. Well, sort of...
She just got out of a long-term (like 3 to 4 years long) relationship. I have been single my entire life. We went on a (rather successful) first date. We basically acted like we were dating for about a week, then I received a text one morning explaining that we were moving too fast. I was willing to roll with that. However, as a couple weeks went by she started talking about how she didn't know me well enough, and eventually said some choice texts one late night (not insulting, just...foreboding) that implied this wasn't going to work out. So I asked her if she'd rather just remain friends for now. She said yes.
That's not the part I'm concerned about. She made it very clear that it wasn't my fault and that she just wanted to be "herself" for a while and be single (maybe date around and whatever). Again, no issues there. I've made it clear that even if she doesn't want to date, I'm still going to be there as a friend and person to talk to, yadayadayada.
What I'm asking is this: is it best for me to move on and try to find other people to date? Suffice it to say that I really REALLY care about this girl, and I believe she is worth the wait, but I'm not going to force her into a relationship if she doesn't want one. There's certain aspects of rapport that we need to work on (certain times she censors herself around me, for example), but otherwise we click too well for me to just let this go as easily as others might. I don't want this to turn into a pity party, but that week-ish was probably the happiest time of my life, and I want to somehow obtain that again.
So, sorry, rambling: Should I move on? Is being present as a friend a good idea if she needs to heal? Does anybody else have any similar stories/ situations that they would like to share?
EDIT: And am I just hardcore overthinking things?
For the first time in my life, I've met a girl who is interested in me romantically. Well, sort of...
She just got out of a long-term (like 3 to 4 years long) relationship. I have been single my entire life. We went on a (rather successful) first date. We basically acted like we were dating for about a week, then I received a text one morning explaining that we were moving too fast. I was willing to roll with that. However, as a couple weeks went by she started talking about how she didn't know me well enough, and eventually said some choice texts one late night (not insulting, just...foreboding) that implied this wasn't going to work out. So I asked her if she'd rather just remain friends for now. She said yes.
That's not the part I'm concerned about. She made it very clear that it wasn't my fault and that she just wanted to be "herself" for a while and be single (maybe date around and whatever). Again, no issues there. I've made it clear that even if she doesn't want to date, I'm still going to be there as a friend and person to talk to, yadayadayada.
What I'm asking is this: is it best for me to move on and try to find other people to date? Suffice it to say that I really REALLY care about this girl, and I believe she is worth the wait, but I'm not going to force her into a relationship if she doesn't want one. There's certain aspects of rapport that we need to work on (certain times she censors herself around me, for example), but otherwise we click too well for me to just let this go as easily as others might. I don't want this to turn into a pity party, but that week-ish was probably the happiest time of my life, and I want to somehow obtain that again.
So, sorry, rambling: Should I move on? Is being present as a friend a good idea if she needs to heal? Does anybody else have any similar stories/ situations that they would like to share?
EDIT: And am I just hardcore overthinking things?