Spaloooooka said:
What could have been said to make you feel not gross?
I'll do even better, I'll tell you what
has been said that made me feel not gross.
'I love your pretty pink face!' (Made me feel better about my ruddy complexion.)
'That's a cute bush!' (Made me feel better about having a hairy downstairs.)
'You don't understand how much I appreciate small breasts.' (Made me feel better about having a small rack.)
'I like your fleshy bits!' (Made me feel better about having wobbly bits.)
I could go on, but basically, for me, it's when someone doesn't try to pretend that you don't have whatever it is you're self conscious about it, it's when they go 'Yes, you do have , and I LIKE IT.'