You seem to be having a problem with Hollywood for pushing the narrative of the goodness of marriage but that's just part of a society-wide push for things that help society. It?s not just normal for Hollywood to push for marriage as winning in the end, it?s _normative_.
Societies _want_ to encourage marriage because, like capitalism, it fucking works bitches. The standard monogamous marriage is simply put the best system for making stable kids to grow up to be the next generation of society. Sure, you can get individual successes who weren't raised in that matrix, but in group terms not so much.
Google the statistics on married people vs non-married people (and their kids!) and there are tons of benefits besides the obvious ones.
"From the work of Linda Waite and Maggie Gallagher, The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially has become the go-to reference for information.
They argue that ?permanency? is the foundation for all the good things that result. Once people feel secure, they are free to develop themselves, as well as divide the responsibilities of daily living.
* The National Center for Health Statistics conducted a survey of 127,545 people. Results? ?Married people reported better overall health, less low back pain, fewer headaches and less stress than singles. They were also less likely to drink and smoke, and were more physically active.?
* In the money arena, married folks fare much better than their single counterparts. Two incomes, shared expenses, and the ability to provide healthcare at better rates are obvious. The National Institute on Aging found people (age 51-61) had twice as much money as Singles! Married men, in particular, seem to earn more, too. When combined with the higher education?and subsequent salaries?of married women, the economics of matrimony are hard to dispute. (Pew Research Center)
* Let?s talk about sex. Waite and Gallagher report that a University of Chicago National Sex Survey shows that marriage facilitates sexual activity: ?Sex is easier in marriage? it costs less time, money, and psychic energy. It?s easy to arrange and so compatible with the rest of their day to day life.? Waite found that married people had sex twice as often as singles. She also interpreted studies to say that married sex is more satisfying, but this finding is seen as subjective.
* Geez, even sleep is better! I was surprised to learn this?I?d expected restlessness and blanket battles to give Singles the edge in the slumber department. Not so, according to several studies, including the University of Arizona, and an eight-year study presented at the Associated Sleep Professional Societies meeting."
Also there are some dark sides to not being married like, women who are shacking up are four times as likely as wives to become victims of violence, and their children are 40 times as likely to be abused by live-in boyfriends as by their own parents.
The kids are 40 times more likely to be abused. Geeze, I don't know about you but that scares me.
Here's some notes I took on a good book on the subject;
http://mikesbooknotes.blogspot.com/2007/03/marriage-and-caste-in-america-separate.html
Oh, and as always, Cracked rocks;
http://www.cracked.com/article_17063_5-reasons-being-single-sucks-even-more-than-you-thought.html
So yea, you're never going to see tons of movies on how non-traditional relationships (from the hooking up culture to polyamory) are just great because while they can work for individuals they just don't work very well on a society-wise basis.
Hollywood shows happily in love monogamous couples for the same reason it shows in-shape fit attractive people: in their hearts that is what most people want to be.
Societies _want_ to encourage marriage because, like capitalism, it fucking works bitches. The standard monogamous marriage is simply put the best system for making stable kids to grow up to be the next generation of society. Sure, you can get individual successes who weren't raised in that matrix, but in group terms not so much.
Google the statistics on married people vs non-married people (and their kids!) and there are tons of benefits besides the obvious ones.
"From the work of Linda Waite and Maggie Gallagher, The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially has become the go-to reference for information.
They argue that ?permanency? is the foundation for all the good things that result. Once people feel secure, they are free to develop themselves, as well as divide the responsibilities of daily living.
* The National Center for Health Statistics conducted a survey of 127,545 people. Results? ?Married people reported better overall health, less low back pain, fewer headaches and less stress than singles. They were also less likely to drink and smoke, and were more physically active.?
* In the money arena, married folks fare much better than their single counterparts. Two incomes, shared expenses, and the ability to provide healthcare at better rates are obvious. The National Institute on Aging found people (age 51-61) had twice as much money as Singles! Married men, in particular, seem to earn more, too. When combined with the higher education?and subsequent salaries?of married women, the economics of matrimony are hard to dispute. (Pew Research Center)
* Let?s talk about sex. Waite and Gallagher report that a University of Chicago National Sex Survey shows that marriage facilitates sexual activity: ?Sex is easier in marriage? it costs less time, money, and psychic energy. It?s easy to arrange and so compatible with the rest of their day to day life.? Waite found that married people had sex twice as often as singles. She also interpreted studies to say that married sex is more satisfying, but this finding is seen as subjective.
* Geez, even sleep is better! I was surprised to learn this?I?d expected restlessness and blanket battles to give Singles the edge in the slumber department. Not so, according to several studies, including the University of Arizona, and an eight-year study presented at the Associated Sleep Professional Societies meeting."
Also there are some dark sides to not being married like, women who are shacking up are four times as likely as wives to become victims of violence, and their children are 40 times as likely to be abused by live-in boyfriends as by their own parents.
The kids are 40 times more likely to be abused. Geeze, I don't know about you but that scares me.
Here's some notes I took on a good book on the subject;
http://mikesbooknotes.blogspot.com/2007/03/marriage-and-caste-in-america-separate.html
Oh, and as always, Cracked rocks;
http://www.cracked.com/article_17063_5-reasons-being-single-sucks-even-more-than-you-thought.html
So yea, you're never going to see tons of movies on how non-traditional relationships (from the hooking up culture to polyamory) are just great because while they can work for individuals they just don't work very well on a society-wise basis.
Hollywood shows happily in love monogamous couples for the same reason it shows in-shape fit attractive people: in their hearts that is what most people want to be.